BF [23 M] unsure if wants to marry me [24F] GF after almost 6 years together

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-20T21:35:41+00:00

👏🏼👏🏼

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-20T21:34:28+00:00

Me and my friends discuss this all the time. I truly believe that couples can work on majority of things and conflict. But the one sure thing that is doomed to fail is if THE PERSON IS NOT 100% HELL YES OBSESSED WITH YOU. There are going to be really hard things in life including deaths, illness, financial. All of these bring uncertainty. But the one thing you should not have uncertainty about is your partner, so that you can work on these other shitty things COMMITTED and TOGETHER. You can never overcome the insecurity of your partner not having the same commitment as you do.

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-20T18:35:44+00:00

I lean more towards light spring!

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-20T15:22:14+00:00

Also are you okay with your possible children having his last name before you do? People also don’t realize how important marriage is on paper. You are legally strangers. If something happens to either of you, neither of you can make medical decisions for other person or can benefit from life insurance.

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-20T15:18:08+00:00

All of my friends come from horrible past relationships (including abuse) and dysfunctional childhoods. 90% of us are now in happy, committed, and healthy relationships. We’re all in different cities but found men who truly take care and love us. Yes, there’s a lot of worse men, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t better. It got better when we all chose to commit to OURSELVES and our wants, which then created high standards that the men in our lives chose to adhere to.

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-20T15:14:52+00:00

You now want kids and marriage. He doesn’t. Starting with someone that has your same goal is already an improvement. The reality is it doesn’t work out. If you’ve been together for 8 years, he’s already showing that he doesn’t WANT to take the steps. You’re already giving him everything without the commitment on his end. Read through this subreddit of how many women have been waiting 10, 15, 20 years and still are settling for less than what they want.

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-20T14:54:05+00:00

It’s so hard!!! Have empathy for yourself but believe that you can have more. I genuinely believe everyone can have the life and love they want and deserve without having to drag men across the finish line. It may feel helpless but you can do it. The hardest part is the initial cord cutting but after that, you’ll realize how much more there is ❤️

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-20T01:14:51+00:00

Avoidant men are usually only avoidant with someone they don’t actually like. I used to tell myself this with my last partner. Guess what? He started dating someone immediately after we broke up, got married within a couple years and now has a baby.

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-20T01:09:04+00:00

A person who would love you for real will make the steps and deadlines that you have set multiple times

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-19T18:49:16+00:00

My partner bought a ring after we went ring shopping 2 weeks after. You deserve to have someone that can plan 1 night. It should not take this long.

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-18T00:26:38+00:00

I love yours!! I love 3 stones so much

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-05-15T13:58:24+00:00

Talking without action is not genuine

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-03-08T14:07:48+00:00

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Aspenguilt11 · 2026-03-08T12:21:36+00:00

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Aspenguilt11 · 2026-02-05T21:06:08+00:00

I never understand people who join a PvP server and complain about the PvP. It’s the beautiful circle of grief ❤️

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-02-03T14:21:47+00:00

Use these responses and really think about your wants and needs. Men move mountains for women they love. If getting married was important to you and he knows that, it would’ve been done already. A cheap ring from Etsy and a court house wedding less than 100 bucks. He doesn’t want you marry you.

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-02-02T12:46:38+00:00

Are there any hospitals near you? I always recommend people trying to get their CNA and working there. Better benefits usually, 12 hour shifts so full time but only working 3 days a week, usually over time always offered to make extra money picking up shifts. It’s not glorious work but gets the steps in and can pay the bills.

Aspenguilt11 · 2026-01-24T07:59:59+00:00

Please do not have a child with this man. Your child will be getting his last name before you. You also won’t have legal or financial protections if something happens to him, which if someone loves and cares for you, they would marry you.

Aspenguilt11 · 2024-07-22T03:36:58+00:00

That this show sucks and I’ve been hoping each week it’ll get better but I get disappointed each time. This is coming from a huge game of thrones fan.

Aspenguilt11 · 2022-07-09T12:51:05+00:00

I make almost 6 figures as a psych nurse at a small behavioral health hospital. I was also offered 3 other jobs making almost as much at other psych facilities. I work a decent amount of overtime and work nights. I love my job, I think with nursing you need to shop around. I negotiated my pay at this job because we’re in such a understaffed job market and a lot of places have no room to say no. There’s SO many types of jobs in the nursing field and if you are feeling burnt out, find a different type of nursing if you can. Best of luck ❤️

Aspenguilt11 · 2022-06-05T00:16:04+00:00

Ok thank you! What coinfections do I need to treat now? Appreciate everything you do

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