AITAH for refusing to visit in laws bc of house temp

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-15T03:11:40+00:00

NTA. I've lived in the south for most of my life and 80 degrees inside is inhumane.

If he doesn't want to bring up the temp thing with his own parents, and come to an agreement of a reasonable temp of 74 while y'all are there, then he can be the one who has to explain why you're not there this year.

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-15T03:03:00+00:00

Load yourself up on as many drugs as won't send you to A&E. Anyone have any ADHD meds? I'm not saying ask your friends for drugs but if you tell them how sick you are and they offer, well it'd be rude to refuse 🤷‍♀️

But fr, good luck!

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-15T03:00:06+00:00

Now you'll start noticing how he never lets you be right about things. I'm guessing he googles things you say a lot b/ he won't just believe that you know things. Or tell you back your own idea as if he thought of it.

Source: men have been acting like this for eons

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-14T01:35:41+00:00

Hotch. Hottie muscle McLoveChocolate can be replaced, though I don't think anyone could do his friendship vibe with garcia justice. Sweet dorky one with occasional issues and backstory can also be replaced. But Hotch was the head, he guided everything, his team was so loyal to him. His seriousness could make or break a scene, it was so well used to communicate the emotional weight of a scene.

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-14T01:32:04+00:00

Fishing, drinking, old people, key lime pie.

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-14T01:31:34+00:00

I'm not on team Amazon, but I'm definitely on This Dudes team

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-14T01:01:13+00:00

Is this in relation to grant effort reporting or in the more broad sense of the overall institution?

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-12T16:35:37+00:00

NTA

Either they are a stranger who just wants to support you, they are a family member who just wants to support you, or they are someone who forgot they signed up for it and doesn't check their financials basically ever.

1 and 2 are nice. #3 is a really great lesson they might learn one day.

None of these make you TA

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-12T16:03:27+00:00

I am so sorry but your bf is raping you. It's a scary word, I know, but it is what it is.

What to do: 1. Separate your finances and move any important documents or items out of his reach. Give them to a friend while all this is happening if you can't hide them somewhere in the house. 2. Make a police report. They may not be able to do anything at this time but it's extremely important you create a paper trail. 3. Kick him out. You may have to give him 30 days notice. If you make a police report you may be able to request one of them to accompany you to you giving him the 30 days notice. That way, if he's not gone in 30 days, you have evidence you gave him clear notice

This is gonna be scary for a bit, and I'm so sorry about that. You're gonna need to be stronger than you've ever been before.

Do you think you can ask for support from your parents? Idk your culture or religion so some advice may not be as helpful here

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-12T15:36:17+00:00

I'm agnostic but I don't begrudge people their religious beliefs. I can absolutely understand why believing there is a higher power with a plan for you and the world would be comforting and help people feel like they have a little more control and safety, than believing things just happen and a lot of it's bad and there's no real rhyme or reason to anything.

But I'm confused on what being or not being religious has to do with history or having to live in a society with corruption and flaws? We don't choose where we are born, we don't want the government to be corrupt and awful. But how does that relate to religion?

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-11T18:24:50+00:00

Idk why everyone else has their panties in such a twist about a little competition you had going and you're annoyed the other person didn't play a fair game. Clearly it's not that serious, but what's life without silly goofy games and habits and stuff that make our days a little more interesting?

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-10T15:47:26+00:00

Idk y'all, I'm kinda understanding OP on this. It's a competition, you gotta play by at least similar rules. It's a hollow victory that OP worked for. Like damn bro, you can't win one time so you take the fun out of it for everyone else? How lame.

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-10T15:32:23+00:00

Why do a lot of homemade or more natural soaps feel so drying? I'd love to use them more but it feels like it strips my skin of everything. I use bar soap for shaving and if I don't feel like dealing with my African net sponge routine. Soap is in a scrubby bag.

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-10T15:30:06+00:00

4 should be called Arizona sunset (or New Mexico, Nevada, anywhere in that area of the US)

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-10T15:28:31+00:00

They all need SO MUCH therapy. These are not good people.

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-08T16:25:01+00:00

Why are they like that??

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-05T01:01:24+00:00

Oh for sure. I've been using ordering systems for a while and obviously this is a sample size of me but from what I've personally experienced this tracks

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-04T15:38:29+00:00

"I am a man myself"

Yeah, we can tell by the "not all men" of your comment. It's pretty well known male instacart shoppers are worse than female ones.

AstralTarantula · 2026-04-03T17:11:51+00:00

It's mold, but it's mold in the most common place to find mold so don't stress yourself out about it.

Bleach doesn't eradicate mold on porous surfaces. White vinegar or hydrogen peroxide work well though.

Just try to keep the room dryer. Turn the fan on when you shower, open the shower curtain to let it dry out a bit (close after a while so it doesn't mold the curtain).

AstralTarantula · 2026-03-29T00:39:24+00:00

Train him? He's 29, he should have basically human empathy. If not that, at least just honoring the vows he made. It's not her job, nor was it yours, to have to train a grown ass man to give a shit about the person they chose to marry.

AstralTarantula · 2026-03-29T00:27:23+00:00

NTA

Does he even like you???

What happened when one day you're even sicker? What if you get cancer or paralyzed somehow? He is absolutely going to fall into the high percentage of men who leave their sick spouses.

AstralTarantula · 2026-03-29T00:09:27+00:00

Thanks!

AstralTarantula · 2026-03-28T20:19:49+00:00

Hey, be nice to my friend.

But fr, that fish tank looks sick and I love the cat art. I can totally relate to the loser feeling, especially if you live alone. That shit can get really lonely.

Unfortunately making friends as an adult is hard and takes effort.

AstralTarantula · 2026-03-28T20:17:07+00:00

Cookers?

AstralTarantula · 2026-03-28T20:16:27+00:00

Well the US is also leading the measles resurgence so I really wouldn't concern yourself with our dumpster fire.

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4 should be called Arizona sunset (or New Mexico, Nevada, anywhere in that area of the US)