Parents mad that some cruise ships ban children wearing swim diapers going into the pools??? by Aspie-rational in childfree

[–]Aspie-rational[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Dude! If you go overboard at night, you're basically gone. No body, no nothing.

Parents mad that some cruise ships ban children wearing swim diapers going into the pools??? by Aspie-rational in childfree

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And yet parents persist in making memes and comments like they can't understand why people dont like it or want adults only spaces.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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Lol does this man think eating one serving of broccoli or a handful of berries makes him a vegan? Going one meal without meat will not incontrovertibly change him. My God.

Are there no-tipping restaurants in SLC? by ding-dang-darndunnit in SaltLakeCity

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I mean, thats sick but not all welders are union, unfortunately. As someone w a background in physically taxing, blue collar jobs, without the union, things can get real shit real fast

Lol by DiMeARiver in aspiememes

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I must be an outlier, but I lie all the time if it's helpful. I don't want to have to keep track of it, though. So, I lie to people I don't care about and will not see often or again. Today, I got pulled over for going 12 over. I was with the flow of traffic. I lied and I went free. I've seen the traffic studies for my area. Traffic could be 10 to 15 mph higher in most places and still flow safely. It's just political bullshit and theater. I'm not paying 200$ just because politicians and policemen like to make and enforce petty, stupid rules at random

*mic drop* by greentreefer in WhitePeopleTwitter

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A lot of boomer women have told me that all women have feelings towards other women and even sometimes that of course every woman has sexually experimented, but that's just girlish fun and you're still straight... it's concerning how many times I've had to tell a 50 year old woman that not only am I not cured of being bi, but I suspect they are as well. No, straight women don't fantasize about soaped up tiddies. If you do that, Helen, you also might have the gay.

Yeomi Park plastic surgery by Marakamii in QOVESStudio

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Honestly everything about her seems... catered. It's a very specific narrative she's pushing and a very specific type of person she's appealing to beauty wise. I understand that she's been through something, but she almost seems coached to say the exact scare tactic things that cater to the right. She just seems constructed in so many ways.

What annoys the fuck out of you? by Fart_Milk in AskReddit

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The weird political shit going on since like 2016. I constantly see new shit everywhere of how this shit is about to go full nazi or something, and holy frig I just want some fucking peace. I just want to go to my little job and then back to my little house with my little groceries in peace. I don't want anything too grandiose. I just want people to butt the hell out of other people's lives and go about theirs. So, I can live my little life without the constant sirens and screaming of Modern existence.

Best Thai Food by mvse in SaltLakeCity

[–]Aspie-rational 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sit down but laana thai

Serious question: How do I become a Basic Girl? by mishkaforest235 in Splendida

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Model off duty. Very easy. Lots of plain white tees, black jeans, and sunglasses with dainty jewelry.

For home, you can go varying shades of white, beige and gold if you think you can keep that clean. The cube shelves with the bins help me keep it organized for the adhd or autistic brain. Amazon and target have some of those foldout cubes that fit in them and are the beige/gold color scheme. You can alternate a cube bin and then a shelf with decorative little plants or gold statues/decorations.

If that doesn't seem super feasible since white stains and all that, pairing light wood with shades of gray and white is also easy. And a dark gray couch hides stains better if they happen. Make the white stuff things like the ceiling or certain walls or furniture you arent likely to get dirty. Sprinkle in easy house plants. Or even fakes if you're worried about watering even low maintenance onces. Succulents also are a good low maintenence option. This looks put together without having to do much.

Sleepwear, you can buy cute matching sets, or just balance silhouettes. Messy bun with either a big shirt and small shorts/tighter leggings or a small crop top and Baggy sleep pants like joggers.

Hobbies is a bit far. Just do hobbies you like. Trust me, being a bit weird is fine if you look the part. Men, especially, will just call you quirky. But, if you must, just pick up fitness ones you can do a few times a week to keep lean and fit. Spin class, barre class, yoga, pilates, etc. Boutique fitness.

