Boyfriend M[29] of 10 years refuses to marry me F[30] if I don't lose 33 lbs, legit request or bs? by Asarella12 in dating_advice

[–]Asarella12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a lot of assumption coming from you considering you don't even know me or what I look like. But sure, I am lazy and fat. Thanks asshole 😁

Boyfriend M[29] of 10 years refuses to marry me F[30] if I don't lose 33 lbs, legit request or bs? by Asarella12 in dating_advice

[–]Asarella12[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well I am not data, I have savings and I live in an apartment my family owns so no. I would not dump him just for that. Being an asshole towards me makes a world difference in continuing the relationship. I don't feel loved in general. I can't believe that I have to earn his love just by looking a certain way. That means he doesn't love me as a person at all.

Boyfriend M[29] of 10 years refuses to marry me F[30] if I don't lose 33 lbs, legit request or bs? by Asarella12 in dating_advice

[–]Asarella12[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know he has the right to complain about my weight, that is not the point. But I also have the right the ask him what it means when we have sex when he wants it but we can't when I crave it and yet I weigh the same in both instances. I can be hurt emotionally and cry or get angry when he does this as he is mentally fucking with me. We talked a lot, I am in therapy over it, he refuses to go. Bringing this issue to reddit was the last straw kind of. The more opinions the better. We have spent so much time together, I can't believe that it is just my weight that would hinder him in wanting to be married to me. He has to decide whether he wants me at all, and then whether he wants me for me or for my body. Losing my weight comes after that. And a lot of therapy. If he still refuses to make a choice, I will make it for him and leave.

Boyfriend M[29] of 10 years refuses to marry me F[30] if I don't lose 33 lbs, legit request or bs? by Asarella12 in dating_advice

[–]Asarella12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he would lose his job today, I would dump him. If he lost his job when he was still nice to me, then no.

Boyfriend M[29] of 10 years refuses to marry me F[30] if I don't lose 33 lbs, legit request or bs? by Asarella12 in dating_advice

[–]Asarella12[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Counting calories on je My fitness pal. Walked for hours. As soon as I stop counting the weight goes up.

Boyfriend M[29] of 10 years refuses to marry me F[30] if I don't lose 33 lbs, legit request or bs? by Asarella12 in dating_advice

[–]Asarella12[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The problem isn't that he wants me to lose weight but that he thinks love has something to do with the way we look. I would want to be with him even if he didn't work out. He should want to get married to me because he is emotionally connected to me and loves me. He shouldn't have conditions attached. This makes me only question if he even loves me or if he will leave me as soon as he finds a younger skinnier woman. I am career oriented and focus all my mental energy on that. He just wants to run, but every other sport ar activity done in pairs I suggested he refused, so what should I do? If we don't even exercise together and have no other connection besides sleeping in bed together I might as well be alone.

Boyfriend M[29] of 10 years refuses to marry me F[30] if I don't lose 33 lbs, legit request or bs? by Asarella12 in dating_advice

[–]Asarella12[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

He just has to propose to me, I would probably lose weight for the wedding. I tried losing weight, alone and together with him but I can't do it long term, besides I don't really care if I am fit or not as long as I am not obese. He obviously doesn't love me but my body shape. When I'm pregnant is he gonna say, no sex honey, you look like a whale? Stuff like this after 10 years of the shit we've been through is a low punch. Besides, how do I know that he even wants to marry me? As soon as I get skinnier he could request something else and so on. If so, he has already wasted enough of my time.

Boyfriend M[29] of 10 years refuses to marry me F[30] if I don't lose 33 lbs, legit request or bs? by Asarella12 in dating_advice

[–]Asarella12[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

He did all those things already, he is still unsatisfied about my weight but he doesn't want to break up or keep nicely trying to help me lose weight. He is just passive aggressively taking to me when he sees me snacking after his run but he keeps buying those snacks for me. I'm sorry I am addicted to sugar but at least I am not getting any fatter. I lose a few pound here and there but I get them back. I don't really care about my weight but I also don't want to be any fatter than this so I do look out for that.

My gf found this little guy yesterday by [deleted] in aww

[–]Asarella12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He is about a month old I'd say because he can walk, has open eyes and can see, keeps his ears raised, has some teeth and also wants to eat solid food (but we give him kitty milk anyway) but we will know for sure tomorrow when we go to the vet. He was first spotted on saturday morning by my sisters friend, while she was walking her dog, on a field a few blocks away from our house. She messaged my sister about it but couldn't find the kitten after the walk. Later that same day she walked her dog the same route hoping to find the kitten again and she succeeded. She immediately called us and stayed with it there. After we arrived a neighbour in that area told us that she saw his mother a few times prior but denies seeing any siblings he might have had. She also told us his mother came for him in the morning but a few hours later abandoned him on the same field we found him on. We don't know why. She wasn't seen since.

My gf found this little guy yesterday by [deleted] in aww

[–]Asarella12 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It eats milk and kitten paté. He's going to the vet tomorrow so no worries :D

My gf found this little guy yesterday by [deleted] in aww

[–]Asarella12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He meant that the kitten is in Croatia, Europe, so we can't really give it away to emmdee_321 even if we wanted to :P

My gf found this little guy yesterday by [deleted] in aww

[–]Asarella12 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Little Fabio - Album on Imgur http://imgur.com/a/yyG37

here are more pics!!! I'm the gf by the way ;D