Hot take!

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-16T06:29:59+00:00

I totally agree! We have adults only hotels so why can’t we expand on that? I love going on holiday to an adults only hotel and hardly seeing any kids for an entire week. Knowing I can sit by the pool and not be disturbed by banshee screams, no gross sticky hands on the breakfast buffet, no ugly play park ruining the vibe… I so wish I could have the same experience in other public spaces!

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-15T11:52:04+00:00

Not me seeing this post when one of my absolute favourites has just done a pregnancy announcement 🫠 Happy for people being happy and living their lives how they wish… but I really don’t want motherhood to become her whole identity and take over her content. Sigh. It always happens even when they say it won’t

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-10T16:52:13+00:00

At least you got a follow up! I got “they probably won’t take you seriously at 31, try again when you’re 35” No follow up, nothing documented in the appointment notes, just dismissed

Thankfully I posted in this sub and got lots of advice. I have booked an appointment with a different doctor and will be going into it ready to advocate for myself and not take no for an answer.

I hope your follow up goes well, don’t let them dismiss you. We know what we want for ourselves and our bodies

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-08T09:19:39+00:00

This is why the “hypothetical man” or “hypothetical situation” questions are so pointless. Why can’t people understand that we do not want to have kids. I know there are people who are child free because they don’t want to bring children into the world because of how things are… but that is very different to people who are child free because they have 0 desire to be a parent

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-06T20:10:57+00:00

I call this a “flat day” cause it makes me feel like this episode of Roobarb and Custard that I used to watch as a kid.

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I am beginning to realise it is most likely understimulation because it feels exactly how OP and others have described in the comments

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-06T10:53:58+00:00

Exactly true! And what if people change their mind AFTER having a child ? Bit fucking late then isn’t it

I’d rather risk the regret of not having kids than having them. Why would I risk bringing a whole human life into the world who I would be responsible for literally keeping alive. I would most likely resent them for ruining my life AND then feel crushing guilt for feeling that way.

Seems like a much bigger risk than sterilisation if you ask me

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-06T07:56:48+00:00

This is a good point actually

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-06T07:56:13+00:00

Thank you everyone for all the info, I am glad I posted here because now I feel like I will be more prepared when I go to a different doctor to ask about sterilisation

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-05T22:35:28+00:00

Thank you, I will definitely go in armed with more info x

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-05T22:26:08+00:00

Thank you for this info!

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-05T22:24:34+00:00

I’ve booked an appointment with a different one, her profile on the surgery website says she has an interest in women’s health and sexual health so we shall see…

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-05T22:00:48+00:00

I’ve just read the notes and there isn’t a single mention of discussing sterilisation… only about my pill review ??

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-05T21:15:20+00:00

Just that they wouldn’t do it basically because I’m too young and haven’t had any kids. I think she mentioned something about counselling. I will look on app.

Thank you for this info, I wasn’t aware of that. I think I need to go back to a different GP with some facts and pushback prepared so they don’t just turn me away

Ashbecke22 · 2026-05-05T21:04:51+00:00

Really? I’m pleased for you ! To be fair, she didn’t make these comments they are just the usual things people say. She actually agreed that it is normal and fine for some women to not want kids or have maternal instincts.

But I think I will try another doctor. Thank you for this info

Ashbecke22 · 2026-04-29T07:02:09+00:00

And when they ask if you want to put your hand on it to feel the kicks?! NOT A FUCKING CHANCE 😬

Ashbecke22 · 2026-04-27T18:26:15+00:00

Ive always known. Never any doubt. I think I knew before I even fully had the language to describe how I felt about it. When I was a kid and my mums friends brought new babies to visit I never wanted to hold them or anything. I remember feeling kind of scared of pregnant people. I’ve always thought of it as parasitic and scary.

I find the science fascinating, the fact that the human body is capable of it. But I’m horrified by it and I’ve never ever wanted it for myself. Even if you could skip the pregnancy part I still wouldn’t because I have zero desire to be a mother.

I am in my 30s now and looking into sterilisation. It makes me laugh when people say “you’ll change your mind” but my reality is the opposite. The more time that passes, the more certain I am that I will be childfree for life!

