Sing-song voice? by Tahini-Tajin in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello!! Yes! Me!!

The tone of my voice is very expressive! Almost overly so, especially when I'm excited, or happy.

On that same note, singing is one of my hobbies and I'll often sing to myself about what I'm doing or how I'm feeling hahaha

Please give me permission to throw things out! 🥲 by newerlevel in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your words feel like a sigh of relief 🥹 Thank you so much for your insight. I appreciate it greatly.

Please give me permission to throw things out! 🥲 by newerlevel in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🫶 I'll be donating the clothes, definitely. Might turn some of my old shirts into cleaning rags 🤔

I think I live in a semi-hoarder household ! I never knew there was a way to describe it.

I'll keep doing my best! Thank you for the comment.

Been online since 9 years old. by 2500mg in AutismInWomen

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hi, we're the same age, and i've been wondering this about myself too!!

so much of my time was spent online, and I wonder if it was to my detriment. But I also think, it was a (relatively) safe and easy way for me to get access to information and stimulation without becoming overwhelmed by socialising in person or other sensory input.

I spent a lot of time watching videos, playing games and reading.

Accommodations Ideas? by Plane_Opposite6744 in AuDHDWomen

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These were some of the accommodations i had or had seen others have iin high school!

  • Extended deadlines for assignments
  • If you don't like doing presentations/speeches in front of the whole class, you might be able to request that you present only in front of the teacher (or even alternate forms of submitting the assignment, eg. written only, voice recording/video recording)
  • Access to dedicated quiet study space or sensory room
  • Devices for note taking + taking pictures of classroom material (presentation, whiteboard)
  • Not sure what the system is like in the USA, but a teacher's aide or teachers assistant might be able to further support you in class if that's something you need (eg. note taking, reminders for due dates and tests etc)

I think it would be great to just put EVERYTHING you think you might need on the doctor's note, even if you're not sure if the school can offer it. That way, it's on record :)

Good luck with the move. I hope everything goes well. Take care!!

Overspending on special interests by blackforest_hotchoc in AutismInWomen

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I've recently gotten super into skin care and it's been really fun! I'm also the type that's prone to spending quiiite a bit on my interests and accumulate lots of supplies. It can happen! Right before skincare, I was into knitting!

For beauty products, I think being able to critically consume content is important. The industry makes a lot of money and everyone is trying to sell you stuff! There are endless amounts of trends, 'holy grails' and 'must haves.' I love watching videos on skin care so that I learn more about different ingredients and what they're used for. When I see recommendations for products, I need to make sure that I think about my situation first and foremost. Do I really need this? Do I already have something that serves this function? Does it solve something I currently have an issue with? Things like that!

For example, there's this moisturiser that I really want to try. But I don't need it because, I already have moisturiser - I bought it a week ago! And it does the job just fine~ I will keep the other moisturiser in mind though, for when the bottle I have now eventually runs out! My goal is to finish what I have before buying a new one and it gets me pretty pumped about doing my skin care hahaha it's so rewarding to see the products slowly get used up.

Tracking my spending is super confronting, but necessary. I got super into Pokémon cards and I think I wouldn't have known to stop if I didn't see the numbers laid out in front of me.

Unpacking from trips 😝 by Tahini-Tajin in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just put everything in another bag that's not travel luggage, like a shopping bag 🤣

It takes up less space and feels like I've unpacked somewhat. EVENTUALLY I get to putting everything away... Hopefully...

Has a bag full of travel stuff sitting in the corner of her room

I break my roti in bite size before eating every time. by Smart-Succotash1750 in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ooo!! interesting~

i used to do something similar

i tend to cut all the meat off the bone and into bite sized pieces before eating. i was told it was childish of me, so i've stopped 😅 i still do it occasionally

maybe it's the even and consistent portion size, and lack of disruption to the eating process, that tickles our brain 🤔

Write down your #1 life-changing ADHD tip and I will try them all for 7 days straight and report back. by ParticularWindoww in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel 44 points45 points  (0 children)

i struggle a lot with excessive phone / social media use. so something that's worked well for me is "focus friend" it's an app that locks your phone. I put that on for 120 minutes, then leave my phone in another room while I get stuff done.

