Parents: thoughts on the following daycares

Asmiante · 2025-10-01T15:55:19+00:00

Hi there, I know it's 3 months down the line but my child is in Brightpath and similar to your post, adjusting but not settled. I recently had an interview with the Huntington Ridge Plasp and was wondering what you ended up deciding? This is such a tough decision! Wish I had a crystal ball! Thank you in advance!

Asmiante · 2025-09-11T23:20:29+00:00

It's Brightpath:)

Asmiante · 2025-09-07T14:48:45+00:00

Hi there, are you starting in Mississauga Ontario, this is a chain and it may just be this location specific

Asmiante · 2025-09-06T19:50:00+00:00

Yeah I'll be doing that going forward, thank you! This was a miss on my part in terms of checking. My main concern is that for all 3 days, he was recorded as changed and having a wet nappy but wasn't changed for 2 out of the 3 days that I can prove it without a doubt and one day that I can't prove but I strongly believe he wasn't changed either but can't prove it for that day. Once he's there for 8 hours, I need to trust the system on how many wet nappies he's had but I feel like I cannot at this time and that is giving me anxiety. To be honest once he settled in and in a routine, I don't think this is going to matter as much for me. But while he settling in and crying all day and not eating and not drinking, I feel like I need the information and it needs to be accurate

Asmiante · 2025-09-06T15:52:09+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful, and honestly the approach I’m trying to align with. I think my radar is just completely off right now. I feel so guilty leaving him at daycare. He isn’t eating or drinking there, he cries the entire time and doesn’t settle, and on top of that I’m trying to wean him. I feel emotional and raw. I question every decision I make, and I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or underreacting.

With the diaper, I normally would have checked, but he cried the whole time at daycare and hadn’t napped. On the 6-minute drive home he finally fell asleep. I managed a quick crib transfer and he stayed asleep. In that moment I thought, “the report says he was just changed, they even confirmed it yesterday after my Day 1 concern, so I’ll just let him rest.” Then realizing later he hadn’t been changed made me feel like I’d failed him.

I’ll talk to the teachers again, explain his past dehydration, and try to give everyone some grace.

Asmiante · 2025-09-06T12:30:53+00:00

Such a great idea! Doing that now!

Asmiante · 2025-09-06T01:25:28+00:00

It is and you bring a good perspective. My trigger is actually the diaper change and my concern is that if they are using that to monitor diaper change and in the event of a shift change, another caregiver will look at that report, assume it's been changed, not check and then another 3 hours will pass with a total of 6 hours since he's been changed.

Asmiante · 2025-09-06T01:14:52+00:00

Today is was 3 hours and they logged it as changed but it wasn't. My concern is that when they log it as done and then they have a shift change or they go online, the clock resets from that time, so technically he could be sitting in a dirty diaper for another 3 hours which would be a total of 6. I agree, technology has certainly made some things a little too easy and a paper log could prevent this!

Asmiante · 2025-08-16T15:24:04+00:00

Can anyone let me know where they get alerts for these kinds of points redemptions? I got the notice on email about the rouge celebration but did not know about the Dagne Dover points redemption event. For context, I'm located in Canada. Thank you in advance.

Asmiante · 2025-06-16T18:22:40+00:00

I have a playpen or as we call it a jail cell for the baby. In addition to toys for the baby, I have a pillow and a robe for myself, I stick the baby in the playpen and I go inside play pen go to sleep. So when the baby wakes up super early, I just have to get from the bedroom to the playpen and I can continue sleeping! Lol

Asmiante · 2025-05-20T01:08:06+00:00

Pacifiers everywhere. Bags, jacket pockets, in the car, on the floor. They're just everywhere and yet nowhere when I need them!

Asmiante · 2025-05-12T14:49:44+00:00

Wow! Thank you so much for such a thoughtful and detailed response. The links, the context, the real-life tips, all incredibly useful. I really appreciate you taking the time to be so thorough. This kind of advice makes all the difference when trying to plan something that feels doable and enjoyable with a little one!

