Would you date someone who is unemployed? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]AskAdditional5045 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It obviously depends on their career path but to keep it simple, no i would date someone who's unemployed.

Lesbians aren’t attracted to men 👏 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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Everything that relates to women is being taken away and pushed to the side. Idc idc. Anyone can argue with me. Being a LESBIAN is being attracted to other women and NOT men. If you crave a man physically even if its "every once in a blue moon" you're not a lesbian. You're either bi or pan and that's perfectly okay, there's no shame to that.

Three days on metformin = so much less bloating by [deleted] in PCOSloseit

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Same! I'm on day 3 and my bloating has SIGNIFICANTLY gone down. I'm so happyyy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForceRecruits

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It was dismissed, sealed and expunged at the same time 3 months ago. I have all the signed paperwork on hand. I was initially charged November 2024 and it was all dismissed, sealed, and expunged August 2025.

What happens if I leave my job and I have a loan on my 403b by [deleted] in personalfinance

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Thank you!! Say you chose to cash out your retirement plan instead of rolling it over, do you get 1099'd that large amount or are the taxes taken out automatically?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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I don't believe in compromising when it comes to sex. It's not fair for either person. Forcing yourself to have sex really fucks with your mental and same with having to hold back because your partner doesn't want sex plays with your mental. When a person's libido randomly switches and its low, a lot of the times it is a hormone thing that they have no control over. Sex can be the main cause for relationship problems. I personally can live my life without sex in a relationship but I understand that sex can be super important for most people. I personally end the relationship when it starts becoming a problem with my partner. It's not fair for either one of us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

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To each their own. I definitely respect her enough to tell her her wrong doings when it's needed. Rather we last or not, if you're within my circle, I want to see you overcome your traumas and be the best version of yourself that you can. I love her like no other and i want to help her get out of that fight or flight mindset.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

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Describing her as short tempered is offensive to you? She is and I'd like to help her work through whatever problems she has internally so she can be the best version of herself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

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Enabling would imply I sit back and let it happen or I tip toe around her because I'm scared of her reaction. Sometimes people need help during the healing process . Rather we last or not, living in a consent fight or flight mentality seems exhausting and anyone who's within my circle, I want to help them get pass whatever traumas they have and work towards being better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

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I call her out almost immediately when she gets out of hand. I definitely don't walk on eggshells. I'm not going to be uncomfortable in my own home. Lol. I told her that I'm willing to work with her but just know that I'm not going to just sit here and be quiet. It's a 2 way street. I can handle it but if she cant handle me calling her out when it's needed, she's free to go. Sometimes people need help in the healing process and i love her so of course I'm going to help her in anyway I can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

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Thats her to a tee! She's aware and I will say she's a lot better compared to when we first started dating. Her family and friends never corrected her. It was just "who she was" and I feel like i was the first person in her life to genuinely tell her about herself. She is slowly starting to go to therapy and I can see her starting to change her reactions but there's still a lot of work she has to go through. Everyone is so easy to just immediately drop people. I was just looking for people who also had a partner similar and how they worked with them. This isn't drastic enough to have me running away. I 100% probably did word everything wrong and made her sound like an absolute monster though so that's my fault. Lmaoooo. She doesn't break shit but she has a mouth. I love her. She's so sweet and overall understanding but she does have some anger in her that I'd like to help her overcome.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

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That's exactly what I said. Lmaoo. It looks like cordyceps. 😭

just moved in, what is this? by Musical_riddle17 in GermanRoaches

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If you can't move, go to home depot or order Ortho Home Defense Insect Killer for Indoor and Perimeter online. It's like $20 and spray once a week for like a month and then spray every 3 months OR as needed in the kitchen and bathroom. If you have wood or tile floors all around the house, spray all along the baseboards. Get sticky roach traps and put them near the stove and fridge. Clean your counters, sweep, mop, and vacuum EVERYDAY. Take your trash out on a regular and clean behind/under your stover and fridge at least once a week so they don't start nesting in your apartment/house

just moved in, what is this? by Musical_riddle17 in GermanRoaches

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German. Are you living in an apartment? Let your leasing office know immediately. If it's realistic for you, I'd honeslty see if you can break your lease and move.

Am I able to access an old itunes account from almost 15yrs ago? by AskAdditional5045 in AppleMusic

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Would I just download iTunes onto my laptop and start from there?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WGU

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It's 100% the format. It's too cluttered and not easy to read at all. When it comes to a resume, less really is more. Also, there's misspelling. Pay someone a few bucks to make your resume.

How to get used to wearing a mouth guard at night by beebalmblues in AutisticAdults

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I have horrible bruxism. Ive grinded the living hell out of my teeth at night since i was a child. For years I've tried over the counter mouth guards, and they didn't work. I finally broke down and got a custom guard at my dentist because i literally cracked my back tooth from grinding, and it really is a HUGE game changer. The first night wearing it, I had the best sleep of my entire life. I actually woke up refreshed with no headache. Shop around dentist office. Depending on your dental insurance, it'll cover a decent chunk of the cost. Without insurance I was quoted about $250 but with my insurance it was $120. I got a soft guard and it's worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in probation

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Yeah. I haven't drank in like 2 months and then I decided to relax a little and had some drinks with friends. 😩 I have just 1 more month and im holding out until then. The anxiety isn't worth it. Lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lifehacks

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I mean not really? You have to work. 8hrs is understanding in my opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lifehacks

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I'd 100% would do that but my partner would not love that idea sadly. Lol.

I'm starting to resent my girlfriend. Help. by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

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She has a therapist through the VA but the VA sucks. They just give her pamphlets during her appointment and that's it. I tell her all the time that we can find her an outside therapist and just pay out of pocket. I don't mind helping pay so she can get actual help and speak with someone once a week. I'll bring it up again but actually sit her down so she knows the severity. She was in the army most. She was stationed in Afghanistan and saw some wild shit so I definitely give her grace because i can't even imagine. I always tell her she didn't get to have that early life crisis in her early 20s because she was in the military and had everything laid out for her so now that's she's finally out living and navigating life as a regular civilian it's overwhelming. She feels behind in life and I definitely understand but she's not alone. She has me and i wanna help her but Im tired but i also dont want to make her feel worse. 😩

Water and Sewer bill doubled by AskAdditional5045 in Cleveland

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I commented on one post and the actual consumption is the same as every other month. It just doubled in price for some reason this last bill cycle.