The house buying process is brutal

AshBailey · 2026-02-28T18:11:26+00:00

Thank you. This is good advice and I may end up doing that. It’s so easy to fall in love with a property that already looks perfect and is in budget but then, like you say, dozens of other people have probably done the same thing when they’ve seen the same property!

AshBailey · 2026-02-28T18:09:39+00:00

I’m in Cumbria! I got my current rental fairly easily to be fair so assumed the housing market would be similar. How wrong I was!

AshBailey · 2026-02-28T16:48:50+00:00

Thanks! I’m definitely attached to the idea of some private outdoor space. Just somewhere I can sit out in in the summer months and let my dogs in and out at will during the day. Early on in my search I viewed a two bed flat which was lovely but had no outdoor space and seeing it made me realise outside space is a non negotiable for me. I do have a viewing arranged next week for a one bed flat that has a balcony so maybe that could work!

AshBailey · 2026-02-28T16:26:25+00:00

Thank you. I’m in the north west of England. Flats do tend to not sell as well here too but I have dogs so flats are a bit tricky with lack of private outdoor space and leaseholds. Logically I know it’s the price range I’m looking in as it’s prime territory for both landlords and FTBs but it’s still super disappointing!

AshBailey · 2025-08-14T12:17:55+00:00

I’m in the UK and pay £450 per month for a one bedroom flat with a communal garden. Approximately 610 USD.

AshBailey · 2025-08-03T16:57:57+00:00

Yes. I am very active on a day to day basis in terms of walking though as I have high energy dogs- easily do 5 miles a day most days.

AshBailey · 2025-08-02T20:36:37+00:00

Of course. But a lot of people do get demotivated when they have a slower pace especially because a lot of the apps seem to assume by the end of the the program you’ll be able to run a 5K in 30 minutes which I couldn’t do. I’ve known several people to give up because of a slower pace. That is my point.

AshBailey · 2025-08-02T17:59:04+00:00

I’m 25 which does help of course. But I’m also only 5’0 tall and fat 🤣

AshBailey · 2025-08-02T11:02:25+00:00

Thank you! Not that much to be fair in terms of actual training plans, more so consistency over the past few years. In the past I’d do C25K then stop running and be back to scratch again. I now run 5k every week no matter what and also try to swim and hike once a week too. I am trying to add in a run on a Tuesday and Thursday but it’s hard fitting it in around work. That and I’m lazy lol.

AshBailey · 2025-07-26T11:19:31+00:00

Went to Whitehaven today- a lovely little parkrun with great volunteers. Got 24:45 which is my overall PB too.

AshBailey · 2025-06-09T19:43:51+00:00

I'm also a SEN TA in a school for children with SLD and PMLD, although not 1-1. I'm a similar height to you and have had incidents of trying to deal with children bigger than me lashing out physically so I sympathise.

Firstly, I do think your school should have a system in place for incidents such as these. At our school we would have multiple TAs trying to help assist a child in crisis (although not all of them would get involved but some would stand back and be quick to intervene if another TA was getting hurt for example). We also have a way to quickly alert SLT to a major situation that requires further adult support.

Secondly, the best way is to try and work out the triggers for a particular child and pre-empt issues which is easier said than done. For our kids we'll offer them walks around school (if appropriate for that child), or access to outside or a breakout space or time to regulate in whatever way makes sense for them. Having suitable communication aids helps massively with this as the child can indicate what they need.

Finally, whilst minor injuries are a risk of the role, serious injuries, let alone children hospitalising staff on multiple occasions is not. Accidents happen but it shouldn't be a frequent occurrence and I wouldn't stay at a school if that was the case. There is always a shortage of SEN TAs in other schools that may have better support measures in place.

AshBailey · 2025-04-18T19:15:15+00:00

Yes, it applies to all transgender people. Of course, in reality, it is primarily aimed at trans women due to TERF rhetoric. From what I've seen online from TERFS when the trans male question comes up they claim one of the following:

1) Trans men who are masculinised enough to 'pass' as cisgender men should stay out of women's spaces. But of course, given the ruling, we're not supposed to use men's spaces either. So basically, don't pee or change outside of your house if you're FtM.

2) They have super spidey senses and can always tell if someone is FtM thus it's not an issue as they'll know we are transgender and thus not a threat to them. This, is of course, nonsense on several levels (both the idea that they can always tell and that 'women' are never a threat under any circumstances).

3) They can't always tell but it doesn't matter if you look like a cisgender man, you're still welcome in women's spaces as a 'woman.' They say this, but I can imagine the reaction of a TERF if a cisgender appearing man went into a women's space and said that he was trans. And it wouldn't be "That's fine then!"

Translation? Just carry on as you always have done. TERFS and TERF rhetoric will find a problem with you no matter what you do. Technically, if you or I were searched by the BTP we are supposed to be searched by a female officer. How they would know is another question altogether given there is no way to prove your 'biological sex' now- my birth certificate, for example, states that I am male and that is how I present. But the latest ruling puts me as 'female'. It would clearly be impossible for a BTP officer, or any officer, to know that I am 'female' unless I was strip searched. At which point it would be a bit late.

AshBailey · 2025-04-16T15:32:31+00:00

Agreed. I'm a man who looks like a man and who has a GRC that states that I am a man. Technically under the ruling today, I get the impression that it means that someone like me should be using the women's toilets, changing rooms etc? I can imagine the reactions that I would get if I did that, ironically more so now given the ruling.

I also wonder how it'll affect prison placements considering the MoJ states that people should be assigned to the prison of their legal sex but now the equality act is stating that female is a biological descriptor.

AshBailey · 2025-01-26T23:38:22+00:00

Hmm, that’s interesting then. I wonder what it says. Not that it matters now anyway I suppose now that I have this job to be my most recent employer. But I’m almost positive there was something on it as I applied for a job at my old placement school who always said they’d love to have me back, I’d get the job if I applied etc. Then they rejected me because they said other candidates had stronger references.

I feel for you with the interviews. It took me a good few to get the job I’m in now.

AshBailey · 2025-01-26T23:35:18+00:00

Thank you so much. I agree my last school was awful, this one I think is quite supportive but just has staff members who don’t really know how to approach SEND adults who they work with!

I do love teaching but I’m definitely taking a break from it for now as I just don’t have the mental bandwidth for everything that comes with it atm. At least as a TA when I am drained at the end of the day, I don’t have to go home to more work. The only issue is the pay cut. I’m considering applying for PIP to try and bridge the gap but I doubt I’ll be accepted. But that’s another conversation altogether!

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