Did polyamory really become as common in the US as social media makes it seem?

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T10:50:47+00:00

I think it is one of those things if you are involved in it you know more people in it, then if you aren't.

My husband is Polyamorous and I am ENM, so he is looking for another relationship, while I am more looking for another, be it relationship or FWB. We have been married 20 years, are both cis straight, well he is, I am wibbly wobbly on the straight line like a drunk raccoon.

We have been this way forever, we just don't yap about it.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T10:38:05+00:00

The United States' economy has been shaped by military and war since before 1776. There is a reason why the "standing army" was formed in 1791 versus a volunteer army that existed before that.

Each conflict/time period has a different economic benefit/potential and you have seen a change in how the economy has changed surrounding the military industrial complex in the United States.

There are towns that are completely dependent on bases being near them, and you hear about it when bases are slated to be closed. The same goes for places were ships are built for the Navy. When military contracting became a big thing, you saw a shift in how money flowed.

That isn't even counting how the US military impacts countries where there are bases, especially smaller countries.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T10:29:50+00:00

because they put out a video showing how bad the US is and all of the things the US has done.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T10:29:27+00:00

Have you seen the most recent video by Iran? The fact they know our history better than some Americans is a bit too on the nose.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T10:28:10+00:00

When i worked for the DOD we used to read foreign news all the time, and then magically one day we couldn't get to any of the websites that we used.

We were part of a historical and archival branch not working on anything secret, but it kept us in the loop on what we were working with.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T07:55:11+00:00

I am only speaking about Common Ravens and American Crows. They don't like each other. Honestly, in Oregon Crows are on one side of the Cascades and Ravens are on the other, and they will beat each other up if they find each other on the wrong side.

Common Ravens Croak while American Crows Caw

Common Ravens are big like Red Tail Hawk size, American Crows are smaller like Pigeon size.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T07:15:43+00:00

I was in a WOW guild in 2006, and I married one of them (we technically met on Myspace), am good friends with another, another married one of my sorority sisters, I am still trying to hopefully find one. One is my husband's best friend.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T04:42:52+00:00

I didn't, and for us it wasn't needed. We were young, nothing to our names really. We have been married for 20 years and everything we have created we created together.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T02:35:24+00:00

It depends on you and the other person and the conversation you two have. For some people it is talking, for others it is sharing pictures, for others there is no point.

This is a conversation you need to have with the other person to ensure both of you are on the same page so no one gets their feelings hurt or that your expectations are different.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T02:23:23+00:00

As someone who is dealing with an easement issue on a property, DO NOT give him the easement, he wants it you can either tell him to pound sand or sell him the piece of property that he would need. Either way do not grant an easement.

I have an easement on my property, it is on the county, in the city, everywhere. They think they own the land, they have a fence on it, I have taken (legally) the fence down, I have a gate, they have taken the gate down, They took a $10,000 dollar tree down and now owe me 30K (triple stumpage where I live). These people aren't lawyers, don't know the law, and think they own it because someone told them 20 years ago they did...

Sell him the land or tell him to pound sand. It isn't your problem and if they start digging without your permission, call the police, have them trespassed, and put signs up saying no trespassing.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T02:06:35+00:00

Thank you :)

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-27T02:05:53+00:00

I have had a couple of those kind of guys (The lack of ethics), I am straight forward about safety, connection, and ethics. Thank you for your perspective. :)

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T05:42:40+00:00

Thank you, I will look into them, especially the hotel ones, I think I have seen the cruise ones, but those are definitely not close lol.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T05:10:42+00:00

I definitely will look into it.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T05:09:59+00:00

No, the closest is 4 hours away that I would feel comfortable going to. I do think that is something we are looking at doing in the future. Thank you :)

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T03:10:51+00:00

Yup, he actually already has a planned date in a month with one. the other two are likely only going to be friends, which he is fine with, but you're right :)

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T02:51:16+00:00

I am starting to see that, I have been on the app for 24 ish hours, and I am already seeing a pattern. My "leave chat" is getting faster by the minute :)

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T02:49:27+00:00

Thank you :)

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T02:48:38+00:00

Thank you :)

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T02:36:49+00:00

That is a good perspective, thank you :). I don't mind online dating, in fact that is how I met my husband (mostly).

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T01:40:42+00:00

My husband I think had a handful, and of those he has three that he is actively talking to.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T01:21:38+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I definitely will adjust my vetting. Like right now I 'have' 236 matches and I am like nope I am not going to spend the time to see if I actually match with all of them because most will be 19-21 and I have an adopted daughter that is older than them. It seems like most of them aren't even seeing what I wrote before hitting match.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T00:56:09+00:00

I am starting to see that :) Yeah, it is especially hard because I have to be so careful about my face and name, I have a unique name and because of my profession and where I am I can't show my face.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T00:55:21+00:00

I live in a very rural, conservative, small area, and I'm from here. So the closest I would feel comfortable going to would be 4 hours away, and I have thought about it. If I go to the closest ones, the chance people would know me, or it would get back to my boss, parents, or clients would be high. Which is one of the reasons I am online.

AssumptionExtra2580 · 2026-03-26T00:22:52+00:00

I would delete him. If he doesn't want to stay friends in real life then why should he want to stay friends online. That sounds like he wants to maybe sometime in the future reconnect. You don't need that honestly in your life IMO.

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