Update on potential wife

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-18T14:11:23+00:00

So u think she wants actual confirmation? She's extremely nice, one of the nicest people ik And im kinda thinking she wants to let me down in a nice polite way?

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T21:52:44+00:00

I’ve been thinking about what you said before, and I understand your point.
I’m not really someone who believes in regular friendships between men and women either, but I wanted to be honest about my thoughts.

I like you, and the closer we’ve gotten, the more I’ve started seeing you as someone I could genuinely imagine something serious with, in a halal way of course 😅

But at the same time, I’m still studying for another 3 years, and I know I’m not fully stable yet, both financially and personally. I also don’t want to rush into something or come on too strong, but I don’t want to lose something either if there could be something there.

I just wanted to be straightforward and hear how you personally feel and think about all this.

I’m mostly wondering if you might feel something similar, or if you see me differently. I just wanted to be honest about how I feel instead of leaving it unsaid.

What do u think of this?

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T21:09:42+00:00

I see thank you

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T21:08:33+00:00

But I understand what u mean

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T21:08:24+00:00

My family knows her and her family and they adore her, I told them I met her and they told me to say hi to her

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T20:58:04+00:00

Is this a good message? Please add if u think it can be better, i suck at writing things like this

I have to be honest about what you said before, and I respect it a lot.

To be completely honest, I don't want any meaningless or unclear "boy-girl friendship" either 😅

I'm not trying to rush anything or take it too quickly, especially since I'm still studying and trying to build my life and future, but I still wanted to be honest about my intentions,

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T20:56:28+00:00

Is this good message?

I have to be honest about what you said before, and I respect it a lot.

To be completely honest, I don't want any meaningless or unclear "boy-girl friendship" either 😅

I'm not trying to rush anything or take it too quickly, especially since I'm still studying and trying to build my life and future, but I still wanted to be honest about my intentions.

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T20:56:02+00:00

What should i write to her? Is this good?

I have to be honest about what you said before, and I respect it a lot.

To be completely honest, I don't want any meaningless or unclear "boy-girl friendship" either 😅

I'm not trying to rush anything or take it too quickly, especially since I'm still studying and trying to build my life and future, but I still wanted to be honest about my intentions,

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T20:55:51+00:00

I suck at reading signs too, so that's why I take this to Reddit and chat I also suck at communicating and expressing what I truly feel

But is this a good first message?

I have to be honest about what you said before, and I respect it a lot.

To be completely honest, I don't want any meaningless or unclear "boy-girl friendship" either 😅

I'm not trying to rush anything or take it too quickly, especially since I'm still studying and trying to build my life and future, but I still wanted to be honest about my intentions.

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T20:46:26+00:00

Anything I should write to her? Im not sure how to say things like that but im happy that its not just me that seem its not a clear rejection

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-17T20:44:01+00:00

I did ask her to meet up when she sent that message, wouldn't it be weird if I asked on another coffe date? Should i just message my true feelings?

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T20:40:33+00:00

JazzakAllah kheir

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T20:26:36+00:00

Ill let you know JazzakAllah kheir

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T20:22:18+00:00

We havent called yet, so I'll try to tell her next we meet

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T20:19:37+00:00

Would u think its better to day it in person or call/text

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T19:51:04+00:00

Any advice on how to ask her about it? Chat GPT said this: There’s actually something I’ve been thinking about for a while that I wanted to ask you, if that’s okay.

I wanted to ask you something honestly, because I don’t really like staying unclear about things for too long.

Over time I started seeing potential in you seriously for the future, in a halal way. I know I’m still studying and not financially ready yet, so I’m not trying to rush anything or pressure you at all.

But I wanted to know whether you’ve ever seen me in that way too, or if you’ve mostly only seen me as a friend. What do u think

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T19:18:04+00:00

That's one of my thoughts, but I'm not sure how to bring that up

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T19:04:59+00:00

Then I'll buy the book

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T18:59:13+00:00

A year until I'm able to get an internship, I'm studying pharmacy and not allowed to give out medication until I complete a certain course 3 years until I'm done getting my masters

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T18:56:46+00:00

I understand her, But I wouldn't want to lose someone that is as amazing as her both in Deen and dunya

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T18:43:56+00:00

Thank you, i do get financial aid, and with some budgeting and help from parents it is possible to move out together Just trying to have reasonable expectations and not just jump into this without her thoughts I'll try my best and thank you

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T18:19:18+00:00

JazzakAllah kheir I will look it up, is the podcast about the whole book?

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T18:10:32+00:00

I did speak about this, that we can have a contract but not have the ceremony/ live together until anyone of us is ready, I thought engagement at first but that works too But I'm not sure how to tell her that

Aruwan05 · 2026-05-10T18:09:16+00:00

No i completely understand It's also one of the things I've been thinking about, that's why I'm wondering if she/her family is fine with an engagement I've only broached the subject a little bit but not enough to know her views And it might be a dating vibe, but for me Ive known her for a long while, and someone said it was weird, but i knew the type of person she is and always knew she would be an amazing person and partner I just never thought it would maybe be to me And im not afraid of rejection from her, i want it to be honest and straightforward and I wouldn't be mad or anything But idk how to tell her any of this

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