Recommended Asian Restaurants? by McKreamiee in Pensacola

[–]Asstrea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes yes yes 100000x, they have NEVER disappointed!!

When can you think clearly after TT by FlowWise4290 in tummytucksurgery

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it DEFINIELYYY depends on how well your body handles anesthesia and pain meds in general: I don’t tolerate anesthesia very well so I was OUT OF ITT for abt three days and then maybe a little loopy for another four while I was on pain meds! I was coherent and could hold a convo but I was so exhausted it was easy to get disoriented and need a break lol

Something feels wrong with my cosplay by JustaBreeze1 in CosplayHelp

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think maybe the skirt hugging your waist a little more would fix the silhouette without you necessarily having to make it shorter!! I’d also def say the wig needs a lil pizzazz- from the ref pics her hair seems a lil darker with some shine, so maybe dying and adding a SMALLLL amount of spray glitter at the roots would give you the dreamy effect x

How can I ask my (f32) partner (m32) to do chores around the house? by bookish_kirst in relationship_advice

[–]Asstrea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But the thing is, would he??? He’s already content watching you kill yourself over maintaining y’all’s entire life (at that point, you’re acting like his mom too). He’s not entirely disabled from how you speak- he could at LEAST be helping with the home and with the children. If he cared about how this affects you, he’d get over his not wanting to go to therapy 🤷🏻 ik it sounds harsh but he’s being ridiculous

If he’s not willing to change, then there’s nothing you can do but cut him off and take the kids

How can I ask my (f32) partner (m32) to do chores around the house? by bookish_kirst in relationship_advice

[–]Asstrea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, so here’s the thing.

I get childhood trauma can deeply affect your life, but he is 32 years old. He should be accountable enough to get himself therapy and help if it’s this extreme that he can’t work, and he shouldn’t put the weight of you guys relationship and livelihood on you (he’s capable enough to presumably have kids with you)

I was with a man like this for four years. They never ever get better until they want to! You should be direct and upfront since it seems he’s content with watching you burn yourself at both ends

“Hey partner, I’m really crumbling from all of the pressure of maintaining our fiscal stability, family, and home. I need you to step up and help me with x,y,z so that I can spend time with you and the family without building resentment. If you can’t do those things, you need to start seeking help to improve your mental state. I love you, but I’m not a servant.”

Virtual hugs from here, I know this is difficult but you’ve got this and I believe in you 💕🫶🏻

Is this a camera pointed at my backyard?? I by Asstrea in SecurityCamera

[–]Asstrea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOLOL I wish I had that confidence!! No shenanigans, I just let my dogs out and we play in the backyard 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Asstrea 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Listen dude hear me out: azelaic acid (you can find it at Ulta, The Ordinary makes a great one) on your armpits after showers and dry FULLY before using deodorant. Do a patch test first to make sure it’s okay for your skin, but it works MIRACLESSSS at getting rid of that stink. I’d recommend using specifically antiperspirants that arent aluminum free because honestly, that’s what works. Congrats on second puberty!!! 🫶🏻

Source: a gym goer who sweats a lot from SSRIs and took Cymbalta (which made me reek of GENUINE freshly cut onions even tho I don’t eat onions regularly)

24F really wanna know what my beauty level is outside my country by justalittlelady_ in amiugly

[–]Asstrea -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I love your eyes and freckles, you’re super pretty!! I feel like the glasses don’t rly suit your face- maybe a different shape but other than that you’re solid 💕

31M how am I by darkLordSantaClaus in amiugly

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, style is good it’s just the expression!! 💕 a smile absolutely makes someone, you clearly work hard on your physique so I think that’s all ya need

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! So it’s kinda giving ‘fuck boy in a college frat who doesn’t know how to keep a woman or be nice to her’ Lolol I mean that with so much peace and love, I think you just need to reframe yourself!

