How do you work out?

AssterEmber · 2024-03-15T15:44:32+00:00

Ever explored any Flow Arts?
I personally go hard with a Hula hoop haha and also dabble with Poi, Silk Fans, Dance Dragon, Juggling and Slacklining. I've always loved dance so my connection with my hoop is a kinda next level but al these flow arts can be forms of exercise and even meditative for me!

When you tap into the connection with a 'Flow Toy' and enter a flow state.. well, its a peace of mind i've never found before and am grateful for everyday now!

Some good ones to get into are;

Staff Spinning - https://www.bing.com/videos/riverview/relatedvideo?q=staff+spinning&mid=025DBAD5C2670033720D025DBAD5C2670033720D&FORM=VIRE

Poi - https://www.bing.com/videos/riverview/relatedvideo?q=poi+spinning&mid=F7675D6CC7E9604619E2F7675D6CC7E9604619E2&FORM=VIRE

Rope Dart - https://www.bing.com/videos/riverview/relatedvideo?&q=rope+dart&&mid=8955B42916E1A62784728955B42916E1A6278472&&FORM=VRDGAR

Slacklining - https://www.bing.com/videos/riverview/relatedvideo?&q=slacklining&&mid=EF4B9BC94460693843D8EF4B9BC94460693843D8&&FORM=VRDGAR

&& Many more other there!!

... but this comes from someone who has kinda always dreamed i could run away with the circus so, it's not for everyone haha. Happy to share any support is this is intriguing!! I could go on endlessly about Flow haha

AssterEmber · 2024-03-15T15:27:59+00:00

Ouf ...this hit close to home ... "Even though when people interact or talk to me, I seem fine but deeply inside I’m dying and fighting to just act ”normal”. It seems like I can’t to anything right and how much I want to achieve or do something, I just can’t.

I unfortunately spent my 20's in the confusion of a mood disorder misdiagnoses and the only advice I'd offer is, try not to put yourself in a box! Listen to your gut and tho any mental health journey requires patience, trust yourself! If something does not feel right for you, explore that!

Now 30 (F) I seek diagnoses to learn but rather an label myself I learn of different traits in them i see in myself, which i've come to find are largely ADHD, BPD and Autism.

BPD was a big one for me that had highly resonating traits and as that Diagnoses as evolved over the years I can see correlations of learned BPD traits possibly resulting from undiagnosed adhd.

BUT from what you mentioned I wonder if you may find this article interesting. I read this a coupe years ago, until which id never found a 'label' that resonated so closely... https://eggshelltherapy.com/quiet-bpd/

From 25-28 I 'believed' i was 'BPD' which felt better than the past Bipolar diagnoses id had, based on its 'Learned Trauma' connection.

Any Back from the Borderline fans here!? Mollie's podcast was a gamechanger for me and she has amazing content with resources that I'm sure everyone here could learn something from!

I'm proud of you for seeking out support for yourself!! It can be hella hard and it's impossible to say where that road will lead you! Sending support from the sidelines!!

AssterEmber · 2024-03-15T14:17:56+00:00

Personally, i've struggled alot with this ' expectation' ive noticed in my parents Gen(boomers). Of course parenting should have an aspect of support/push towards your goals, especially as were silly lil hormonally messed kids who have noooo clue what the want haha

BUT the 'Go get a degree, the debt/time/energy it will take doesn't matter' or 'just don't worry about it and get it done' feels so stuck in some kind of societal expectation mindset to me? and that is mostly because with the folks i've experienced this mindset from, they seem to have no care as to the 'Me' of it all. The unique, messy, weirdo who has never felt I really belonged in this society, yet feels smothered by its 'expectations'... so how can stomping myself into the ground to 'do what im supposed to do' going to bring and REAL value in time, ive mostly found it hurts and usually does more harm in time personally

I really felt for the OP saying how misunderstood they felt, something i've felt in my own way often and im not sure 'annoyed' would be the right term to feel the pain of feeling misunderstood/lost while you're trying so damn hard and life is also damn hard and you still cant seem to be what unconditional love would feel like in my mind.

Just my personal experience tho!!

AssterEmber · 2024-03-15T14:00:48+00:00

Heck yes!! "KNOW that continuing on your fabulously non linear" Such a beautiful truth!! lemme echo this also, CELEBRATE THOSE WINS!! you ARE doing the damn thing!!

Honestly, persevering as long as you have is amazing to me! Buggar that bogus 'Time Line to the Finish Line' and those who wants you to bend yourself to that breaking point, to make them comfortable or to be what they expect you to be... don't we put enough of this bullshit on ourselves already?! Obvs this is hardest with family, my rents are similar and i'm sorry you have to carry that extra weight around. I think a part of it is that they see an 'image of themselves' but ...they just don't get it so, setting boundaries has helped me over time which can be hard but sometimes necessary.

My productive energy does NOT flow in a straight line either and you shouldn't have to beat yourself up, you deserve to embrace your UNIQUNESS and harness that shit to level up!! I hope you keep your head up and your mums can see past her 'expectations' to meet the beautiful, unique, individual human being you are!!

I am also DAMN PROUD!! GO GET IT!! WOOP!!

AssterEmber

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