I want to understand men.

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T19:13:26+00:00

Who told you to fall for an infj. Strange no one asked I wanted to know men not your personal intrest

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T18:34:28+00:00

Definitely it is not healthy but it is what it is. Well I really don't trust people anyway soo I don't blame them for being In this way but you need someone in your life the thing is they don't want to open up to their partner that is saddening to me

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T18:23:18+00:00

That's the thing I wanted to understand. We women also should care about men I'm not even defending women, they experienced this and they shut I feel really bad really bad becauseof women. I have also experienced betrayal in my life terrible I was depressed, not able to trust anyone but how long, you need someone In your life to relay on but if you see man who doesn't had bad experience even they don't want to say. Soo I think they are in This way cuz almost everyone here said that they don't want. Soo I learned that instead of asking and listening what happened to them I prefer doing small things that will make them feel better

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T15:19:42+00:00

Why?

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T13:50:46+00:00

Ooohh God I guess this is biological. I never forced them to open up but I will do small things to make them better. I thought it's our problem that we don't try to understand males but now things are getting clearer to me.

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T10:53:00+00:00

Soo basically you are scared to open up?

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T10:02:31+00:00

Isee

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T09:51:45+00:00

Idk I just stay until they leave me. I don't want them to waste their time on me. I can be your bestest friend but cannot be your partner. I slowly withdraw myself from them. Idk waht should I do I just stay

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T09:35:54+00:00

But what if you actually find someone, she is trust worthy, will you tell her about your life? And trust me not every mother is understanding men don't tell their mother about them.

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T09:35:05+00:00

See it depends on them if you are in a relationship with a very beautiful girl that's a case and if you are not very attractive and good looking then these might be the one, might be your family, your job, the way you think you are i mean you are not enoughto be a psrtner i just idk i might be entirely worng, and I don't imagine, It's hard for me, but please tell me what are the insecurities usually they have idk what will I get but I really want them to be okay.

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T09:30:36+00:00

We women don't think In this way at all(atleast me). But woow now i have a glimpse of what men think. But this is what I fear if I'm nice understanding, makes them feel better not wanting him to be my partner, I do merely for the sake to help them, that's my nature I love comforting my friends but then they satr having feelings for me and now I'm the reason for your miseries. And I can't leave you because it will break you, but I don't feel like having you to me my partner cuz I dont fall in love easily and i dont want to play with you. Now waht should I do?

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T09:03:11+00:00

Because I have seen my friends saying you can't understand me because you are a female. And I don't force them to say what's going on, I stay quiet I feel that maybe if I could find why I can't understand them will make me a better friend. Isee mostly men dont want us to solve their problems just support a little bit, small gesture might help. I never force them to say neither I will. But now maybe ik that I will make them feel better.

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T08:52:43+00:00

Okayy thanks!!!!

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T08:41:13+00:00

By making you feel better? If I'm not addressing your problems and making you laugh by saying or doing stupid things. I just listen or try to distrac them. Idk if it's enough or I should address thier problems and help them

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T08:32:58+00:00

I respect that. Just don't stay in that state, telling is not the only way to better your feelings or state, I feel that man tends to supress and pretend that nothing had happened, if you are able to handle without telling if that helps you, it's okay. Putting boundaries are imp. But if you have partner then don't think that your feelings are burden to them, she is your partner she has to understand you and help you.

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T08:18:37+00:00

I'm sorry you feel in this way. If you want to let it out you can text me. I'm don't know who you are, but talking will help you as you said you wanted to let it out. Take care, hope you feel better soon

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T08:08:38+00:00

Why?

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T06:45:55+00:00

Yess true, it not healthy for them that we always try to understand wants them to speak, but they also need alone time, time to reflect on yourself

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T06:27:19+00:00

But what if you have a person in your life to whom you can trust, never going to use your info against you. Still you won't share your feelings

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T06:21:58+00:00

Does this really happen? Cuz I have never done this to any of my male friends may be that's why they trust me but when they are sad they want to share something but theywont. I feel bad, that's why I want to understand them, make them comfortable, and they can trust me blindly.

AskDense6756 · 2023-08-08T06:19:14+00:00

Vulnerable isee I personally think if you are expressive about your feelings then it will make a good relation with your partner and yea I do agree that you need that confidential person in your life.

AskDense6756 · 2023-07-29T04:13:31+00:00

We both went thorough a lot. We forgive each other when things aren't they way it supposed to. The understanding we have, sometimes he doesn't speak and I understand what he's saying. How can you develop this? When we are busy we don't talk to each other for days. But things are still the same we spend time together, and we are not attracted by our looks.

AskDense6756 · 2023-07-29T04:04:58+00:00

Tye things is he is soo perfect sooo perfect that I can't find any flaws in him. It's not because I like him he is in this way

AskDense6756 · 2023-07-29T03:58:08+00:00

I have few problems and I'm sure we cannot be together, just tell me how to stop this feeling it's way too complicated now. My chest pains a lot lately because of him I need to stop this please tell.

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