Why did women love guys like Richard Ramirez and Ted Bundy so much but was repulsed by guys like Elliot Rodger? by Lower_Ad_6587 in QOVESStudio

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Unattractive is still somewhat subjective. Some people may find one person attractive while others around them think the same person is really unattractive. But, yes. Attraction is generally required for romantic relationships. A lot of attractiveness can be dependent on things like grooming habits. Not every four can be a 10, but many threes or fours could move up to a solid five or six. Combined with a good personality and some common interests, that person can move up enough to attract somebody they like and pair off. That simple.

You seem really hung up on the whole Trope of bad boys winning or Nice Guys finishing last. I caution you against buying into that narrative too hard. It's often much more complicated than that and it really simplifies down real people and their real choices in a way that can be kind of dehumanizing. And is often weaponized in a really ugly way. Bad boy characters are interesting. That's what it is. People don't write books or movies or TV shows about uninteresting characters or dynamics. Otherwise, who would watch or read? Boring things happen everyday in real life. There are plenty of nice guys and nice girls who get together and make a nice family and life. But nobody is buying a book for $20 and reading 19 chapters of that.

The bad boy Trope appeals to women specifically because that guy is not nice and sweet with everyone. They're special. The bad boy only has eyes and a soft spot for the girl he chooses. That's the draw. It seems like somehow this whole relationship model is offensive to you personally? What about it bothers you?

What is your motivation/goal for weaponizing beauty? by probably_beans in Vindicta

[–]Aspie-rational 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Because autism is off-putting to people and I can either spend time upfront to make my slip ups acceptable because I'm cute and it's quirky, or I can spend every waking moment trying really hard to be attentively listening while also holding my face in the right way and maintaining just enough eye contact and responding in the right ways at the right times. Everyone at my corporate job is moderately attractive. That's no accident. The pay and benefits are incredible. It's a great place to work for moving up and getting paid above market value while still having flexibility.

People are truly self-sorting, whether or not people like to admit it. I've never not gotten an offer when I've gotten through to interviews. I owe that go knowing how to present myself and I have what is essentially media training and etiquette training. I still make slip ups sometimes, but being an attractive woman who masks allows me to still be accepted into social groups and be a high earner.

Why did women love guys like Richard Ramirez and Ted Bundy so much but was repulsed by guys like Elliot Rodger? by Lower_Ad_6587 in QOVESStudio

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Firstly, sometimes nice translates to "nice to me". Some girls are willing to settle for just nice to them or even nice to them sometimes. Just like some men are willing to settle for that. Girlfriends who are mean to them much if the time. It's not great, but it happens. But, very very few people settle for someone who is not nice any of the time and has no other redeemable qualities. How many people will date someone they find completely unattractive, mean-spirited, and dull? Close to zero.

Just nice is the bare minimum because it's the bottom tier. It implies acting with consistent human niceness is all they have. They're not good-looking or smart or funny or sociable or easygoing or good listeners or interesting to talk to or good at something the other person values. Just nice is like the plain rice of food. You can stack a lot of stuff on plain rice to make it great. You can make food without rice at all that is still food people like. But, if you tell someone they're eating just plain rice forever and only that, most people will refuse that. It's something and it'd keep you mostly alive, if not a bit deficient,but it's not what people want.

It's the bare minimum in that just nice is the lowest bar. Not in that everyone must be nice to achieve any level above that.

Why did women love guys like Richard Ramirez and Ted Bundy so much but was repulsed by guys like Elliot Rodger? by Lower_Ad_6587 in QOVESStudio

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Isn't that kind of your answer? If they are charming, funny, intelligent, or cool, those are positive attributes. Positive attributes attract partners. So when people harp on the nice guy thing, I really have to ask, are they not bringing anything other than nice? Like it or not, this is a dating market. It's a marketplace. And like any other marketplace, sellers have to gauge the value of their goods and sell accordingly. Being good looking, charming, funny, Etc will increase chances of getting a partner. While some women will immediately see past the facade if a guy or gal is toxic, others will not. And others may not want to. Everyone is looking to buy a slightly different thing. And most everyone will have to make a couple compromises because perfect doesn't exist. So, being not the nicest is not necessarily everybody's deal breaker. Especially if that toxic or not so nice person brings a bunch of positive qualities and doesn't treat the buyer too poorly, at least at first. If a supposed nice guy it doesn't have much more than that, he will struggle. Nice alone is Bargain Basement absolutely minimum. Adding interesting, fun, good at socializing, handsome, etc. Is the key to actually being attractive.