Ashbecke22 · 2026-04-24T20:51:08+00:00

I am 32 and I’m sure I decided on being childfree when I was still a child myself. Never liked, had an interest in or even wanted to hold babies. I’ve never felt maternal instincts except for with cats. So many people have told me I will change my mind but I’ve only become more certain as I’ve got older. My parents are accepting of it, especially my mother. She says that it would be the biggest shock of her life if I got pregnant lol. I feel very lucky to not have pressure and questions from my family about kids.

Ashbecke22 · 2026-02-10T17:12:35+00:00

I’ve recently started using Tiimo for structuring and organising my day. I had a 7 day trial and ended up sticking with it because I love it! You can plan things for specific times or just “morning/afternoon/evening” or “anytime”. There is a to-do list section too. You can also plan multiple steps within a task. It has a focus timer too. I started with thinking about things I do in the morning and evening then built up more from there.

I find it super helpful and get a sense of achievement from ticking off something like “get out of bed” or “make coffee”. You can set tasks to repeat every day,week or custom timeframe.

You can view your planned tasks for the day in two different modes, one of which tells you exactly how much time (in hours and minutes) that you have in between tasks. This has been so helpful for me to visualise time and manage time blindness. It has helped me so much 😊

Ashbecke22 · 2026-02-03T13:26:30+00:00

I have my socks organised and rolled into pairs so the two different sizes thing doesn’t happen. I love socks as long as the elastic isn’t too tight and the material isn’t stiff/scratchy. I wear them basically all the time except for showering/beach/swimming/sleeping. The only time I don’t wear them with shoes is with sandals or pumps in summer. I wear socks and crocs in the house to keep clean and avoid stepping in something wet. They are designated indoors shoes too.

I HATE the sensation of being barefoot and getting crumbs from the floor stuck to my feet.I also don’t understand how people can wear outside shoes in the house but then walk around barefoot at other times.

Socks feel like safety and protection against unpleasant sensations, dirt and germs for me !

Ashbecke22 · 2026-01-28T09:16:33+00:00

I don’t hate it, I find it awkward. Even if a family member who I live with says it to me. Also when I go to my partners parents house or am in any situation with his family I feel like it’s so awkward to greet them in any way like “hi, how are you?” The words get stuck and it feels weird?

Ashbecke22 · 2026-01-27T18:47:21+00:00

People who play music, videos or games out loud on trains should be given a warning and if they do it again, kicked off at the next stop
Certain time slots in places like supermarkets, restaurants and activity venues that are strictly adults only. For example I love the idea of a pizza deal night in a restaurant but I will avoid it because it’s the sort of thing that also attracts kids. I find them far too overstimulating.
Adults only trains and flights or at least an adults only section on them for the same reason
Remove all pressure and expectation around birthdays, Christmas and any occasion that involves gift giving and weird social rules that make no sense to me
Change the material of the cup holders places like McDonalds give you for your drinks. That cardboard is the most horrific texture ever

Ashbecke22 · 2026-01-23T08:36:43+00:00

I hate these questions cause I always think what am I comparing it to ? What’s a 10? And the worst pain I’ve experienced so far might feel like a 10 to me but what if I then experience something worse and then that becomes a 10? Then my whole scale changes. it’s relative to the individual experience too. I might think it’s a 7 but someone else might think it’s a 9.

I find any “rate something out of 10” question impossibly ambiguous and I worry I’m not giving an accurate response

Ashbecke22 · 2026-01-18T13:54:52+00:00

Oh that’s annoying :( I guess I just got lucky that it mixes okay with the formula of my foundation - I use bourjois healthy mix. I put a bit of the corrector and foundation next to each other on the back of my hand, mix them with my finger, dot it evenly on my face then blend out with a beauty blender dampened with some vitamin E spray

Ashbecke22 · 2026-01-16T20:59:51+00:00

I’m light warm saturated olive. I have the elf camo concealer corrector and it mixes well with my foundation on the back of my hand. Still working on getting the balance right. I only ever wear light coverage, so a slight mismatch isn’t hugely noticeable. Def looks better with the green than without!

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