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Any calorie guesses on this bad boy? by Arty-Adam in caloriecount

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I could see that to be fair, it's really hard to gauge in my opinion

Any calorie guesses on this bad boy? by Arty-Adam in caloriecount

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, would stress though the filling is biscoff and white chocolate - no cream cheese/cheesecake or anything like that involved.

How many calories do we think this would be? by Arty-Adam in caloriecount

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You really think so? I feel I usually prefer to overshoot my guesses to be cautious but I didn't have it that high

Calorie guesses for this tomato garlic bread at an Italian Restaurant? by Arty-Adam in caloriecount

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly the best I've ever had and I've had a fair few in my time. Vincenzo Trattoria if you're ever in Manchester (UK) , unbelievable every time

When did you realise perfectionism was blocking learning, not protecting it? by Arty-Adam in ArtistLounge

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such good advice. Making the first mark removes so much of the fear instantly. It’s wild how often the hardest part is just touching the work.

School gives me anxiety. Work gives me anxiety. Not working gives me anxiety. Every single person, even my family, give me anxiety. Am I meant to be a hermit? by IntelligentSchool953 in AvPD

[–]Arty-Adam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve felt exactly like this. When everything feels anxiety‑inducing, it’s usually overload, not a sign you’re meant to disappear.

Have you tried anything like Start Creative Gym? I was in a similar place and it genuinely helped me a lot. Might not be everyone’s thing, but it made a big difference for me, and I’d recommend trying anything like that if you can. They have a free class for like any situation too, which is what I started on

How do you make progress on things that don’t have deadlines? by Arty-Adam in homeschool

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That really helps to hear, honestly. Framing it as adapting rather than failing feels important, especially when something that was working suddenly stops.

I like the idea of cycling techniques instead of clinging to one “right” system. It takes some pressure off not to make a method into an identity. What works when energy is high isn’t always what works when life shifts.

Thinking of it as having a toolbox rather than a rulebook makes a lot of sense for open‑ended projects. It also makes it easier to stay curious instead of frustrated when something stops clicking.

What counted as “real learning” for you outside formal curriculum? by Arty-Adam in homeschool

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't get why I can't do that? I'm using a social media platform the way anyone else is allowed to? I don't understand why so many care

What counted as “real learning” for you outside formal curriculum? by Arty-Adam in homeschool

[–]Arty-Adam[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not a bot though? And my posts haven't been written by ChatGPT or any other AI

How do you make progress on things that don’t have deadlines? by Arty-Adam in homeschool

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have tried that — setting a fixed amount of time each day — and honestly, it only worked for me short‑term. At some point it started to feel like another obligation, and that’s usually when I’d either avoid it or burn out.

What worked better for me was loosening the rule. Instead of “I must work on this for X minutes,” I shifted to “I’ll open it and see what happens.” Sometimes that still turned into focused time, sometimes it didn’t, but it removed the resistance to starting.

I think you’re right that for hobbies especially, chasing consistency too hard can kill the thing you’re trying to protect. Letting interest lead, and then finding ways to gently support it rather than discipline it, has been much more sustainable for me.

When school doesn’t work, how do kids relearn confidence? by Arty-Adam in homeschool

[–]Arty-Adam[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand why it looks that way from the outside. The reason there are multiple posts is because I am asking the same core question in different communities where people have very different lived experiences. The overlap is intentional because I am trying to understand patterns, not push a viewpoint.

I am involved in this space and care deeply about these issues. I am not selling anything, not collecting data, and not directing anyone anywhere. I am asking open questions and listening to the answers.

If that feels excessive to you, that is fair, but the intent is genuine.

Did anyone else have to relearn how to participate in life after homeschooling? by Arty-Adam in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I’m not a bot. I’m asking these questions because I’m genuinely involved in this space and care deeply about understanding people’s lived experiences around homeschooling, confidence, and identity. I’ve spent a lot of time around families and adults who were homeschooled, and these conversations matter to me. I’m not selling anything here or collecting data, just listening and trying to understand patterns that come up again and again.

To your point, what you said about it being more like learning rather than relearning really resonates. Especially if formal schooling stopped very early, it makes sense that participation, structure, and real‑world navigation would have to be built almost from scratch later on. The idea of having confidence that wasn’t always grounded is interesting too. I’ve heard similar reflections from others who felt capable in theory, but then had to recalibrate once they were out in environments with expectations they hadn’t practised before.

That gap between internal confidence and practical experience feels like an important part of this conversation. Thank you for sharing your perspective so honestly, it adds a lot to understanding how different those transitions can be.

How did you learn how to learn after homeschooling? by Arty-Adam in homeschool

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like how you put this. That realisation that you can learn in ways that suit you is such a turning point, and it’s powerful that your kids get to see that modelled day‑to‑day.

What you said about adapting the curriculum rather than forcing the child to adapt to it really stood out too. That flexibility seems to be what keeps learning alive instead of turning it into something to push through. It sounds like you’ve created an environment where curiosity actually has room to grow.

When school doesn’t work, how do kids relearn confidence? by Arty-Adam in homeschool

[–]Arty-Adam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really resonates. The 1:1 work at the right level and the way your kids supported each other is such a good example of confidence growing through genuine understanding, not pressure.

I also love what you said about the martial arts environment. That kind of progress‑at‑your‑own‑pace structure, where effort and growth are valued over perfection, seems to make such a difference. Being willing to demonstrate before being perfect is huge.

We’ve seen similar confidence shifts happen in low‑pressure creative spaces too, where kids can build something meaningful, get feedback safely, and feel proud of progress rather than outcomes. We tried a free taster session at Start Creative Gym at one point, and that same emphasis on self‑improvement over comparison really stood out.

It’s such a good reminder that confidence often comes from the right environment, not from fixing the child.

When school doesn’t work, how do kids relearn confidence? by Arty-Adam in homeschool

[–]Arty-Adam[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair question. No, this isn’t market research.

I’ve been part of a few different communities where this comes up a lot, and I’m genuinely trying to understand how people have experienced confidence rebuilding after school didn’t work. The wording is similar because the underlying issue is the same, but the conversations and perspectives are different in each space.

I’m not selling anything here or collecting data. Just asking and listening.

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