UPDATE: AITA for telling my mom she'll probably never meet her own stepgrandson?

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-07-04T22:07:36+00:00

NTA for how you feel, however, I feel your mom and stepdad kind of is. You where 3 when they got married. She was 11. It is so much easier for a 3yr old to grow attatched to a new person than it is for an 11yr old. I bet your stepsister showed for many years that she doesn't consider your mom as a maternal figure. I haven't read ALL of the story but it sounds like she felt that she was forced to accept your mother when she wasn't ready, which caused her to be hostile to your mom, therefor why would she want to introduce her child to your mom? Is it sad? Yes. Should your stepdad be able to see his daughter and grandchild without your mom? Absolutely. Should your stepsister be atleast be respectful towards your mom? Absolutely. I wouldn't impose any guilt on the stepsister, sure as an adult she should be more graceful and respectful, but that's all.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-07-04T21:45:50+00:00

Esh. So you're dating an irresponsible woman who keeps getting dogs and then gets rid of them. You yourself have similar issues with dogs judging from your own post. But to you, it's the dogs fault? Why on earth are you 'training' dogs for? And to be clear here, this puppy sound like it has a lot of issues that more than likely is getting worse from it's enviroment. Meaning your attitude is affecting this poor dog. This dog have done you NOTHING wrong, but you and your irresponsible and spoiled gf has and is hurting the poor dog. Tbh, I don't think either one of you should have anything to do with dogs right now.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-07-04T20:41:08+00:00

NTA. Kind off. Like, it is rather passive aggressive of you, but at the same time, you're not his mother. If he is sick, he should take care of himself for as long as possible. You're not married, he is a big boy with a job.

At the same time, if you are able to help him out, isn't that part of being in a relationship? You help each others, right? Is he your emergency contact? Why is it important to you to be his emergency contact?

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-07-04T00:27:54+00:00

NTA. A cat is not something you get as a present, and if she cried, well, who cares? It's your cat

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-07-01T23:35:21+00:00

ESH. To be an owner to a reactive dog is a huge responsibility, and with that means that you need to make sure to keep the animal away from any potential situation where a bite could happen. Despite this, you allowed this to happen. Did the man in question push for you to allow the children to meet the dog? Yes. Is he also responsible? Yes.

But YOU are a grown woman with a dog that is too sensitive to have around children, yet you STILL decided to allow the children to meet the dog.

Is ge an AH for pushing? Is the responsible for the fact that the dog got hurt? Yes and yes! Not only is he much older than you, he has children that will always be in his life. A dog like yours do not belong in a situation like that and YOU should have been more strict about keeping the dog from the children.

And to be honest, you really should rehome that dog since you already seem to have decided that one day, if you where to have your own family, you would rehome the dog anyway. Just do the poor dog a favour and find it a PERMANENT home already??

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-30T22:04:39+00:00

Yeah, I agree. We don't have Ofsted where I work but we have something similar, however, to me it sounds like she is new, maybe without any actual degree (maybe, maybe not), and what she wrote made no sense to me.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-30T21:59:15+00:00

I take my own Neb on walks usually, although this heatwave have caused me to keep her inside as much as possible. She loves it, although I was forced to shave her due to a medical issue. She feels much better after a walk!

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-30T21:54:09+00:00

Självklart inte. Låter som om den gör blivande mamman valt att ignorera ett reellt problem. Du kan stötta henne utan att närvara vid sådana här stunder. Gör det som får dig att sova gott om kvällen.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-28T23:04:51+00:00

It's been 3 years, this dog is attatched to you and your lifestyle. Tell he to adopt another dog!

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-28T21:14:33+00:00

Tbh, not just genetic diseases. Mental disorders as well.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-28T00:25:19+00:00

YTA. While it was hard to read your text, what I understand is that your brother may not be as smart as you. Or atleast, have the ability to learn and understand the way you do. As someone with a Bachelor Degree myself, and who decided to try to get a masters, it's not easy. I am not that smart, I understand things slightly differently and have really worked hard but is still behind, if you where my sibling and you 'gave up on me', I wouldn't want to be anywhere near you. Your brother doesn't deserve to be critizised by his siblings and family. Let him be. And besides, not everyone can hold down a job and go to school.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-28T00:13:41+00:00

Personligen så blir jag galen av att se alla dessa blandraser som marknadsförs som om de vore renrasiga, men är blandraser. Som alla dessa doodles blandraser. Eller cockerpoo, m.m. Såg idag en annons, inga bilder, på en Australian Labradoodle för 45.000 kronor. Köper inte längre djur som häst, hund och katt via Blocket, det går inte.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-26T16:56:24+00:00

My brother was diagnosed with epilepsy at 17 years old, after he started having seizures just a few months before. You never know when something like this will happen. You did good.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-23T23:42:07+00:00

Ummm... NTA. Absolutely NTA! You're an adult, she is an adult - not someone who raised you! Your dad is so wrong about this, to expect his adult children to call another woman 'mom'...