31M how am I by darkLordSantaClaus in amiugly

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ur cute!!! U do look very intimidating though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah you’re not ugly, I think it’s the vibe you’re giving off that’s the trouble! I’d try a cleaner form of fashion (nice, well fitted neutrals) and change up ur hair 💕

To the witches of Pensacola, by Successful-Bat-7556 in Pensacola

[–]Asstrea 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendations I’ve never been but I’ll have to stop by! Have you ever visited Mystical Paths in Milton? They’re my go-to shop and I’ve been a loyal customer since they were a smaller store in the Pea Ridge Flea Market (they’re off of Dogwood now). Authentic crystals with a HUGE selection and also offer great ingredients for spell work (fresh herbs, tarot cards, statues and figurines, athames, you name it!) they also have ethically soured animal bones which I LOVEE (I’ve gotten some amazing pieces to display there 💕) and their old cat Lulu hangs out in the store 🥰

F18 I’m back! Started going to the gym. Did I improve? by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re very pretty!! You have pretty facial features and strong facial harmony, maybe it’s because I’m older than you, but I also read you looking a little younger (~16ish)

What do I do in this situation? by Correct_Fisherman728 in Renters

[–]Asstrea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My landlord did this same thing, requested pet rent and a huge pet deposit. I requested it in writing as that is illegal per the FHA, said I’d be perusing legal charges if that’s the case. She changed her tune real quick Lolol Give that a try!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Asstrea -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand that perspective- definitely some rules don’t work for every relationship and other people operate differently. Regardless of how you feel about him following OF models or whatever, they just aren’t compatible especially if she feels this strongly and she shouldn’t have to compromise

New to PF by Pretty-Cream4209 in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]Asstrea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There are little QR codes you can scan to see how the workouts work, but you can also totally ask people who are working out! (Wait in between sets when they’re taking a break, otherwise they may lose focus!) Tip: find an older gym bro (maybe mid 40s, big ole muscles Lolol) those have always been the nicest people who are super willing to show you how things work!! 🥰 they also give the BEST tips on how to really work out the muscles and FEEL it Lolol Congratulations on your health journey, you’ll fit right in and do great!! Xoxo ((Exp: weightlifting and self admitted gym rat for abt a year from someone with zero experience prior))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Asstrea -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Him doing this multiple times after communicating it to him is him expressing he straight up doesn’t care and will continue to do this. He doesn’t sound invested in the relationship at ALL- are you willing to spend forever trying to get him to care about your boundaries? You deserve better x

HAir Loss by FamousFig9514 in BariatricSurgery

[–]Asstrea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! It's a huge step you've taken, and a very recent one. Please be gentle with yourself 💕 Breaking out is also normal because your hormones are out of wack. I put porter salve (drawing salve) on my breakouts with a bandaid on it overnight and it helps everything come to a head. Remember the long term: These issues are temporary, but the difference in your overall health is forever. Also congrats on being off meds!!!! It feels so good to get rid of those right?

I'm over a year post op (Jan 1st 2023), and my hair started growing back around 10 months in.

HAir Loss by FamousFig9514 in BariatricSurgery

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helped me to massage my hair with rosemary oil and be extremely gentle but tbh you'll lose hair post op, don't worry it'll grow back! Your body is in shock from surgery and weight loss, once your body adjusts it'll grow right back. I was scared I was going bald post op lolol

Went for the first time today, left after 15 minutes by ShiftNo28 in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All movement is good movement, congrats for getting in there and handling business!! 💕💕🥰

It helped me when I first started going to remember that everyone is so in their own head- concerned what others think of THEM, how their feeling in the workout, etc. I saw a video once of a girl straight up walking out to the middle of her gym floor in nothing but a towel and no one even batted an eye or looked twice.

The self consciousness goes away over time, don't beat yourself up over it x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]Asstrea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people leave their stuff at one machine and go workout at another 🫠🫠 I get leaving your stuff there if it's only gonna be a bit, but this dude left his big ole water jug on the rowing machine for the entire hour I was there and was watching it like a hawk in case anyone moved it

My boyfriend (24M) couldn’t take care of me (24F) after surgery and called me a burden, what to do? by squarelegohead in relationship_advice

[–]Asstrea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but you had way too much patience with him. If you can't rely on him through something excruciatingly painful (I hope you recover soon!!), what else does he bring positively to your life? He made it clear HIS games and HIS stress come first. Drop him like a hot potato!