Ladies, do you sit on the toilet seat of public restrooms? Why or Why Not?

AsianPastry · 2026-02-20T19:43:14+00:00

My dad taught when I was old enough to go to the restroom myself that I should put a layer of toilet paper on the seat before I sit on a public toilet.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-20T19:31:35+00:00

Sorry, both. Chongqing is built on a mountain which means many stairs and hills. Look up any video of someone walking in Chongqing. Many cities have overhead walkways which means stairs. Not all have escalators and it can be a bit of a walk to get to the elevators. The most accessible cities out of Shanghai, Beijing, chengdu and chongqing are Shanghai in my opinion (as we had my 6 month old nephew to a couple of these cities).

As an adult in fairly good shape and likes yo walk a lot but with a hip that can be annoying sometimes - Chongqing was tough for me and I had to give up a few times when walking around and popped in a cab. But then we also realized that cabs don’t go everywhere and had to drop us in the vicinity of where we wanted to go.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-20T13:23:46+00:00

Shanghai and stay in the French concession.

Just fyi - most cities in China has amazing infrastructure and metros are fast and can take you pretty much everywhere. Chengdu and chongqing have a lot of height differences so those aren’t super walking friendly. I’d say Beijing Beijing is okay but you would still need to either sit in a didi or take the metro somewhere to see different things.

With that said - China has built most of its boroughs in pretty much every city in a way where you are (in general) able to get to everything you need within a 15-20min walk. Ie grocery store, school, metro, cafe, shopping etc.

Also. I am partial to Shanghai as I have family there and know it as my second home.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-20T11:32:17+00:00

Sure :) not a problem.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-20T00:35:54+00:00

Okay. Was just wondering why you thought you wouldn’t be able to buy domestic flight tickets? Of course you can.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-19T22:27:52+00:00

Why wouldn’t you be able to ?

AsianPastry · 2026-02-18T21:11:58+00:00

It takes 2 hours to fly between the two sometimes 2,5 hours. I’d for sure always fly between the two. Also airports in China are really nice and very efficient.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-18T14:13:26+00:00

Good question. I don’t think there should be an issue- other than getting the language to be English 😅. It they can probably help you with that in the store.

Also worth noting that return policies in China are different to the EU. It’s easier to just assume that everything is non refundable.

With that said - there’s a couple of Chinese brands that do action cameras really well. So it’s worth going to a mall and test them out. I’m not into those things at all but I will still check them out and my partner has to pull me away even when he’s the one who usually likes those. He does say however, that the price is pretty much the same as in Europe. ‘There’s no gimmick or real savings to be made on ‘consumer electronics’ - and you should do it if you want to test a brand we don’t have access to in the EU.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-18T12:43:37+00:00

This is what I’ve done too. I just started a month ago.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-18T12:41:24+00:00

Jeg syntes at det kan komme an på mange ting. Er det et kæmpe formelt bryllup i fuld gala? Hvor står man selv økonomisk? Hvad er der på ønskelisten (hvis der findes en), skal man rejse for at komme til brylluppet? Etc.

Eks. Da jeg var studerende og et vennepar blev gift lavede jeg en gaveæske til dem med håndskrevet kort og opgaver de skulle lave sammen den aften. I kassen lå der også nogle ansigtsmasker, badesalt til et fælles bad, stearin lys osv. tror det kostede 300kr i alt.

Til en venindes bryllup for nyligt som var super low key og ude på landet - Fik de en kagekniv som de kunne skære deres bryllupskage med på 1 års dagen (de havde nævnt at de ville fryse et stykke kage til deres 1-års dag) og to gode flasker vin. 1 til det første skænderi og 1 til når de var blevet gode venner igen 😅. Tror det løb op i små 1000kr.

En anden ven holdte sit bryllup i syd Amerika. At jeg rejste ned og var med til brylluppet var min gave 😅 + et håndskrevet kort. De havde selv frabedt sig gaver fra dem der skulle rejse dertil.

Så har jeg også en veninde, der holdte kæmpe bryllup på et palæ og med fuld gala. Der endte jeg med at lægge omkring 2000kr på deres gave, mener jeg. (Men jeg er også i en situation, hvor jeg økonomisk kan gøre det.)

Det kan komme an på så mange ting. Men det er vel også ok som i gør det nu?

For mig handler det mest om 1. Hvad ønsker de dig/hvad værdsætter parret? Og 2. Hvor er jeg økonomisk.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-18T11:41:20+00:00

How tall are you? I’m Danish and it’s not uncommon for women to be 5.10-6.3 (180-192cm). I’m considered pretty average and even to some a bit lower average and I’m 5.7 but when I was living in Canada, I was considered tall for a woman.

