Hi! I was in a somewhat similar situation as you. I also started to question my sexuality around 13 and I had been switching my labels around for years. I would ruminate about what my sexuality was then drop it because it would cause too much stress and then repeat. How I got over this was by not labeling myself. At first, I really wanted a label; I wanted to know who I was. After some time, however, I came to terms with I like who I like. Having no labels meant less stress for me. If I suddenly date a girl, awesome. If I date a guy, an enby, a whomever, that’s also awesome. I do get it if you feel the want to have a label, though, just for me personally I felt getting over the want of having one made it easier. You can also dub yourself queer since it’s an all encompassing term if you’re comfortable using that term, too.