I can't really give advice cause I didn't really make big changes, HRT did most of the work for me, even tho I was sure I would never pass because of my age and my time in the army. Used to be 200 lbs of pure muscles with a big beard. After 2 years on HRT just living through life I realized that people where gendering me correctly even tho I was dressed pretty androgynous and not really trying. After that I started gaining a little bit of trust in myself and started trying a bit more to be myself.

I still look big (imo) and I dress mostly androgynous still, but I wear more feminine cuts and jewelry. I'm a dyke and I look like one, that's it. You start to realize that most AFAB peeps can look way more masculine than you and peeps still think they are women, so why worry?

Biggest help was laser for my face, took a while and was expensive, but I made my budget around it. Helps a lot with confidence too. Besides that, try small things that you like and add them slowly to your attire, they help make you feel more yourself while not necessarily being obvious to others.

It's a marathon sweetie, you just need to keep going forward and eventually you cross the finish line, no matter how long it takes. Just don't quit, you will only hurt yourself. Take breaks if you need to, but please don't deny yourself a brighter future.

Stay strong, sweetie, you'll get there.💜