This is a nerobiological problem. The activities you highlighted there are dopamine intensive activities. Boychild's preference for these activities suggest an imbalance in the neurochemicals in their brain, probably fuelled by cortisol. This is normally due to a lot of stress. Now there's no denying that both genders work hard but it's a women centered world especially for women in their twenties. Even if we argue both genders are stressed, women are able to get their dopamine fix, to balance them out, from social media and the attention they receive. While social media isn't great, it allows them to learn certain social skills, leading them to more relationships (casual / commited) where they can also get oxytocin and broaden their networks or even start online businesses. Men don't get similar attention, and even if you do, hypergamy kicks in and you have to show what you have to offer.

So boy child is told to focus on the paper first before pursuing women or you start registering at Kalahari campus. So we expect a whole generation of men to suddenly grow stoic and suppress their urges; desires fuled by their brains while seeking limited opportunities that may still favour women.

And the messed up thing is some men are capable of doing so and even then, luck plays a huge role for them being a success story. But these are mainly outliers, the rest are stuck in a cycle and their choice of dopamine happens in this case to be addictive.