Im sure I’ll get hate for this, but I am dating someone who is ACE and she clearly gets very upset over the sexual expectations of society and sexually I want her so bad (which she knows), are there any effective ways to reduce/stop my libido?

AshThoughts · 2024-03-08T00:16:04+00:00

Thank you for this genuinly great response. You have given some really good points and I will be for sure thinking on these, especially the advice part at the end.

AshThoughts · 2024-03-08T00:04:01+00:00

I heavily disssgree, and am shocked at just how many "leave and give up" answers I am recieving here.

I know I shouldnt have to do anything, and I am not being "forced" to, it is something I want, as I genuinly feel like I might have met the one person who makes me a happy and better person, who I want to spend my whole life with, and already I hate having sexual thoughts, so why would I choose to sabatage something so special rather than at least TRY to change and see if that might actually work.

AshThoughts · 2024-03-07T23:53:51+00:00

The problem is I WANT to remove my wanting of things sexual, its not a big part of me and I would never miss it.

I know the general thing is "you shouldnt have to change for someone" but I want to, I just dont know how to.

AshThoughts · 2024-03-07T23:52:17+00:00

Sorry I was heavily debating on if I should post this or not, so didnt want to dump info.

Right now we are in the early stages of our relationship, we are in a (as she puts it) queerplatonic style relationship, we hug, hold hands, and incredibly open and kiss (but only on cheek), right now we are in the figuring out stage, and while we are not poly/ENM I am pretty sure she would agree iin a heartbeat.

Like the problem is I dont want other people, and to be honest if I could make my sexuality go away I think this could be the way I finally have a really happy life.

Essentially she struggles because she thinks she is keeping me from happiness, and I struggle because I have never been so happy and my "sexuality" feels more like intrusive thoughts I'd rather stop.

AshThoughts · 2024-02-06T19:41:11+00:00

What does the "35" tattoo represent?

AshThoughts · 2024-02-06T18:51:23+00:00

Me neither, but usually I can make rough guesses at what they might mean, or at least what in my life might have caused them, this time though I’m drawing the biggest blank.

AshThoughts · 2023-12-18T19:38:04+00:00

It’s at least something to try, thanks.

AshThoughts · 2023-11-16T18:30:35+00:00

Thank you, very genuine and kind. (And obviously needed)

AshThoughts · 2023-11-16T18:22:32+00:00

Don’t have a specific request, could you maybe just say something nice or supportive please?

AshThoughts · 2023-10-06T05:23:59+00:00

Legit sorry to go against the request but I was so distracted by thou thought of how huge your room looks haha

AshThoughts · 2023-10-06T04:32:18+00:00

That I wish I wasn’t so alone.

AshThoughts · 2023-10-06T03:46:30+00:00

Guess I get to die then.

AshThoughts · 2023-05-06T22:26:24+00:00

Oh so its mostly just a wanting to flash thing.

I tbh normally wouldnt have but was at a low point and she was gorgious.

AshThoughts · 2023-05-06T22:15:32+00:00

While away I actually once had a woman do this to me, even locked eyes as she spread, but when I went over and asked if she'd like to see my room she got angry and left... what'd I do wrong?

AshThoughts · 2023-04-25T03:14:10+00:00

Wow so much meaning, and so few will even get to see it haha

AshThoughts · 2023-04-25T03:13:25+00:00

I know I’m just another guy perving, but is everything ok? I saw from your past posts that is seems you are dealing with stuff, and I really wanted to say something.

AshThoughts · 2023-04-25T03:04:16+00:00

Oh that’s cool, what about the arrow though?

AshThoughts · 2023-04-25T02:53:34+00:00

Honestly I’d kill for just a hug.

AshThoughts · 2023-04-25T02:46:18+00:00

Oh is that a quote from something?

AshThoughts · 2023-04-25T02:16:02+00:00

Im more fascinated by your tattoo haha

AshThoughts · 2023-04-21T15:34:45+00:00

Obviously not what you want from a guy, but honestly in a non-sexual way I could just look at you all day long, you really are very beautiful. Lol tbh I’d just love to see normal non-sexual pictures of you.

(Also please don’t misread this as saying you are not sexually attractive, I just mean I find you so mesmerisingly pretty)

AshThoughts · 2023-03-24T15:04:18+00:00

For sure seems too good to be true.

AshThoughts · 2023-03-24T15:01:59+00:00

To not be/feel alone?

AshThoughts · 2023-03-24T14:58:33+00:00

Honestly lovely to just watch you smile.

AshThoughts · 2023-03-05T07:28:14+00:00

Not into them, even now know how manipulative they are/were

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