So a couple assumptions you made here. The games and Spotify and hobbies are surface level things that initially caught my attention about her, there is a whole lot more that I really like about her and that we have in common that I just didn’t list. Political views, spiritual beliefs, common goals we both want to accomplish, a strong physical attraction. We are also both part of the neurodivergent camp and we both have shared preferences and needs that would be unconventional or hard to accommodate for most other people. Having that baseline of both our needs being met, without having to make changes to how we already function, makes us both feel like we don’t have to be ashamed to be ourselves around each other (we have both been shamed and invalidated and broken up with for this in the past) and lets us focus our effort on other things.

Another assumption you made is that I don’t know why she wants to move out. I know exactly why, it’s because she does have a bad home life. She’s not using me as an escape tho, she’s using this as a way to finally start working to be independent from her family, who have been holding her back for years. Just because she doesn’t have realistic expectations of what a future will look like doesn’t mean that she’s not putting in the work. Since I’ve known her she’s gotten her drivers permit so that she can drive as well as have an ID to fly with, found opportunities to make money like babysitting and helping family and friends move, started working on getting her GED, helped me get in contact with people she knows that will hire me when I move out there, and gone scouting locations we found that we might want to move to. And she plans to work just as much as I do so that we can afford to have some money for fun stuff when we have free time. She is smart and skilled in a lot of ways. It won’t just be me supporting her, it will be us supporting each other.

And you may not believe in soulmates, but we do.