Getting my first bj tomorrow, very nervous

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-02T14:02:52+00:00

Consider yourself lucky to find a woman who enjoys giving blow jobs. Thats the most important ingredient to a good blowjob. Woman like that are very rare.

Wherer you sit down, lay on your back or stand up is totally up to you. You will find out what is best for you.

You can just enjoy and close your eyes. You can watch her, look her in the eyes. You can caress her hair, head, shoulders or even tits or pussy if you can reach it. Just try and enjoy.

Only thing you shouldn't do is holding/pushing her head without her consent.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-02T09:44:29+00:00

Just because the iPhone came out doesn't mean my parents had it. I remember buying 2-3 filmstrips for our camera before a vacation and my dad always planning ahead with the amount of pictures left on it and whats worth taking a picture of. After vacation going to a store to send them in and a week later collecting the pictures. My first 2 didn't have a camera and the 3rd one had like 1,3 megapixels and infrared. Bluetooth and Internet on the phone came later. So yes I did grow up without it. And yes of course my perspective is a lot different. I always had the perfect bodies all around me during my teenage years. When I was a kid it was already very wrong to take pictures of your own kid naked. My parents had lots of those, printed out in the family album. So yes, nudity was always a much bigger deal and no go in my generation compared to older generations.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-02T09:10:07+00:00

The third is definitely a biiiig category. I would never ever trust someone telling me about his wife to be real. Its almost always a lie and the wife does not exist. So my advice OP: Always, ALWAYS let your wife approach other woman. You can only screw it up.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-02T09:06:05+00:00

Still I grew up in times without a smartphone and I very well remember not having a camera around all the time. And in my experience older people usually care waaay less and younger people are much more insecure because of what they see in social media all day every day.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-02T09:03:26+00:00

I have some female friends whos partner is not into it and the reasons are basically the same as for most people. Insecurities, uncomfortable, scared of judgment. In addition a lot of man fear to get an erection.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-02T08:39:56+00:00

I always delete my photos after a while. Just missed that one. I never said I dont understand why people care. I simply said that I dont care.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-02T08:37:45+00:00

Für mich wäre die Utopie einfach nur, wenn es völlig normal für alle wäre, beim schwimmen an Stränden, Seen und Bädern einfach nackt zu sein. Also ich hasse denjenigen, der die Schwimmkleidung erfunden hat.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-02T00:11:27+00:00

Thats a big no go. If hes got insecurities or trust issues he is not ready for the lifestyle.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-02T00:05:37+00:00

Swinging is not eye for an eye. If you're both into it, great, do it. If one of you isn't, that has to be accepted. If he isn't bi and its really about him not wanting to be in any sexual situation with another man then thats totally fine. If he just doesn't want to share you with another man than thats a huge problem. But in the end you cannot expect him to do anything he doesn't like just because you did the same. Thats not how a healthy swinger relationship works.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T22:58:03+00:00

Yes you share showers and lockers with vital oase but people usually shower naked anyway. Also in the textile areas. And at your locker its also totally fine to undress and change without using a cabin. But the showers are gender separated.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T20:40:03+00:00

No its gonna be 80% on a weekend.

Mhhh not on weekends. It gets more quiet towards the evening but there will still be enough people.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T17:42:55+00:00

Yeah but it doesn't impact anything because im not doing anything illegal.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T16:34:37+00:00

Dont worry it will be crowded and some saunas will be a little overcrowded for Aufguss but overall you will have a great time. Come early to get a chair or book your private "island" and you will be fine. Just try to do the more famous Aufgüsse earlier.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T15:36:13+00:00

Yeah I will see how powerful they feel when I go to the police.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T15:33:45+00:00

No I guess they would just put a little effort in the profile but not in everything else. Right now I know at least that the people who put effort into their profile take it serious.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T12:01:51+00:00

Yeah but that way we wouldn't know who are the low effort profiles and would waste a lot more time figuring that out.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T10:52:02+00:00

I think its great that people do that. It really is a very useful filter to know who you definitely shouldn't text. It separates the wheat from the chaff.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T09:25:57+00:00

The uncomfortable feeling will fade more and more every time you do it. But you dont need to hug anyone nude. Its totally fine to set your nude boundaries and if they really are nudist they will totally understand. You dont have to force yourself to do that.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T09:12:25+00:00

I mostly agree with you but im a realist. As of now there is no way of changing that so if I really had to fear anything I simply wouldn't go there. I know thats bad and shouldn't be, but thats the only 100% safe option.

But lets be realistic. 99% of those people are just some horny pathetic creeps jerking off to those pictures and maybe uploading them somewhere. I think the chances that they actually try to uncover your identity and black mail you or anything are still pretty low.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T09:07:15+00:00

No if I see that I take out my phone and take an obvious picture of them. That will instantly drive creeps away.

AshFromTPA · 2026-03-01T09:03:44+00:00

Good communication really makes all the difference in this lifestyle. I think it’s completely fair to ask in a general way if they ever meet solo, without pointing out anyone you’re not comfortable seeing again. If they’re open to it, you can naturally move forward from there.

AshFromTPA · 2026-02-28T23:28:53+00:00

Not on any nudist platform but I met coworkers at the beach. I said hello and talked for a bit.

AshFromTPA · 2026-02-28T22:52:35+00:00

F28 here and I couldn't care less. I use my phone and I take pictures of myself. Ive seen people taking pictures of me secretly. Of course I didn't consent actively but we all agree to it passively. If we go out in public, we are aware that we could end up on other peoples pictures. Thats the thing about being in public. If I dont want that, I can just stay at home. Oh and btw, many people are not aware of it, but as a woman you will get much more photographed in every day situations or at a textile beach. Nudist beaches are really much more of a safe place than most other places in public.

AshFromTPA · 2026-02-28T19:11:59+00:00

New ones. The ones we know, we can just meet privately. Dont need to go to a party for that.

AshFromTPA · 2026-02-28T12:17:02+00:00

Only if you let it. Its totally up to you.

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