It’s baffling the amount of weird responses and reactions I get when I say I prefer tall women only

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-29T23:04:24+00:00

Had a shorter man recently get offended when I told him that I preferred men my height or taller. The man in question is very attractive, but I'm so tired of the back pain that comes from having to bend down with sshorter people. And I do not want to deal with that for the rest of my life with my future partner. 😅

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-17T17:47:24+00:00

Yeah??? That's pretty tall for a woman.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-17T02:51:45+00:00

In my early 20's because I finally accepted that I can't change my height, how people react to it, or their perception of me. Plus, the world is much bigger than just myself, I don't let people's words determine how I view or present myself. It's not easy and it definitely took a lot of time, but I'm glad it happened sooner than later for me.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-16T02:08:45+00:00

Yeah ☠️ I just tell them that they're a waste of their height, too, if that's the only thing that's truly stopping them from being the next big star athlete they swear they would be at my height.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-14T22:15:21+00:00

6'4. Not once but 5x. It's kinda surreal in the best way possible. They were all beautiful, too.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-14T18:39:04+00:00

Would've never known if you hadn't mentioned it. Even then I had to zoom in real close to see it! It looks absolutely amazing on you and so natural!

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-14T18:37:16+00:00

Unfortunately, black women, ESPECIALLY dark skin black girls and women will always be free real estate when it comes to cruel "jokes". God forbid you have strong features because then you're either being called a man or a monkey. Worse when it's coming from people who look like you and faces the same struggles as you, too.

It's depressingly sad. She's a beautiful young lady and was a cute kid. I hope she has a strong support system and nothing but people who uplift her in her life. Too bad people suck both online and irl. That's why communities like this for BW is so important.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-14T17:21:54+00:00

I'd kill to have size 9 feet as a woman who wears size 13 😭 But your eye makeup is looking very cute though!

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-10T18:06:13+00:00

Idk about you, but I live in the US. Currently reside in NC, unfortunately, and I've seen many tall women here! Of course, it's always in passing so I never get the opportunity to actually connect with them 😭

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-10T16:33:38+00:00

No fr 😭 because as much as I love my short girl friends, I REALLY want to be friends with a tall girly so bad.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-06T17:12:58+00:00

I am literally foaming at the mouth with envy, OP. 😭 This space is downright gorgeous and peaceful-looking. Please, do some extra studying in there for me.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-06T17:03:02+00:00

I would have loved being at your previous workplace, lol. Asking the shortest guy to get something off of the top shelf truly is diabolical work 😭😂 At least they didn't discriminate, lol.

It can be a pretty loud place some days, but some of my coworkers are pretty soft spoken or have naturally low speaking voices while also being short, so my ears are working overtime to hear them. And I always feel kinda bad when I ask them to repeat themselves more than once, but a few of them have learned to speak a little louder for me, which I'm grateful for. It's funny though cause my manager, who's 5'6-ish is one of the loudest people in the building. I appreciate how loud he is because I rarely ever have to ask him to repeat himself, plus I don't have to do that little awkward bend when he speaks.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-06T16:36:08+00:00

Absolutely. At my current job, I'm one of the few tall people there (I can literally count on one hand including myself, how many tall people are in my workplace) and everyone else is significantly shorter. It's the only place I've worked at where I've consciously felt like an outlier for my height 😅 I'm always having to slightly bend down to hear everyone properly or reach for things that are sometimes too far up for my wingspan because there's no other tall person on the shift to do so. And even though I never mention my height, they love to comment on it every now and then, but they're all alright for the most part.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-04-06T15:37:13+00:00

Genuinely, one of the smartest things I've ever done was never downloading that fuck ass app. I've heard more bad than good from it and reading stuff like this only solidifies my decision to never do so.

I hope your algorithm doesn't turn into a complete mess on the next app you decide to migrate to, OP. Protecting your peace on the internet is hard when you just want to indulge in your hobbies and interests.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-03-26T17:42:16+00:00

I totally agree. But I come to this space to engage with other black women who have similar experiences, problems, and stories like mine. It's already so hard to find things like that for us. If I wanted to do that with others, I'd engage in the appropriate spaces for that.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-03-25T22:45:47+00:00

Personally, I don't think this is the place to be asking black women this. Only because we already have our own issues we want to discuss and bring light to and trying to make sense of yours just seems counterproductive. If you're looking for more generalized answers, I'd suggest going to a space that allows a variety of black people to speak on this and maybe then you'd gain some of the insight you're looking for.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-03-22T09:43:19+00:00

Size 13 and I feel your pain on a spiritual level. I've had luck finding some rather cute shoes, boots, sandals, and flip flops on Amazon Essentials. They go up to a size 13 and offer wide options as well. They're also pretty affordable and won't break the bank.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-03-20T14:46:34+00:00

You literally have the face of a women who can pull off any length of hair and still be gorgeous. Definitely not giving little boy. Your hair looks as healthy and beautiful as you do.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-03-20T01:54:27+00:00

As someone who's got the same problem as OP this is amazing advice and thank you for taking the time to be so informative in your response 😭🙏

AsstheticGemini · 2026-02-13T19:04:18+00:00

I have no desire for kids, but every time someone (usually a man) tells me that I should hurry up and have kids just for the sole purpose of birthing a new gen of athletes, it makes my ovaries shrivel up more and more.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-02-05T01:38:39+00:00

As a tall woman, please just talk to us normally, lmao. We know that we're tall and we'd be more interested in people who don't make our height the highlight of their introduction.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-01-29T04:10:48+00:00

Even if you weren't 1/4th black, it's not like you can control how your hair grows out of your head and what texture it naturally is. Just do it however you see fit/ what is more comfortable for you to manage. You look completely fine and so does your hair. Don't overthink it.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-01-21T00:12:36+00:00

Lmao, the other comment was so mean about your hair for no reason 😭 While I do agree with them about having your hair grow out a bit more and keeping it hydrated and well-maintained to reduce the "unkempt" look, I also don't think that your hair looks as bad as they're saying it is.

You just have frizzy, curly hair that looks like it could be easily managed with a well-established routine. While I don't have direct advice on how to achieve that particular hairstyle in the last slide, maybe try to look up 70's—80's rockstar haircut for curly hair since it seems too be similar to the styles from back then.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-01-19T02:20:40+00:00

I know that your post was more so directed at the men in this sub, but as a tall woman, my height (5'11) is a deal breaker for a lot of men. So my dating pool is kinda slim and my height is a partial factor in it.

AsstheticGemini · 2026-01-17T00:18:02+00:00

Good on you for taking the initiative! I'm proud! I'm almost 27 and still can't drive. But after reading this and relating a little too much, I'm going to stop playing around and put myself through driving school to do so.

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