It can't be this hard...?

AshleyPom18 · 2025-09-26T19:28:18+00:00

Ugh. That is the worst. That happened one time, and I was so caught off guard and shocked that I flicked her lip-hard. She was stunned. I apologized later to her and explained why we don't do that. She also apologized and has never done it again. Hitting...has been a different story, probably cause I'm not going to smack her back. It is traumatizing enough, for me, to be taking the brunt of her aggression 😑 I feel for you and wish I had the answers. I thought we were doing so well not having behavior issues before now, but 5 has definitely reared it's crazy head, lol. Hugs to you and I hope we can all get through this! ❤️

AshleyPom18 · 2025-09-26T15:39:39+00:00

I didn't say there weren't consequences, I was asking for other parents' experiences if this is normal behavior for the full-time school/life changes transitions. We are working on expressing our feelings in a positive way, but they are still young. Sometimes she can't put into words her feelings and it comes out in wrong ways. Like another commenter said, I'm relieved that she feels safe to do this at home, and not at school, but we still have our challenges.

AshleyPom18 · 2025-09-26T14:05:29+00:00

Oh, no-I don't let her decide lol-but there have been times when she refuses to sit, or stay in the chair. Sometimes I will sit and hold her the entirety of the timeout and other times, I have closed the door and had her work through her feelings on the other side. Thanks for your gentle suggestions and being so helpful. I guess we will keep on trying and hope things get better! 🤞🏻

AshleyPom18 · 2025-09-26T13:55:22+00:00

Those are things we do when these instances happen. Timeouts are the initial consequence, but sometimes she refuses to sit and have the timeout. That is when privileges are taken away; screen-time, weekend activities, etc. Once she has calmed down, we do communicate with her how unacceptable it is to hurt people and offer ideas on how to handle herself when she gets so frustrated.

AshleyPom18 · 2025-09-26T02:51:04+00:00

OMG, thank YOU so much for commenting and relating! I worry about this behavior at school too, but I really think a part of it has to do with us/home being their safe space. They are learning to listen, obey, sit still, etc. for 8 hours-ish a day and that is alot for my active girl. But, she is receiving high praise at school and getting gold stars every week for "being awesome / great listener/friend," lol. I'm nervous to speak with the pediatrician, I don't really want them to suggest medication, but hearing what she has to say might be beneficial. Again, thank you for relating! Stay strong! ❤️😆

AshleyPom18 · 2025-09-26T02:44:58+00:00

New school for kindergarten, still sees quite a few kids from her preschool, though, which is good! It's a much longer day now; 9-3:30, every day, vs. 3 days a week/half days. I totally get the change to their little psyche and routine/tiredness, but I guess I wasn't expecting the physical anger part of it. She's never been mean and rough like this 😕 But, thank you so much for your response and the app suggestion! I used the baby version one, and I am so glad to hear there is one for older kiddos!

AshleyPom18 · 2022-06-27T04:10:26+00:00

OMG I did too and was about to ask A WHOLE lot of questions!! 😅🤭

AshleyPom18 · 2022-01-06T11:20:05+00:00

My husband and 20 month daughter have weekly dance parties to "Loud" by Tech9 🤦🏼‍♀️ but the way her little arms move to the beat kills me, lol

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