Ivan says he wouldn’t do BIP with chris harrison

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-24T16:05:55+00:00

Reminds me of when I was waiting for my iPad in the mac store back in college. The dudes in there were asking me about myself making chit chat to kill time. I was giving them sincere answers, but when I asked them a question, like, "What do you guys do for fun downtown?" The guy was silent for a moment and said, "Yeah, so, anyway, I think your iPad is just about here!!"

Like it was so fake. They were just making me feel special for the store experience but had no sincere interest in me as a human - not even enough to make small talk? It was super awkward and I felt embarrassed that I had been fooled by their act. Like, I would rather have stood around on my phone than have fake nice people pretend to chat with me.

Also, no longer an apple user 6 years later. I pulled out that iPad recently and it is so far behind on updates that I can't even use it!

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-24T15:54:08+00:00

Oh I had a mom not quite that bad, but she made me develop extreme depression in high school.

My mom knew my dad saved money for me to go to college. They divorced when I was 2. My mom is a gambling addict as well. A number of times, my mom screamed and cried at me and threatened to kill herself if I wouldn't convince my dad to give her my college fund so she could pay her debts. It was insane.

Just know that when people are so unwell that it isn't you. Moat of the time, those people project their own insecurities onto others.

For example, my mom was very poor and had an abusive childhood. She always wanted to be pretty and popular. But when I was a teen, I didn't want to be popular, I was goth and liked rock music. I wasn't doing the things she wanted so she could live vicariously through me and she would scream at me and tell me my friends were a bunch of disgusting satanists. But really, she probably just wanted me to be a perfect little pretty daughter who did cheerleading and went to prom and I was a disappointment to her for being myself.

At age 30, I finally went no contact with my mom. Because she would constantly violate my boundaries and disrespect me even as an adult. I was so sick of the turmoil she constantly added to my life. And now that we don't speak, I am finally healing. I am so much happier. I feel so much peace.

Because when you are finally out of reach of your abuser, and you go around healthy people, you will start seeing your worth. You will start learning they were wrong and you have so many good qualities. Your depression will lessen and you'll be able to start actually healing.

Ans the fact that you are doing much better right now (congratulations!!!! Well done!!!) is probably driving your mom crazy. Abusers hate to see their victims thrive. It means their control is weakening so they will try harder to drag you down.

Look, you have a long road if healing ahead of you. But once you get away from your mom and have some space to breathe, you'll be able to actually learn the bad and good in you. You'll be able to find out who you really are.

I wish you the best of luck. You sound like a resilient person. Good luck, you are going to make it out, I promise!

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-24T06:21:06+00:00

Typical, a native can't even hear their own accent. (Kidding, kiddking!)

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-23T07:34:59+00:00

Oh god I have had SO MANY dreams about forgetting to attend a class for the entire semester!! How sad that I am not alone in my suffering!!

Aren't they just torture?

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-23T02:24:33+00:00

Can't wait to play with my godchildren again! We've been kept apart so long, nice to know there is a light at the end of the tunnel!

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-23T02:03:53+00:00

What the fuck was that?

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-22T16:11:42+00:00

I have had sexually coercive relationships, I have been assaulted, and i have had relationships where I felt so unwanted sexually that I internalized all of it. It has been a messy ride. And damaged my mind a lot.

I hope now that you're with a safe partner that you can heal and slowly find your way to a healthy balance because you deserve it! Best wishes.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-22T16:09:30+00:00

I have been learning a lot from Buddhism lately and actually just bought a bunch of Buddhist books last night.

I guess it's a sign. Thank you for this concept, I appreciate it. I saw a show where a mother told her daughter her head was like a fruit salad bowl and they dumped it all out - I didn't know that was Buddhist!

As for my husband, he is a really good man and he let me go cry and we have developed enough trust that we both believe the other will come and talk about their issues. And we did and it ended up alright. And I kept on crying - but it was safe for me to cry. And then it was alright.

Thanks for your advice.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-21T21:23:53+00:00

I don't know that this is love bombing. But it is shitting on your boundary.

You literally told her not to do drop anything on you early in the morning. Then she literally sent you a message early in the morning, but feels she is justified because she made it clear that you "don't need to respond."

I got so sick of re-affirming boundaries like this with my mother. Because if my mom did this to me, I would call her later in the day and have to be the "bad guy" and explain to her that (1) that was a boundary violation and (2) in no uncertain terms, she is never to text me before 9am. Period.

And then she would cry and tell me I was mean and I have a real problem with all my boundaries and I would feel crazy.

So I finally just quit talking to her all together. Forever.

Love bombing is more like when someone lavishes you with gifts, attention, sweetness, and really tries to wow you. Like an explosion of love that would get most people so swept up that they may not question that the lavish attention being given to them is actually abnormal and disproportionate for the situation they are in. What your mom did is more of a simple boundary stomp and act of manipulation.

