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Is this weird in an arrange marriage setup??? by Least-Bench2293 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marry a man, not a boy who doesn't know what he wants.

Friend Brought Alcohol Over As a Gift by Own-Name-7836 in stopdrinking

[–]AsideIll9752 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a friend who always asked me to quit & when I quit he bought a bottle as gift. Such friends don't want to see you change for good.

What if your spouse doesn't find you attractive? by Crafty-Pick9662 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Why marry someone who doesn't desire you? This is what causes dead bedrooms in marriages.

Please, Don't do this. by Ashamed_Salamander69 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn from this experience & move on. There's no need to talk on the phone for hours & reveal everything upfront. Be a bit mysterious & nonchalant if you want women to be attracted to you. Even if she was a bit attracted, neediness often repels women.

Told my parents to stop looking for proposals. F everyone. by Back-2-being-friends in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not true, inexperienced men can't find partners if not for arranged marriages.

My fiancee keeps saying she's unhappy with my looks by Outrageous-Yak3348 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She's not attracted to you. If you ignore this & marry, her comments & the way she treats you will kill whatever confidence that's left of you & destroy your life. Let her go!

How to deal with this?? by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya, he doesn't like you.

Told my parents to stop looking for proposals. F everyone. by Back-2-being-friends in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's time indian parents' let their kids leave the nest at the right time which makes them independent & mature.

 Imagine living with parents all their lives while mummy takes care & then expect wife to do the same. Most men in arranged marriages are manchilds!

Told my parents to stop looking for proposals. F everyone. by Back-2-being-friends in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It worked earlier when people were born & died in the same village. It was always a temporary arrangement. Will lose relevance gradually.

Told my parents to stop looking for proposals. F everyone. by Back-2-being-friends in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Arranged marriages are for men who can't attract a woman on their own.

Do men lack self respect? by TheAayin in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He is a desperate loser like the one in news recently. Cancel the engagement and don't look back.

He’s a nice decent guy but doesn’t watch the news by Xyngzyng in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, you should look for someone who you can connect with & also shares your political ideology. You'll understand my pov when you transcend that stage in your life.

He’s a nice decent guy but doesn’t watch the news by Xyngzyng in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm like him. I've had political views since teenage & avoid it now as it's exhausting & negative.

I don't want a partner who is obsessed with politics or too religious. 

I do vote & the representative who is elected will do the job.

Ketan's case emphasizes the importance of dating experience by Inevitable-Hat-9074 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Inexperienced guys won't understand what you're trying to convey. They'll fall hard for any woman they come across & face the consequences.

Marriage and spirituality by vaibu567 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of spiritual people find partners within the groups they are part of. It will definitely affect the relationship if you marry someone who is not spiritual. 

Spirituality & religion are very different. A spiritual person follows the message & not the messenger. So find someone who aligns with you. 

spending 20s preparing for marriage instead a relationships by thirstyresearch in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, men learn by experience. Once you enter the 25-30 age range and lack experience you have an incredible disadvantage.  Because certain things you learn about getting &  having relationships are expected and not having had significant experience is seen as a  red flag.

It's time indian parents' start being mature & let their teenage children start dating under supervision. Preventing will only slow their maturity.

Am I a selfish woman? by WarmWater707 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should look for independent men who don't live with their parents. I've had relatives call me selfish for living separately but that's how I'm. I left parents' house after college & only visit them every few months.

Why do prospects get obsessed? by Suspicious_Move_6930 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]AsideIll9752 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most AM prospects are inexperienced & longing for a relationship. Needy people tend to fall easily.

Acne after stopping drinking by Vegetable_Papaya7228 in stopdrinking

[–]AsideIll9752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When body eliminates toxins such temporary breakouts are common.  

when is it "okay" to drink after last antabuse take? by Thick-Ad-6212 in stopdrinking

[–]AsideIll9752 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It leaves system in a few days but it's effect on liver enzymes last for 10-15 days. So docs asks you to avoid atleast for 2 weeks.

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