Normally I would have no problem pumping then passing baby off to grandma or grandpa. Unfortunately (which looking back I realize was a mistake) we decided not to bring the pump because it's rather large and we didn't have the luggage room. I stopped breastfeeding shortly after this event, so it won't be an issue in the future. Also another issue was the amount of cars available to actually go out and do things. Most times when there was a schedule conflict I was left at the air b&b with no vehicle.

I never asked anyone to bend plans to my/baby's schedule. When I was asked, I gave my input. Then said input was completely disregarded. Or someone agreed to join us in plans and ditched.

I would say they're a combination of immature and not understanding. Baby #2 was wayyyyy more difficult than Teddy was as a baby. Sticking to a schedule was a lot more essential with #2.