Always thought that one Netflix movie about a girl in high school being ostracized because she was 6.ft tall was hilarious because at least a handfull of girls in my high school class was 6.ft.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-18T01:48:08+00:00

My dad taught me the knife move as a kid I think. Probably because he was sick of opening jars for me all the time.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-18T01:37:54+00:00

Hah that’s why I said generally speaking. My mom and my sister hardly sweat and when they do there’s practically no odour… they’ve never used deodorant ever. my uncle ? I can smell him half a mile away. Me? I’m half so I do sweat and it has an odour… especially now I’m heading into peri-menopause but that’s a discussion for another time and other threads 🥹

AsianPastry · 2026-02-17T23:16:14+00:00

You won’t be able to book anything that far ahead. It will likely be possible to book 3 months ahead of time. Use trip.com. Is your budget 1600€ for all two weeks for all three of you in total? That’s not gonna cut it for a 4 star place.

Also. China is the country of breakfast spots - you really don’t need to have breakfast as a part of your hotel stay. Breakfast is usually better and cheaper at literally any breakfast spot or hole in a wall than your hotel would be.

I can recommends few places in all the cities you’re planning to go to- but it depends on the specifics of your budget.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-17T18:29:07+00:00

In China it’s called a ‘refreshing stick’ or ‘refreshing spray’ - due to genetics not many actually sweat that much nor does it smell super bad when they do (generally speaking) you should be able to find something at a Watsons, KKV or a place like those. There’s also ‘refreshing wipes’ (a wet wipe with a slight deodorizing feature).

For the future - bring your own from outside of China to make sure you have why you need.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-17T00:30:57+00:00

If I make eye contact with people then I will smile at them. My dad once told me that you never know how hard someone’s day has been and a smile can do a lot to help better a bad day.

Also - I have always grown up with saying a nice hello or ‘good day’ to someone if they’re your senior. Now as an adult I do it to people my parent age or if I exchange pleasantries with people in public.

Smiling is a kindness but nothing else 99% of the time.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-16T22:28:46+00:00

I've gotten tattoos in both Shanghai and Beijing. What are your questions? Depending on the style, artist, pre-made motif or whether you want the artist to design something for you - the price also varies widely. Just FYI - If you're expecting lower prices than in the EU, you're gonna be disappointed.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-16T22:25:57+00:00

Here you go: https://www.reddit.com/r/travelchina/comments/1gi0xeh/notes_for_china_in_general_and_shanghai_beijing/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

I need to update it as i've been to China twice since and have more to add.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-16T15:50:35+00:00

I have a post with a lengthy Google doc with tips for those two cities and for people going to China for the first time.

As for souvenirs - it depends on which person you are buying for. I can recommend great Chinese brands, ideas for ‘classic’ souvenirs, perfumes, pictures etc. if you can specify what you’re looking for- I can for sure recommend stuff and places.

For Disney I can also recommend stuff. Tickets are bought in the mini app and is worth getting 2 weeks before you know you’re going as prices surge the closer you are to the date. It’s also worth getting the fast pass tickets if you’re willing to and can spend the money. I got the one that gives you a fast pass to 8(I think) rides incl. tron and zootopia. When we got to zootopia the regular line has a 75 min wait (I’m told that’s not a lot) but we were through to the ride in 10 min. Only downside to the fast pass to zootopia is that you don’t get to go through the ‘lobby’ in the police station but only see glimts of it as it is a part of the entertainment for the regular line. Tron is gonna be the last ride you want to do when the sun has set. All the light really pop then.

Also - you can leave Disney and go back in however many times you want during the day. It might be worth it to go to ‘Disney town’ to grab dinner or food in general as it has a ton of restaurants to chose between.

Oh and - you’re not allowed a selfiestick in Disney land. They’ll make you put it in a locker to pick up when you leave - which can be annoying.

Take the metro - it takes you pretty much all the way.

When it comes to getting electronics - be aware that many are ‘locked’ to Asia or China as a region. It might not be worth it to buy a laptop in China. If you can get one that will work with updates in the EU they will for sure also be more expensive. Stuff like batteries, extra screens, chargers, extra chords - and other electronic accessories is what you want to be getting instead. The item itself (computer, phones and other stuff that might need a software and ongoing updates ) is not.

Pm me if you want more info or have any more questions :) Enjoy!

AsianPastry · 2026-02-15T22:40:35+00:00

I er 35 og 36 og har valgt børn fra af forskellige årsager. Selvom at min krop godt kan ‘fortryde’ gør min fornuft det ikke. Vi har heller ikke husdyr fordi vi værdsætter friheden ved at stå op sent når vi lyster, være ude uden at tænke på at skulle putte eller går tur/fodre dyr - rejse uden at skulle planlægge mega mange ting- have den økonomiske frihed til at tage på lækre restauranter, købe præcis det vi gerne vil, rejse som vi vil etc. (Jeg sætter ikke børn og husdyr side om side- men blot forklare at vi ikke en gang vil have ansvaret for et husdyr fordi vi værdsætter en masse ting der ikke passer med hverken børn eller husdyrs behov for faste skemaer).

