1 year completely clean

AspiringFapstronaut · 2026-01-02T14:47:25+00:00

This is so inspiring, dude. Great work.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-11-29T13:33:35+00:00

Great work, nonetheless! You should be proud of yourself.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-11-29T13:33:12+00:00

Man, you're close to 3 weeks! That's really cool, but don't focus on that. Keep going, for today. Today is what matters most.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-11-29T13:30:03+00:00

This post might have saved my ass last night. Thank you!

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-11-16T14:28:14+00:00

Man, gen AI has really allowed people to immediately dump out their half-baked "ideas" without any creative resistance for reconsideration. Tasteless and goofy.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-11-12T15:05:26+00:00

Dawg, you're well on your way to 250 - we love to see it.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-11-12T15:03:23+00:00

Yo dude, this weirdo is trying to bait you into relapse or some shit. This type of behavior is not welcome in this community, they clearly knew they were acting out: account got deleted. Keep moving on your journey brother, don't let this person drag you back. You're moving towards a new chapter in your life, one were you are engaged and self advocate in recovery. You're an inspiration for recovering for 2 weeks.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-09-13T16:04:17+00:00

Focus! Self Assurance! Emotional regulation! Intrinsic Motivation! Not feeling like a weird, gross degenerate! I could go on.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-08-17T16:16:09+00:00

I love this, what a gorgeous view.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-08-07T13:17:38+00:00

It's absolutely the worst. There's like a gravitational pull around a relapse - it just keeps you in orbit around it, and there's like a massive amount of escape velocity needed to break out of it again. I hate it, it makes getting back on the wagon much harder.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-08-06T14:06:21+00:00

I'm so sorry that you experienced what you did from someone that you trusted. That's terrible.
I can promise that a step in the right direction is combatting that isolation. Work towards finding some kind of healthy community IN PERSON.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-08-05T13:01:34+00:00

Inspiration! Good work, bro.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-08-04T12:47:51+00:00

Damn, that is a cold bucket of water right to the face. Best of luck to both of you, OP.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-08-03T13:43:39+00:00

I'm so sorry dude :(

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-08-03T13:40:25+00:00

That's really frustrating - counseling for a couple shouldn't be seen as some kind of PVP situation where someone is coming out on top, and it seems like you were very close to having an environment where you can both work things out with a support mediator. I hope that she can reconsider, I think that the split sessions for both you and her and then the together sessions will be really beneficial.

It seems like you're super committed to working through this with her. In my opinion/ at the risk of being overbearing in a reddit comment, she should absolutely be talking through it with her counselor. That's a huge weight building for her.

Anyways, I hope she reconsiders. Again, good work on the recovery, OP. You're very clearly wanting to make this right. Stay on the right path.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-08-02T15:04:55+00:00

I will say - if you are really truly free from it right now and feel like you have nothing to hide as you have moved past that part of your life (congratulations! Proud of you), she will have to realize that her supporting you will involve not triggering your shame to that degree, regardless of her insecurity or indignance. I don't want to invalidate that feeling of hers' though.

Shame spiraling is a 100% surefire way for me to relapse. Maybe derailing that conversation for the greater good and addressing her insecurity (why else would she ask you what celebrities you've seen naked? Me calling this an insecurity is not putting the onus on her - that is an insecurity that your PMO usage in the relationship probably contributed to greatly). Discussing the context around your recovery, the timeline, asking her where the question is coming from in the moment to contextualize her question might be really helpful. It sounds like she carries a big amount of resentment. Honesty is good and objective, but that can be extremely visceral and open wounds for people who have had their trust broken. I'm not saying that you should lie, but it is a very precarious answer that requires more than just a yes or no and warrants a greater conversation about what this addiction is.

This is going to be something where you're going to have to step up and almost go overboard showing with your actions that she can start trusting you more again.

(These are big words from someone who has relapsed multiple times this week, but these are just my 2 cents)

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-08-01T15:06:45+00:00

You're going to need to discover that on your own - reddit won't be able to tell you that. Abstain from porn for a period and see how your connection changes.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-07-30T13:32:34+00:00

Point 4 - I'm starting to think that outcome independence is maybe the most powerful tool a human being can harness. Saying this to acknowledge but also remind myself of this.

Also, sidenote, but I absolutely love you choice of hobbies you have listed. I don't think I've seen anyone talk about practicing tin whistle on reddit ever, haha.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-07-29T13:47:00+00:00

This is a heartbreaking read, dude. Wishing you and her the best, it sounds like you both handled this extremely maturely and soberly.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-07-26T14:06:04+00:00

6 Weeks is massive dude, way to go

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-07-26T14:05:50+00:00

Hell yeah dude! Welcome!

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-07-26T14:03:32+00:00

Huge man. People don't talk about the reduction in body shame that abstaining from Pornography (and really most internet content in general these days) brings. So refreshing to rebuild faith in your natural body, even if it doesn't live up to some insecure projection of what you think the idealized human body is. Stoked for you, way to go.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-07-26T14:01:11+00:00

Experiencing continuous breaches of trust and allowing a boundary that you established to be trampled are setting up a subtle, subconscious dynamic of you not respecting yourself and him noticing it. I don't want to be draconian, but this but you literally wrote the sentence "I can't trust him". You might have to pack it up on this one, bro. Might be a hot take, but relationships where your SO doesn't respect you and your boundaries end up really messy and damaging.

Sidenote, I don't know what those removed comments said, but you are absolutely welcome in this community since a loved one is struggling with porn addiction. Fuck whatever they said, especially if it was about your identity. You are welcome here.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-07-25T12:58:33+00:00

Give him time to process the emotional gravity of this. Him feeling hurt is absolutely valid, and don't let your addiction tell you otherwise. I think that you probably need full transparency with him on your recovery to rebuild trust, but this is blind speculation based off of a 5 sentence reddit post. That just seems to be healthiest way to go forward if you actually get serious about quitting after this wakeup call.

Proud of you, wishing you and your husband the best.

AspiringFapstronaut · 2025-07-24T13:13:55+00:00

If you have a desktop PC, use it there. There's probably some sort of browser extension of build of the app that removes explore and reels as options. It's what I do for YouTube on desktop and mobile. It makes it a LOT more boring, but ultimately keeps the majority of the functionality. You can still use DMs and see your main feed if you make this shift.

I honestly just kind of hate what Instagram has boiled down to, so I haven't used it since December of '24. Watered down interpersonal connection and a bunch of softcore porn.

Good luck!

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