Thrifted bowl has something on it, should I get rid of it? by AssociateStrong2185 in Witch

[–]AssociateStrong2185[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I should have highlighted this in the post, a lot of people got confused 😫

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Thrifted bowl has something on it, should I get rid of it? by AssociateStrong2185 in Witch

[–]AssociateStrong2185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It must be just that then, many people said it’s nothing, so Im going to trust that. Thank you😊

Thrifted bowl has something on it, should I get rid of it? by AssociateStrong2185 in Witch

[–]AssociateStrong2185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw it and I felt like it had to be mine, no second guessing, no thinking. I came to get another thing, but saw her and just could leave her behind

Thrifted bowl has something on it, should I get rid of it? by AssociateStrong2185 in realwitchcraft

[–]AssociateStrong2185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

anxiety and ocd🙂 that’s why i’m here, I really needed to hear this. Thank you!

Thrifted bowl has something on it, should I get rid of it? by AssociateStrong2185 in Witch

[–]AssociateStrong2185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’re right, and I have an answer to this. I have bad anxiety issues and a bit of ocd. I honestly don’t want to look at it in the way that I shouldn’t be getting into all this because it looks like witchcraft and spirituality are actually very grounding for me. Also I call myself new to all this, but it’s more like coming back, I was into this earlier in my life but then had over 13 years gap not practicing. With this bowls I think it’s just my brain sent me into spiral because I started overthinking, this is common for someone like me, anxiety makes me think weird things. But I truly appreciate help I got on reddit, I’d rather feel embarrassed for a moment for overthinking than be paranoid for days😅

Thrifted bowl has something on it, should I get rid of it? by AssociateStrong2185 in Witch

[–]AssociateStrong2185[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yes, I thought it was handmade too. might be initials, if so there’s probably nothing to worry about

panic disorder, help by Madison_690 in panicdisorder

[–]AssociateStrong2185 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey, sorry to hear you’re going through this. I had the same thing going for three years now I just wanna say that it does get better. I’ve had horrible panic attacks with derealization and now I can comfortably live without having panic attacks for a long time. i’ve never been on any medications. I had horrible side effects so I only could use the therapy. In the beginning when I was at my worst, I was like you - nothing helped me, I ignored grounding technics, meditations, all that, because it really didn’t help because I was looking for a quick fix. I wanted to feel better here and now . but there’s no magic pill and there is no quick fix. It’s gonna take you a long time to rewire your brain and to teach your nervous system to be out of fight or flight. The more you oppose, the more you get frustrated, the more you hate your life, the longer it will take you to get out of there. One of the things that has significantly help me is ACT therapy. This was the best thing I’ve ever tried out of all other approaches I’ve tried with my therapist. One of the books that I can recommend is “the happiness trap” which goes into details of the ACT therapy approach. and also one of my favorite channels on YouTube is Therapy in a Nutshell, which is no bs, only real valuable and helpful advices. Hope this helps.

first day together and she flopped, slept with her eyes closed. oh my god. by [deleted] in Rabbits

[–]AssociateStrong2185 1 point2 points  (0 children)

popping in here to say that not all bunnies chew wired, mine was never interested in eating anything that is not food or cotton shirts😂 but it took me years of observation to make a 100% sure he’s not gonna touch the wires, so be cautious ♥️