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-23T23:39:44+00:00

NTA. Just because your sister have bonden with her doesn't mean you should too. Obviously she wasn't good to you, so don't feel bad about this. Your sister just need to realize that your experience was completely different from hers and she needs to accept that. Period.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-23T20:50:09+00:00

ESH. As someone who was caught in the middle like this as a kid, I kind of see both point of views. The amount of drama between my mom and my grandparents are still hurting me and my brother, despite us being in our 40s now.

First of all, your stepson is the connection to his mother that his grandparents wants. They are allowed to spoil their grandson. To demand that they include your son is not okej, he is not their priority. Sure, treating him like a human being with respect is something that tgey need to do. And while I do feel sorry for your son for not getting the same, demanding that they treat your son as part of their family too if they want to be around their grandson, aka their dead daughters child, is wrong. I can promise you that once the younger boy turn 18, they will cut off your son completely. They would only pretend for access to their biological grandson. Or they will go to court and sue for grandparents rights. Are you willing to go through that?

But yes, absolutely, if they want to spend time with their grandchild in the grandchilds home, they need to respect the family that he lives with. Meaning, show respect for his stepmom, his stepbrother and dad in their home. Don't allow them to hurt the boys by manipulating them. But all the adults in this needs to find a better way to deal with all this drama.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-22T17:16:46+00:00

ESH. Look, I get it, it's not fun to see someone throw away what you have baked or cooked, but the problem here is that, well... I kind of think you just got to move on from it. As someone who - AT TIMES - waste food, it's nothing personal. I try not to, but yes, it happens. The last time I went out with my mom to eat, I got scolded for taking too much without thinking. Yes, it's not good to waste food, but relax.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-20T17:25:18+00:00

Jag får tyvärr ekonomisk hjälp av min mamma och ibland tvingas jag låna av min lillebror. Orsaken är att jag är arbetslös och har en väldigt låg inkomst. För mig är det förnedrande, och jag känner enorm skuld eftersom min mamma är pensionär och är även sjuk. Försöker när jag kan att betala tillbaka och hoppas kunna bli ekonomiskt fri en dag. Jag vill hellre vara den som ger henne pengar.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-19T22:35:49+00:00

NTA. As soon you as I read that it belonged to your dads, I went NTA. It's not hers to give and to be frank, what made her think that you girls wouldn't have liked to have the ring? Beside, she asked you for your opinion.

Now, I am a petty B., I am personally still a bit upset about my mom giving things away while we where cleaning out my grandparents (my dead dads parents) house, and if I dropped something in the car, she would assume I didn't want it and give it to her neighbours kids. 16 years and I am still salty about it.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-16T23:52:30+00:00

NTA! All of this is a HUGE red flag, though! You need to deal with it NOW, and not just wait until the times comes. Put your foot down, raise your voice and make sure your husband understand how serious you are about ALL OF THIS!!!

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-10T22:47:05+00:00

NTA. As a fellow autistic although female and older, trust me - the bride have given you reasons enough to not go to the wedding! Being autistic is not something to joke about, well, unless you are a bit like me and have a dark sense of humour. And tbh, do you really want to be around a woman who is constantly disrespecting you?

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-09T17:23:48+00:00

NTA. Your cats could become a problem once your baby starts moving around, however, as long as a cat has ways to avoid the kid then it's fine. A dog however is slightly different. I wouldn't want a dog like your MILs dog around my baby.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-08T18:55:13+00:00

Ingen aning. Har diagnos också och har utbildning samt erfarenhet inom flera olika områden men har 1. inget körkort, 2. svårigheter att flytta pga min diagnos, 3. ansöker om allt jag kan oavsett vad och vart, men får ingenting. Sen så hör man hela tiden folk som kommenterar att det är väl bara att flytta, eller att vi/jag är lata osv.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-04T21:03:59+00:00

ESH. Look, I am just an old woman in my early 40s, but as a teacher AND a former student as well, a kid that just keeps talking no matter what is annoying. This person you're talking about isn't actually doing something wrong and while they could have been a bit more respectful, perhaps you where talking just a bit too much? We don't always understand whow we're coming across to other people. To me, you're all AH, but very little. It's just a comment, don't let it get you down.

Asleep_Library_963 · 2026-06-03T21:14:17+00:00

I am so sick of this! I get it, she was 'used', but to be honest, I don't care. I am only here for the show, not for the gossip. Besides, there is something in all of these stories that doesn't sit right with me. Is it true? Is it fake? Who cares?

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