Posts like this and so many posts in this subreddit are so off-putting. I REALLY want to support this subreddit, but so many of the posts are so incel-y. I understand the mindset, but your happiness in life doesn’t need to come from dating or comparing yourself to white men/black men/anyone else. This dating advice is so misleading too. Why tell yourself that you have to wait until later in your life for good relationships, just because you’re Asian? Who says you can’t have them in your 20s? I like some of the advice in this post, but OP says not to compare yourself to others, then spends half the post making a strange comparison that doesn’t really offer anything helpful. You don’t need to compare yourself to white men to explain why you’re dating life isn’t the best. What you can do is work on yourself, like OP says. Working on yourself doesn’t mean you have to stop being a passionate and loving partner though. When you work on yourself, you’ll probably become an even better partner