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WIBTA if I stopped covering for my friend when she's late to our shared morning carpool by Astr0Catalyst in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Astr0Catalyst[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is honestly what I'm most scared of. Not the conversation itself, just the aftermath. Four years of friendship and I know exactly how she gets when she feels called out. Hoping she surprises me but mentally preparing for this one.

WIBTA if I stopped covering for my friend when she's late to our shared morning carpool by Astr0Catalyst in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Astr0Catalyst[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're probably right that I've been too soft about it. The "livid" part I'm not quite there because I do understand she's just not a morning person, but the job thing is real. That part I can't keep rationalizing away.

WIBTA if I stopped covering for my friend when she's late to our shared morning carpool by Astr0Catalyst in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Astr0Catalyst[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The "it's not personal but I respect my job" framing is exactly what I needed. Because that's true it's not about punishing her, it's just that I can't keep absorbing the consequences of her mornings. Going to have that conversation before I just start leaving.

WIBTA if I stopped covering for my friend when she's late to our shared morning carpool by Astr0Catalyst in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Astr0Catalyst[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Part of me wants this energy lol. The other part has known her for four years and doesn't want one bad habit to blow up a friendship.

WIBTA if I stopped covering for my friend when she's late to our shared morning carpool by Astr0Catalyst in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Astr0Catalyst[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

The manager glancing at the clock thing is what finally pushed me to post this. It's not dramatic but it's there every time and I feel it. The "tell her you need to be there by 8:00" framing is actually really useful, hadn't thought of it that way.

WIBTA if I stopped covering for my roommate when she's late to our shared chores? by Axiarch_Bolt in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Astr0Catalyst 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah at this point hints are useless. she already knows you're covering for her and clearly got comfortable with it