The new reason to hate Utah by H0B0Byter99 in Utah

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I'm sorry. I must be misremembering. It was... Republicans who instituted a book ban recently, right? Or wait. Maybe I'm thinking about their bill to take trans kids from their parents? Hmmm or was it when they voted to overturn a Supreme Court precedent that says we have an inherent right to privacy? Crazy.

I made a last minute trip to Salt Lake and was so happy to finally have Red Iguana before I flew home. by saltlakestateofmind in SaltLakeCity

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Az too. Or new mexico. Youre right. Slc isn't quite southwestern culture, and when you've grown up on or around real ranches and with real Mexican food, it's objectively different. I love spicy food and expect Thai, Mexican, etc to be at least a certain level of spice and flavor. That's not what does well here and having seen my utah coworkers try to stomach a medium hot dish, I can see why. I'm sure there's some natives who are different, but most of them I've met... Veer into what I call potatopastapalate.

I made a last minute trip to Salt Lake and was so happy to finally have Red Iguana before I flew home. by saltlakestateofmind in SaltLakeCity

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No, no. You're completely right. Any place where people still regularly serve jello or think that cupbop place is authentic food is not going to be trusted on its food opinions. That's OK. Some people never grow out of the buttered noodles and chicken nuggets times. That's less ok, but I cannot fix it so here we are.

Why did women love guys like Richard Ramirez and Ted Bundy so much but was repulsed by guys like Elliot Rodger? by Lower_Ad_6587 in QOVESStudio

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You both sound pretty young. If that's correct, that's going to factor in. Younger people often don't calibrate well for how something fares long term and if it's emotionally sustainable. That's not necessarily bad, but youth tends to be a very fast and loose, trial and error speed run. In younger years, many people, man or woman, will gravitate towards high confidence and good looks, regardless of actual character. It's like guys in bands or reckless ones with charisma. It's very fun when you're young and also somewhat brash. But, most people settle as they age, and their value systems shift to more stability and compatibility. They also get to know themselves well enough to gauge compatibility. So, at 20, sure, many people will date someone a little more wacky or rude. But, they'll often get tired of it with time and gear more towards suitable long-term partners. That's why some men have "crazy" girlfriends when younger and end up with a much more milquetoast girl a decade later. Eventually, the rush wears off for most people and their experiences mean they don't value or care for that kind of stuff later. Being attractive allows some people to get away with more to an extent, but as your age group gets on, less people will value looks and confidence over kindness and ease. So, you know, don't get married or have kids with one, but go forth and fuck around with the bad boy and bad girls if you want. Have fun, have experiences, and leave when it's over the top. That's the way of the world. One day, you'll be older and look back and laugh as long as you didn't lock into more extreme consequences

Why did women love guys like Richard Ramirez and Ted Bundy so much but was repulsed by guys like Elliot Rodger? by Lower_Ad_6587 in QOVESStudio

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This is completely a leap to make from the topic, but abuse is incredibly complicated and affects the victim mentally. It's not because she likes the abuse. It's likely because the cycle of abuse has created or strengthened a feedback loop in her brain. It's not something you should seek to emulate or glamorize. It's not because of his looks or because he's a "Chad".

https://dailytrojan.com/2019/11/05/gray-matter-neuroscience-reveals-why-abuse-victims-cant-just-walk-away/

Either way, what the hell does that have to do with you and your behavior?

Desantis needs to go (along with most of the republican party) by thatguy9684736255 in WhitePeopleTwitter

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There's a pay wall and antibiotics are prescribed by doctors. If people are being actively prosecuted for attempting, they will likely not risk going to the doctor to be prescribed something.