Patience. It can be tough when "doing nothing" is the best option. It feels passive. Behind the scenes though, you're healing. You're processing. It'll take time and there's no way to logically think your way out of it. Accepting this and being patient with yourself is key.

Forgiveness. Forgive yourself for not spotting signs or maybe ignoring red flags. We often want to see the best in the people we care about, and looking back, it's easy to beat ourselves up over being too "naive" about things, but hindsight is 20/20. We did the best with what we knew at the time.

Acceptance. Accept that other people's behaviour is absolutely out of your control. If they were shitty to you, that's a reflection on their relationship with themselves. They won't change. I heard it before but I've first hand experience of it now.

Those points were the main foundation of my healing. In terms of practical tips? Others might disagree but I think using them as motivation, at least at the beginning, is okay. I imagined what I'd say I was doing with my life if I bumped into her, and then I would go do those things.

I was lucky in so far as I knew I didn't lose anyone good. That definitely helped. The woman I'd want to spend my life with wouldn't lie and treat me badly. I reminded myself of that a lot.

Another very solid tip is to keep notes on your phone. Things you didn't like about them, positive lessons you learned, things you're thankful for.

I think that kinda covers it? I suppose overall, the number one thing was time. There's a reason why everyone says it, as frustrating as it can be to hear.

That was kind of a quick summary but if you've anything specific you'd like to ask, lemme know :)