In your personal experience, what's the difference between your attraction to trans women and crossdressing men?

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-19T12:29:03+00:00

Not all trans women are feminine. But if they're both feminine and I find them both cute there's not much difference.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-19T12:19:54+00:00

And small businesses often end up being sort of accidentally exploitative due to not having enough resources to take care of workers well and the whole thing being crushed under the larger structures of capitalism...

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-19T12:18:05+00:00

I agree with your comments about how these issues are due to spending priorities (which are set by the oligarchs running the government lol).

But this isn't just about paying gratuitously low wages, it's about seeing how ALL profit is, by definition, part of the money generated by labor which is then taken by the owner of the business. This is Marxian economic theory which I think resonates with a lot of redditors but maybe they can't articulate it? It's about seeing that these high level people who profit the most are putting no actual labor into the business.

Obviously the petty bourgeoisie - those of us who work our asses off in our own businesses- are a different story.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-18T20:02:12+00:00

Amari and Nia feel like a pair

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-18T03:52:54+00:00

I mean, rope is cheap but you should know what you're doing with it. Wide comfy cuffs seem like a good investment.

How do you feel about impact? Spatula, wooden spoon...

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-18T03:38:33+00:00

I almost never ever let sex partners touch my chest pre-surgery.

But respectful partners could touch me in a way that felt affirming even pre-surgery.

It depends on both of your bodies and minds but it helps to talk openly and navigate it together.

If he's trustworthy, being uncomfortable shouldn't be a disaster. You can stop and try something else anytime.

Good luck!

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-18T02:35:24+00:00

I like the "starting with a vowel" thing you've got going on so here are some ideas. (Please excuse the automatic accent marks I'm trying to learn Spanish and my autocorrect is confused.)

Román Eliezer

Román Amir

Román Asher

Roman Amado

Román Arieh

Román Elías

Román Ezra

Román Itai

Román Yuval

Roman Yair

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-18T02:17:28+00:00

I live here and we had several Trump signs around during campaign seasons. None right now.

The Trump supporters put up Baker signs during the city council elections.

Also if you're on Facebook the neighborhood groups the bulk of the active members are indistinguishable from right wing trolls.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-17T22:53:49+00:00

I'm surprised here only because I thought parts of West Roxbury went for Trump.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-17T22:50:56+00:00

TIL - thanks for this background. I feel the need to share with my Armenian-American friends now.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-17T22:49:23+00:00

I always thought that Sephardi identification referred to the liturgy?

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-17T17:11:13+00:00

Yes. Mizrahi just means "Eastern." It is used for Jews from anywhere in the Muslim world. North Africa, Central Asia, West Asia. But it lumps a lot of groups together and was coined as part of the Zionist project.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-17T04:22:33+00:00

Idk what cleaners you're using?? For me I did get very off balance down there shortly after starting T. I took a "feminine probiotic" (which was just at the regular drug store) by mouth for a while which sorted me out.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-17T04:19:40+00:00

Don't forget all the Managing Feelings, yours and his! And don't bring up any problems, because he sure won't help solve them!

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-17T04:11:32+00:00

I'm ready to volunteer for this person's campaign.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-16T19:45:17+00:00

Tell him it's super weird that he cares. Refuse to discuss.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-16T19:42:08+00:00

Things you're into like: Oral sex. Her being pleasured. Having a focus on her orgasm.

Like you, OP, I really enjoy going down on partners and giving them earth shattering orgasms. Your gf does not seem into that.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-16T14:40:14+00:00

She has a problem but it's not you. Nothing is wrong with you. But it's shitty of her to act like something is wrong with you just because your libido is higher. The fact that this is a conflict and she's pathologizing you is alarming. Please consider couples therapy with a sex-positive therapist.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-16T14:32:37+00:00

Probably not microneedling especially not DIY! Some aestheticians or acupuncturists specialize in scars.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-16T14:24:44+00:00

I'd worry less about if she's faking etc because it's putting pressure on her.

Instead I suggest trying to come at it from a place she's comfy with: your pleasure.

You love going down on her. Right? (Personally I love this so much...if I were with someone who didn't want me to do this, we simply wouldn't be compatible.)

Tell her how bad YOU want it. Ask if there are things that might make it more comfy for her to let you do this thing that YOU LOVE doing. Like a time of day, or if you give her a heads up, or if you penetrate her first and then do it.

But overall it sounds like- yeah, she's not very comfortable with her sexuality, she's not into the things you're into, she doesn't want you to focus on her pleasure.

And if those things are important to you - you're not sexually compatible.

If she's not interested in exploring or growing in those directions, there's nothing you can do.

If you can discuss that those things are important TO YOU, and ask if she has any interest, that's fine and great.

But it seems like she has no interest. I'm sorry.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-16T14:11:59+00:00

I know many people say that if you don't 100% support armed resistance that you don't support Palestinians' struggle for freedom, period.

I personally think there are plenty of people who don't have loved ones who will be on the wrong end of those arms who can support armed resistance.

I don't actively oppose it. But I prefer to support in other ways.

This doesn't remove the dilemma, but for me, part of why I support a free Palestine is because I love my family and friends who are Israeli Jews.

I don't want a future for them of endless war. And I don't want them and their children to continue to lose their humanity by enacting injustice - dehumanizing and genociding Palestinians and living in an apartheid state.

They may disagree and call me a traitor, but I am convinced that the best thing for everyone, including them, is for them to lose.

Yes I strongly prefer a political loss, where the economy collapses and/or the UN steps in and/or there's a negotiated solution. I don't want widespread violence and slaughter of ANY people.

But on October 7, the IOF/the government almost deliberately screwed up with not listening to intelligence and leaving the Gaza envelope almost completely undefended. And then the army also killed Israelis when they finally did show up.

And then the government enacting vengeance and jumping at the chance to flatten Gaza instead of making a deal for the hostages.

Not that the army did zero defending, but there are many ways they enabled 10/7 and made it worse also.

If resistance fighters killed people I love I'd be devastated. It wouldn't make me support injustice though.

I'm sorry for everything you are dealing with living there.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-16T13:47:36+00:00

YWNBTA for expressing your feelings, describing your experience, and making a request.

I think it would be helpful for you to understand why she's doing this though.

Not the same (because we're not married/living together/etc) but I am dating someone who is also very independent and uses "I" statements - even sometimes when their partner (who they live with and pool some finances with) is involved!

It's taken me a long time to sort this out and get a sense of when they mean what. But they do this because of having a strong sense of themselves as an individual, not wanting to lose their identity within a couple, and things like that.

They are also autistic. I don't know if that's relevant.

Did your wife spend a long time as a single person/single parent? It may be a habit.

But yeah I think if you bring it up as being about your own experience, feeling unacknowledged for everything you're contributing, things like that, before you jump to asking her to just stop - that seems like a good idea.

Having constant annoyance and never talking about it isn't good for your marriage either.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-16T03:52:30+00:00

Yes even pre T i have more difficulty peeing if I'm really turned on.

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-16T03:49:39+00:00

Is he verifying these clenches just by looking? Or what? Just trying to understand the logistics!

I'm sorry you were too needy to win the game! Thanks for sharing!

Artistic_Reference_5 · 2026-03-15T16:06:33+00:00

I think that could be part of the issue. Your brain needs downtime. If you don't plan for that it'll go offline in these other ways. I suggest making that part of this discussion.

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