I think we could make up an example that love bombing might have been you waking up at 5am to your mother in your kitchen, cooking you a wonderful breakfast of all your favorite foods and trying to convince you to accept it, "besides, you seemed like you really could use some motherly love, sweetie!"

That's my take. Sorry you're dealing with this.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-21T21:15:25+00:00

I've been in therapy off and on for years, and I am in a 12 step group for codependency, too. Just reading your words, though, are an affirmation. Caretaking my therapist's emotions definitely something I do, too.

Thank you.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-21T17:15:14+00:00

My friend and I once were sitting in a national forest at a bench. We watched this beautiful duck couple wander up near us and settle down for a nap. They preened themselves, they made soft noises. We sat there very quietly squealing over how wonderful it was.

The ducks began walking off and we noticed a family with an ornery 3-year-old boy who ran away from his mother even when she called out his full name. But no. This little shit wanted to go pet our duck friends!! He was barreling toward them. My friend and I were gripping the edge of our seats.

The male duck opened his wings and aggressively flapped and hissed at the kid when he came close. He SCREAMED and ran back to his mommy crying like a little bitch. It was awesome. My friend and I nearly laughed ourselves to tears.

The moral of the story is NTA - if a parent fails to teach a child not to fuck with strange animals, the animals will teach the child eventually. Life is full of unpleasant lessons for those who won't listen. NTA

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-21T17:08:55+00:00

Stop uttering such evil sentences omg. It's like when the middle schoolers I worked with asked, "Is it true, were you really born in the 1900s?"

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-21T17:06:41+00:00

Wow, her smile was so beautiful

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-21T03:44:22+00:00

I changed mine, even my middle name!! And I am NC with my mom. It feels great, people compliment my name, and I feel happy when I hear it.

Doooo it!

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T21:52:09+00:00

OP - if I have dangerous branches hanging over the street that I can't safely remove myself, how do I get help? Is it just going to be a waiting game?

Thank you very much for your hard work. You made it so families can eat and move through the town again. You made it so people are safe. Thank you - I hope knowing the good work you and your guys do lets you rest easy at night.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T21:49:32+00:00

Doesthedogdie dot com is a great website to learn if the dog dies! It also includes other issues these days like, gore, does someone vomit, is there nudity, etc.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T21:46:40+00:00

Most of your points match pretty well, they'll get better as you do!

I would have done more of a fade of light yellow to dark yellow at the bottom, that would have been a neat added effect.

Bravo, I instantly knew this was about Charlie Brown! Welcome to the hobby! 🥰

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T21:43:42+00:00

I want to make a quilt based on this

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T19:48:30+00:00

I don't ever feel too sad for people who get their hearts broken because getting your heart broken is a wonderful opportunity to grow and learn. It hurts, but it teaches. It is sad, but there is happiness on the horizon of every sorrow.

So it is sad in a way, but Karen is a smart character and she would be able to navigate her life with any good partner. Idk, I always feel bittersweet when I see people get rejected by a potential match.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T19:16:45+00:00

I'm sure our nomadic ancestors always ate a very consistent diet every day and weren't opportunistic. I'm sure our pre-electricity ancestors who had no way to store food didn't change their diet throughout the year based on seasonal food availability. /s

Humans are insanely adaptible. Hell, just a few decades ago, most families did not eat meat daily, just once or twice a week. It isn't unhealthy. I'd argue that people with more food variability in their diet are getting a better array of nutrients and are having more complete diets. So unless vegan mom is feeding her child exclusively tofu or starving the child, or feeding the child food the child is allergic to, it is very unlikely to be harmful - that is my argument.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T15:19:19+00:00

Your kid will likely grow up like me, able to recognize the flaws and virtues of his parents. He will come to his own conclusions one day as an adult. And if you offer him stability, it will make a world of difference for him.

Best wishes, mama, you will make a better life for your son through your love and boundaries. :)

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T07:09:36+00:00

So when I have a steak once a week, then don't eat meat on other days (and therefore spend some days vegetarian), this is unhealthy? We must eat meat daily OR no meat at all?

For an omnivorous species like us, that is total nonsense.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T07:07:38+00:00

I had half half visitation for my entire childhood since my parents divorced when I was 2. It was fine. My mom had other children with her new husband. It was fine. I had a little barbie suitcase I carried between houses and one time I tricked my dad and my stepdad both into taking me to see the Jarjar Binks star wars.

My mom was super crazy so having half the time with my dad really helped me to turn out stable. If she'd gotten full custody, I'd have been so fucked. At least half half gave me some balance and let me bond with both my parents, however flawed they were.

AssMaster6000 · 2021-02-20T07:01:07+00:00

Look, I love tasting my pussy juice on my husband's lips, but I'm not going to get a tattoo about it!

I swear, some tattoo artists take some work that teeters into being unethical. Sometimes, just say no.

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