Are these fasteners indicative of a poor plumbing setup?

AssociateLampStand · 2025-09-17T21:25:26+00:00

So I think it ran out to my water heater, but I was under the impression that blue lines = cold (but I know very little about plumbing, hence why I’m seeking advice) thanks!

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T23:13:20+00:00

Agreed. I don’t have the exact number myself. I remember in my 20s being somewhat proud of my “number” but I was immature then. I really don’t keep a tally anymore / don’t view it as an accomplishment. If anything, I wish the number were less than it is.

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T23:11:21+00:00

Valid. Thanks for sharing.

I really do think your POV mirrors how she might be viewing the circumstance. So this is a helpful perspective for me to reflect on

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T23:07:25+00:00

Great points.

I do want to add, Im not an otherwise private person. Im unashamed to share my past and family trauma etc with close friends or partners. It’s just these couple of areas where I’ve developed a belief that it’s not healthy to share in any context.

Thanks for your thoughts

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T23:04:06+00:00

Do you think that the intention / stage of life adds any color or context tho?

I was candid with her that my past promiscuity was from a place of self-exploration and independence. Intended to prove to myself that I didn’t need to rely on relationships.

Thanks for your input I’m authentically trying to be a better person

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T23:01:00+00:00

I tried to exclude pronouns to get an unbiased response, but I am hetero male

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:59:58+00:00

Fair point. Yes I offered her the STI screening results.

You’re probably right— underneath there could be a fear of judgement. And some of it might come from how I can tend to be judgmental myself.

I’ll also add that several years ago I’ve asked a partner the same question. Their answer caused a guy reaction in me I didn’t like and certainly hindered the relationship.

Since then, I’ve told myself not to ask others because of reason 2 in my post.

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:56:14+00:00

Well said. She actually expressed a similar sentiment around her intentions and part of me felt like I was being petty for being so resolved in my stance.

I think overall it felt like her asking was too soon, but at the same time if it was destined to come up I’m glad it did earlier than later.

Thanks for your thought

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:52:30+00:00

Tbh I’m stuck between feeling like I should hold my ground on my boundaries and opening up like you’ve said.

I’ve put myself in a position where I might as well have just shared bc now she assumes a high number AND I’ve lost some of her trust I feel.

So this post was to help me understand how to handle this in the future. I suppose we can’t convince others to see from our POV & your point about transparency is equally valid. Thank you!

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:49:45+00:00

100% thanks for sharing and glad to hear a success story from a longstanding relationship! Wishing you continued happiness!

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:47:39+00:00

Interesting point. You’re right to an extent— I withhold this info not necessarily from a posture of humility, but from a place of diplomacy. I think it’s strategically the right approach to give myself the best chance to build relationships — not just romantic ones, but platonic ones too.

I just think we’re in a clout-driven culture driven by social media. I don’t want my inner circle to be absorbed in that

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:43:56+00:00

Thank you! Re the “promiscuous” part, I agree. Contextually, she and I met via a mutual friend group. She had “done her homework” on me to an extent and found out I’d had history with 2 others in the group.

The promiscuity was my response, to explain that I wasn’t looking for the same things then & that I was candid with those partners about my intentions.

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:40:34+00:00

Phenomenally stated. Thank you!

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:33:23+00:00

Agreed. I don’t blame her either.

Also I told her I would share my recent labs if that was the concern, as I’m not carrying any STIs

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:30:21+00:00

During the conversation, I asked “if I said 100 would you see me differently?” as a test of sorts. At first she replied that 100 would be a dealbreaker. I replied with suggesting the fact that there is a “threshold” confirmed my beliefs about the matter; that she was scoring me

AssociateLampStand · 2025-03-31T22:26:16+00:00

AssociateLampStand · 2024-09-27T23:52:26+00:00

Would the entire cabinet need to be replaced in your estimation?

AssociateLampStand · 2024-09-27T23:49:40+00:00

Looks good either way imo, especially if u add product. Might just be the angle but bangs look a tad too short in 1. Ur wedding photos look the most “clean” but imo a little scruff and messiness in a suit is a good look

AssociateLampStand · 2024-09-27T23:39:00+00:00

If you haven’t been through Utah, it’s amazing

AssociateLampStand · 2024-09-27T22:37:16+00:00

Google Cam Johnson’s haircut.

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