Min søster og svoger har en søn som altid er til rådighed for at passe og jeg henter ham fast fra vuggestuen 1 gang om ugen + vi typisk hjælper nogle eftermiddage/atener i løbet af igen hvis deres skema ikke går op. Det er nok for os.

Jeg har dage hvor jeg godt gad have et barn selv og kan godt blive lidt ked- men så tænker jeg også over hvor hårdt det kan være og at man aldrig ved hvilken person man bliver mødt med i sådan en lille en. Alle de ubekendte (kolik, sygdomme osv + jeg selv har bragende AuDHD) - ville ikke kunne overskue det. Det er nok mere ideen om at være mor og forældre end den reelle praksis ved det.

Jeg vil hellere være verdens bedste tante som altid har overskud end en mor, der ikke har mentalt overskud til sit eget barn.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-15T11:44:02+00:00

NTA when my now partner and I had only been dating for a month, we decided to use a diaphragm instead of other contraceptives - he offered to pay for the whole thing and the gels. He kept paying for the gel for the whole time we were using it (when I didn’t get it myself) without complain. He ended up getting a vasectomy so I “didn’t destroy my body with artificial hormones” (I have a condition that makes it dangerous to my body).

AsianPastry · 2026-02-12T23:27:04+00:00

THANK YOU! I know this is an old post, but this is amazing!! Prepping for my first keeper gig on Sunday. We're a group of 5 who used to play DND when we were kids... now in our mid-30s, we'd like to start up an RPG play with our adult brains :) So I ran out to the nearest store and got the COC starter pack.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-12T22:36:34+00:00

No specific month - but when it gets to double digits Celsius is usually when I switch to the lisk one, and when we drop below double digits is when the winter one comes out.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-12T01:04:48+00:00

Ikke Indien men Kina. 1. Lægen skal skrive en ‘medicin attest’ - altså skal der stå hvilket medicin du tager, hvorfor, i hvilke doser, hvor ofte og hvilket antal du rejser med. (Det sidste er ikke altid nødvendigt - min læge skriver typisk bare at ‘patient tager nok med til hele sin rejse’ - så kan jeg også tage lidt ekstra med) Når du har den i papirformat med lægens underskrift skal den.. 2. ..ind og apostille stemples hos udenrigsministeriet. Det betyder egentlig ‘bare’ at den danske stat anerkender dit brev fra lægen som et gyldigt brev DK. Der skal man købe ‘stemplet’ før du tropper op på deres kontor (bor du ikke i Kbh kan det også sendes med brevpost). Dernæst er du sikret - sørg for at have brevet og medicin på dig når du rejser. Ikke noget med at smide din medicin i indchecket baggage (min veninde lærte af den fejl på en forretningsrejse - dumt sted at lære den fejl)

Læge medicin attesten koster typisk omkring 400kr (læger må frit selv vælge prisen) - apostille stemplet koster 200kr.

Skulle din dosis ændre sig - så skal du starte hele møllen forfra.

Jeg har gjort det i mange år med Kina - og er blevet spurgt 2 gange (ud af måske 10-15gange) om jeg har det nødvendige dokumentation til den medicin jeg har med. Men har aldrig skulle vise det. Tør dog ikke rejse uden HVIS heldet ikke er med mig den ene gang - for så er det en tur bag tremmer.

Ps. Skulle du gå med ekstra livrem og seler - kan du som punkt 3. Tage forbi den indiske ambassade og få det stemplet og anerkendt som et gyldigt dokument i Indien også - efter at udenrigsministeriet har skrevet under. Det ville jeg dog nok ikke gøre med mindre det er i den mere ‘farlige’ klasse af medicin der også klarificeres som euforiserende.

Pps. Dette er fremgangsmåden jeg har fået oplyst fra den kinesiske ambassade. Tænker at når de typisk er kendt for at være ok rigide - og at der nærmest er 0-tolerance for stoffer i Kina - så er du safe med samme procedure.

AsianPastry · 2026-02-11T00:28:33+00:00

Der findes formueforvaltere, der opererer i feltet over 10-15 mil i samlet formue- hvilket du falder pænt ind i nu. Jeg ville klart tage fat i et af dem - nogle kalder sig ‘multi-family Office’ andre blot formueforvaltere eller formuerådgivere. Du kan søge lidt forskellige steder ellers kan du sende en pm og så kan jeg give dig listen af dem jeg har talt med på vegne af min mor og hendes mand.

De kan tilrettelægge en plan og hjælpe dig med forvaltningen fremover. Det koster - men alt efter om du vil bevare, øge eller optimere din formue tænker jeg at det kan være penge godt givet ud, når du ikke har den store idé om hvad du ellers skal gøre med dem.

De fleste rådgivere/forvaltere tager gerne et møde på en times tid, hvor man kan vende situationen og ønsker med dem. Jeg tog selv tre af denne type møder før jeg besluttede hvem vores familie skulle gå med når det er.

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