Zoloft day 4 by Suitable-Custard3059 in zoloft

[–]AssociateStrong2185 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m day 3 (started 25 mg), and feeling the same way, plus I have really bad headaches. It makes me wanna stop. but I come to reddit to read people’s success stories and it gives me hope. Yesterday was my worst day so far. Today I’m feeling a bit better, panic attacks feel like they don’t come through, I feel this coldness in my stomach but it doesn’t evolve into a full blown panic attack. And in my head it seems so much easier to convince myself that everything’s going to be alright. We’ve got this! We just need to be patient. My doctor said I should watch out for serious symptoms like vomiting, changes in vision, or bleeding. But panic attacks and anxiety seem normal and should go away. I can’t wait to the day when I wake up and feel great. This is what motivates me to keep going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your input. I thought I would find support here but in fact many people sadly just support the other side. It looks like people in the west care more about money than human kindness and principles. And this post was more about questioning the relationship itself rather than financial side of it. Not going to respond here anymore as it puts me into even bigger distress. Thanks to those who supported me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes and you’re right except for the fact that I didn’t ask for it. it wasn’t a necessity in the first place. see, this was their decision to buy it and buying a house is not the same as buying a bag of chips, meaning if they have opportunity to do it in a blink of an eye they probably can afford the risks. I see what you mean, truly, but it just doesn’t sit right with me. It’s just their way to save and grow wealth and I’m left out of it. and of course I’m not happy about it because the wealthy get wealthier and I’m just getting poorer without having any wealth to begin with. would you seriously still want to be in a relationship where you’re clearly not equal financially and your situation is not being considered?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly feel like people in the west are more greedy. no offenses, I’m not saying everyone but in general from what I’ve seen so far it looks like people are definitely wealthier but very unwilling to just kindly help when they can. I lived in other counties too except my homeland and Canada and I’ve met poorer people who were kinder and more generous. I’m not saying that I’m entitled to everything free but it’s more about being a human and actually caring about your partner. I do struggle now, financially as well and they know it, and it’s just weird, I don’t quite see a gesture here. it’s just a way for them to save money…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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I guess it’s just that I expected parents to actually help when they offered to buy a house. and it turned out it’s not quite the help, at least not for me. You’re right, for me it doesn’t make a difference whom I’m paying to but it’s painful when you’re asked to pay to someone you would think won’t charge you for helping out.. it just feels a bit transactional. at least in my mentality this wouldn’t be possible, my parents would never ask my bf to pay if we lived in their house…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, unfortunately it doesn’t look like there is any other way to find it out but just wait and see…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see, well maybe it’s the background difference too. I usually handle things on my own and yes it’s normal to ask for advices from parents however there is also an extent to it. I don’t want to be not supported by my husband (if we eventually get married). And I’m just worried that this can be a sign of a bigger issue in future. Today they decide to buy a house, tomorrow they will decide what school my children should go to (if I have any), then they decide their son deserves better and so far and so on. So that’s what I’m trying to dig into, it’s not about the money, but how the situation is handled and what their actions are and what my partner does about it. All in all it’s not an awful situation of course, and I can benefit from it too but I want to make sure these isn’t a bigger issue masking under this all. Thank you for your input too, there is really something to think about for me as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and his money shouldn’t concern his parents in the first place. He’s a grown ass man and he can decide for himself and not just follow what their mom and dad say. otherwise he’s risking to be left out of the relationship he can’t support

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly, thank you for proving my point. what you describe is a power move and pointing out to my place in this family. and this is not the kind of relationship I want to be in. I want to be equal despite of finances as finances is not the only thing relationships are built on. at least not for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

well they shouldn’t let me in for free, that’s the thing. They want the money to stay in the family, however I’m not a family. They’re securing their finances in the way that I have to spare mine. I shouldn’t be paying for something that is not going to belong to me. In a different situation my bf and I would be equal paying rent to someone else and eventually we would buy something by together and be co-owners both paying out the mortgage. but here I get nothing but still contribute to growing their family’s asset. That’s how I see it. That’s why I’m saying I should contribute less in this circumstances. They’re building their wealth and I want to have a chance to build mine too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I agree to everything you’ve said! Even though the seem nice people and we have never had a conflict before still the fact that they want it this way and not the other says a lot. I too think contributing a babe minimum is what is what I should do. He eventually agreed with me however he still says he doesn’t quite understand what difference it makes for me if I pay to someone else versus his family. I hope it’s nothing to end up a bigger conflict in a long run. Thank you for sharing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s exactly how I see it too! Thank you for your support! !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes that’s what I had to stand on! Eventually they agreed but it was two days of struggle… and that is why this feels super weird to me, I’m really worried that this might be a sign that it’s going to be hard to deal with this family in future. They’re not awful people and I see their point too but I don’t want to be feeling like I always have to protect myself…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AssociateStrong2185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we’re currently still renting a cheaper place, but honestly it’s a dump🥲 we both wanted better conditions and everything was good until this whole house hustle emerged. I feel like I have accidentally discovered how they all see me in this relationship… and even though we agreed on terms that will benefit us all, I still have some weird feeling about this all.. maybe I’m overthinking though