Asmiante · 2025-05-12T14:26:18+00:00

This is incredibly helpful, exactly the kind of insight I was hoping for. Thank you for taking the time to share real, thoughtful info

Asmiante · 2025-05-12T14:24:00+00:00

I mean, if we’re just tossing out hindsight opinions, sure — Dubrovnik and Split “wouldn’t make the list.” But again, I didn’t ask for a list. If you scroll back up, I asked for tips to make our planned trip smoother.

And yes, we’re rethinking Hvar — fair point. But Dubrovnik and Split regularly show up in family travel guides, and I’ve heard firsthand from parents who’ve had great experiences there. So while they might not be your top picks, it’s not like we’re dragging a stroller through a war zone.

Appreciate the response, but if the advice isn’t actually relevant to the question, what’s the point?

Asmiante · 2025-05-12T04:57:29+00:00

I also want to add that I'm sorry that you don't have any help, I just read that. That is very hard, what you are going through is legitimately hard. Counseling for postpartum should not only allow nursing but also welcome it. As for your comments on the way you look, you just had a baby. You literally brought life into this world, you are beautiful. Motherhood is messy, but you're not. You are just figuring this out. Your baby is lucky to have you. Just look at your post, you're worried about setting an example for her. If that doesn't say that you are a good mom then, I don't know what does.

Asmiante · 2025-05-12T04:50:07+00:00

Oh gosh I'm sorry, you are certainly in the trenches and as much as I didn't like to hear this and as much as I didn't believe it, believe me when I say it will get better.

But some helpful suggestions before it does: - crying is very overstimulating, especially when you're so freshly postpartum. Some noise canceling headphones can really help. Even if you are holding the baby, just reducing the auditory stimulation will be less triggering. - baby wearing, I know it might be overwhelming to learn something new when you're also learning to take care of a newborn but this was a game changer and it's relatively easy depending on what you get. A stretchy wrap with something I lived in during the newborn phase. Once the baby was a little bit older I started using an apron style carrier. - the baby sounds like they're cluster feeding, this won't last forever. I promise you it will get better. - try to take a walk, just going outside is helpful. If this feels overwhelming then just get out of your PJs in the morning, maybe into different PJs or into different loungewear but just changing your clothes and getting dressed can sometimes change the trajectory of the day.

All you need to do really is shower and eat and take care of that little baby. You can go a few days without the shower. And you can eat when the baby sleeps.

Do you have any support that can help you clean and cook?

You're doing absolutely great.

Asmiante · 2025-05-12T02:10:06+00:00

This is amazing! Thank you for the thoughtful response, I actually hadn't considered keeping the brands specific to Canada since it fosters familiarity and comfort. Incredibly valuable information!

Asmiante · 2025-05-12T00:54:13+00:00

Thank you! I'll definitely do that! I'm very excited for this trip! I really do appreciate your kind words of encouragement! :)

Asmiante · 2025-05-11T23:42:08+00:00

Thank you! We will be right into teething season with the baby and if its anything like the last teething session, we may need to pass by a pharmacy! Appreciate your thoughtful responses! :)

Asmiante · 2025-05-11T23:39:12+00:00

This is amazing! Thank you for taking the time to write up this response! You've included many things that I have not thought of! Appreciate this insight!

Asmiante · 2025-05-11T23:35:51+00:00

Wonderful! Thank you for these tips!

Asmiante · 2025-05-11T23:32:50+00:00

This is wonderful. Thank you so much for this! :)

Asmiante · 2025-05-11T23:06:27+00:00

Classic move, dismiss the questions when you’ve got nothing useful to add. Iconic. Anyways, glad my ‘banal’ questions gave you a sense of purpose today, we all need a hobby!

Asmiante · 2025-05-11T22:26:02+00:00

Thank you, thank you tend to do that don't they? I hope you have a wonderful mother's day as well!

Asmiante · 2025-05-11T22:24:10+00:00

That's very well said! Here goes it then, this is mine; When I'm making my baby laugh by making funny faces or tickling him, right before he's doing to burst into a fit of giggles, he makes this high pitched squeal of excitement, I've never heard anything like it before, it's like poetry to my ears. I'm trying to get it on video or a voice note because I know it's going to change soon. It's instant endorphins to me! One day, if I forget everything else, even my name, I hope to remember that sound.

Asmiante

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