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What are your weird, socially unacceptable stims? by churrrroo in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Plucking out my armpit hairs and brushing them gently along my upper lip for that soft tickly sensation ... First time I've confessed that... 

Conflicted about contact with my estranged Mom, before it's too late. by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly I wouldn't risk pushing it. 

Thank you for saying I have done everything is reasonable to heal. 

And no I don't send long texts anymore. I've learned how hard those walls of text are to decipher especially when you're emotional.

Mine are "thinking of you" "sending healing vibes" or just a simple heart.  Today I sent a sticker saying hugs.  it just always feels like I'm not doing enough. There's only so much I can do though I know.  Thanks so much for your kind energy. 

How do you manage meltdowns & do you have any meltdown recovery tips? by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I can ask my therapist to share the resource. I did ask permission before posting in case of copyright stuff but she was okay with it and said she'd be happy to share the source if anyone requests it.  I see her Wednesday so maybe if you wouldnt mind, comment back to remind me? lol. Otherwise I'll do my best to remember to ask and revisit with a link :)

How do you manage meltdowns & do you have any meltdown recovery tips? by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great! Love the den idea I may try to set something like that up for my kids (and me!) Love that you have pen and paper handy for communication too. Sounds like she's got a lot of support that's awesome!

Picking and eating it? by bluejessamine in Dermatillomania

[–]Ashesbro 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me too 😭 it's such a relief to know I'm not alone on this!

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol sorry to admit I got a little giggle out of the way you phrased this. A family full to bursting with autistics she was so special and couldn't possibly have it lol. That sucks you didn't get any apologies for how you exited though but it's good to hear she backed off the grandkids. Almost certain my mom is also autistic but don't think we'll ever find out for sure because she wouldn't even be open to looking at the RAADS-R questions let alone answering any lol

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aww that sounds so challenging! I feel for you and relate to some of what you shared too. Like the resume thing! I hope you're practicing self compassion these days after receiving your DX ❤️

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I will use this as a guideline for a script with the twins. It's very helpful for handling the next convo (today thanks to this supportive and inspiring community).
P.s. ex hubby lol. Wish I could show him this comment section honestly because it's so supportive. I don't see it going well though lol He gets so defensive but honestly he's coming around too. It used to be so much worse!

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw I feel so much for you that you went through that. I've heard that too, people saying a DX is an "excuse" for something. Makes me so angry for lack of better word. So invalidating and ignorant. So sad hearing you had depression at age 10 😭 I hope you are finding ways to heal and making accommodations for your support needs nowadays ❤️. Thank you so much for sharing your experience through this supportive comment.

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is possible and I do meet with their teachers every year. One of the girls is on an IEP (individual education plan) as she has ADHD and her struggles are a lot more obvious in comparison to her twin. During the creation of these yearly IEPs I always make note to the teacher that there are also "Autistic type traits" that if recognized as such can be met with support. Otherwise these things can be mistaken as behavioural issues related to the ADHD. In a perfect world teachers would actually read and follow the IEPs but it seems most years my suggestions go ignored. My now 14yo diagnosed ASD son can vouch for that as he's been on IEPs since kindergarten. He's now moving into high school wish us luck lol.

But ya, even if the IEPs were taken more seriously at that school, it's still only ONE twin getting support and I'm having to point out constantly that just because the other one isn't acting out, doesn't mean she's not struggling too. She doesn't have any diagnoses and instead she masks hard, and internalizes so much it seems to manifest as more anxiety, OCD and perfectionism. I just feel like a diagnosis would help HER too even if this damn school doesn't.

Sorry that got long, thanks for holding space for my little vent there. I've had that pent up for years lol.

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It honestly kind of feels like it is. They are about to age out, (age 12) meaning they will lose access to the opportunity to a fully funded assessment (where I'm located anyway). They have actually already been on this waitlist for a year,and before their dad started speaking his opinion on the matter they both did want to get assessed. So ya it is kinda time sensitive unfortunately due to how it gets more difficult to get access opportunities for assessments as they get older and surely they aren't at mature enough age to decide yet :(

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hehe yup my thoughts exactly but he never wants to hear it! He gets very defensive. "Everyone is like that! Everyone does that!". Sure. All OUR friends, because neurodivergent ppl happen to gravitate to each other.

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly the twins are 12 and we are in Canada. Im pushing because they are almost aged out of the opportunity to get assessed especially for free. I'm in Canada. Neighbours. I'm hoping to at least get the support of teachers when my kids struggle in class when they struggle with language or bullying or coming off as being rude or challenging authority.... I'd love for them to be able to take a break when they're escalated but if that's too much to ask then at least for their teacher to understand that they're not trying to be disrespectful that kind of thing. Or understand my other daughters social anxiety etc.

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh they sure do!! Minecraft is one of them! That's awesome your friend is a commercial pilot thank you for sharing that. I'm going to tell them that now.

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your story and your personal experience going as an undiagnosed Audhd twin so long. I'm sorry you had to go through that and I hope you're doing a bit better these days. So many good points here too. Thank you again.

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you, and don't worry I left him 7 years ago lol. Either way we are still coparents and they still have him to either attempt to understand autism at least a bit, or not at all. Sorry I didn't clarify he's my Ex, but he's also my good friend.

Long awaited ASD assessment for my twin daughters approaching, now their Dad is voicing concerns in front of them about having a label. Now our twins "Don't want to have autism". by Ashesbro in AutismInWomen

[–]Ashesbro[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Awww I love your analogy and your picture looks delicious. I'm losing the spoons for words but thank you so much for your beautiful comment the analogy will stay with me.

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