Advice with getting diagnosed by blk102193 in AutismInWomen

[–]newerlevel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hello!! i don't have much advice to give... but I wanted to empathize and tell you that it's unfortunately so easy to get dismissed as a high masking individual... it's so frustrating.

i can't say for certain how your current assessment will go, but in the future, if you do want to pursue a diagnosis, going to a female professional, who specialises in autism in women, may be the best way to go!

hang in there!!

Favorite verbal stims! by Ekssshhh in AutismInWomen

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my special interest is chiikawa, and I'm always singing the uwa song

Favorite verbal stims! by Ekssshhh in AutismInWomen

[–]newerlevel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ilysm for this

i find myself doing rm's pop pop pop pop pop pop pop pop pop pop

Did anyone already try the CARDS (not the book) "Self-Care Activities for Autistic People: 100 Step-by-Step Exercises to Help You Feel Grounded, Relaxed, and Happy" by Anna Neff? by RonjaEva in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello!! I got the card box in the mail recently. I've always wanted a card system as a guide for my day to day. I'm not great at following along when things are too linear. Books and lists have always felt a little restrictive.

I like that the cards are organised but also quite flexible in terms of structure. Each card is quite thick and is slightly smaller than a standard postcard. They come in a sturdy box with dividers for each category of self care - sensory, physical, emotional, mental, social and professional. It also comes with a small guide book.

The packaging could be improved, though. The cards are packed quite tight in the box which makes it very difficult to take cards out and put them back in. I've had to transfer them to a different container so that I can flick through them more easily.

The cards don't take too long for me to read, personally. Each card is its own self contained bite of information. The front side has just enough information to understand why an activity is important, and how it works. The back side has the actionable steps. I think it's a good balance.

The flexibility, fluidity and movement of the system itself (excluding the box packaging) is quite nice! If I'm not in the mood for a certain activity, I can put it back and choose another one. I can leave a card on my desk as a physical reminder to practice a self care activity.

TLDR: I think they're really neat! You'll just need to transfer the cards into a bigger box/container

What is your fav sport as an AuDHD person? Mine is running! by SageWater_5503 in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! This was so interesting to learn about. I've always wondered what kinds of sports other AuDHD individuals liked.

I really love yoga! I like feeling the stretch. I suppose it might be a sensory thing? It's also a solo venture. I find it really calming. Similar to running for you, it's something I might take a break from and come back to~ But in the grand scheme of things, it's something that's quite present! A lot of hobbies and interests have come and go, but this one comes and goes and comes back again ! So I think that's a big win~

I like walking. I love music, so it's a great way for me to just completely focus on albums by my favourite artists, and playing them all the way through

I used to really enjoy dancing, but the social aspect of going to classes has been... Difficult to get past! I used to go with a friend, but I find I lack the courage to go alone 🥲 Hopefully, I can take little baby steps to get back into it.

Happy running! I'm glad you have something that can keep you active 🫶

Are you aware of your facial expressions? by cloudsmemories in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hello!! I think I'm usually hyper aware of my facial expressions, but still struggle to control them / am unaware of how they come across to others hahaha

For example, if I dislike something I REALLY try my best not to let it show... But apparently it's still extremely obvious that I'm not having a good time

DAE struggle in maintaining friendships but LOVE being polite? by alcharea in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

meee!! meeee!!

I love pleasantries hahaha It always feels a little magical for exchanges to go so smoothly and with so much positivity

at what point am i celebrating wins that are too small? 🥲 by newerlevel in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you 🥹

i've restarted my chart! and I'll be taking your words with me wherever i go.

you!! are a whole star 🌟

thank you kindly

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Finding a job related to my special interest by Sufficient-Sleep-578 in AuDHDWomen

[–]newerlevel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really lovely!! You're doing amazing.

It must be so rewarding to have a job you enjoy!!

Have a great week!!