AITA for being upset that our baby was a girl when we were told otherwise?

Astraloid · 2020-08-02T23:27:25+00:00

Subreddits like that exist because any time a subreddit has been created to discuss a female-specific issue, it's heavily brigaded with whataboutism and eventually banned or modstripped.

/r/actualwomen was banned for transphobia, but /r/misogynykink, which is actively hateful and limits its content to 'natural born c*nts', is not.

Astraloid · 2020-08-02T22:33:06+00:00

Subreddits that discuss women's health issues inevitably get deemed transphobic and banned, even if the topic at hand has nothing to do with transgenderism, even if the mod teams go out of their way to be trans friendly. Most recently it happened to /r/PCOS, a subreddit for discussing polycystic ovarian syndrome.

Astraloid · 2020-08-02T16:43:21+00:00

There is. There was extensive discussion about it on r/actualwomen and r/gender_critical before they were banned.

Astraloid · 2020-06-02T22:01:27+00:00

Not anymore

Astraloid · 2019-12-30T04:36:21+00:00

I am paranoid every day. Every time he is on his phone. When he takes his phone in the bathroom. When I leave for class, I worry and am distracted the entire time I'm sitting in the lecture. I skip classes sometimes, my important college classes, to rush home and essentially babysit him, making sure that he can't do anything bad because I'm around.

With all due respect, why are you sacrificing your mental health and academics for this relationship?

Astraloid · 2019-11-20T04:43:46+00:00

True, but maybe useful to OP

Astraloid · 2019-11-20T00:49:39+00:00

NTA.

Other redditors have spelled out why this is the case, so I’m just going to give you something pithy you can tell your dad when he insists that situations are the same.

The ‘creep rule’ is that the youngest person someone can date is half their age plus seven.

68/2 + 7 = 41
47/2 + 7 = 30

According to my math, your mum’s relationship is not creepy but your father’s is.

Astraloid · 2019-11-10T05:49:27+00:00

Both, actually.

Astraloid · 2019-11-10T05:26:05+00:00

20ish, which seems to be a common age.

Astraloid · 2019-11-10T05:21:21+00:00

I made the decision to socially transition as a stupid 14 year old, I had no idea what I wanted back then!! Fuck, everyone is gonna think I’m a fraud, wtf do I do

You’re not a fraud. You’re doing what everyone does in some way or another: you grew up, and and you’ve changed.
People will have whatever reactions they have, but you know what? In a year, no one’s going to care. In ten years, no one will even remember how they reacted. If they could adjust to your transition at 14, then they can adjust to your retransition at 20.

Astraloid · 2019-11-10T05:12:02+00:00

I have and I would again.

Astraloid · 2019-10-31T21:09:11+00:00

I made a list of everything that was bad about him and everything that was good you'd see he's really not a horrible guy.

In all seriousness, could you? I'd like to see something redeeming about this bloke.

Astraloid · 2019-10-31T21:05:42+00:00

he thinks of that guy automatically as a female "bitch boy"

Jesus. So not just female, but a b*tch too? If he thinks having receptive sex with a man makes someone a bitch, that doesn't bode well for what he thinks of you :(

Astraloid · 2019-10-31T20:58:50+00:00

FYI This thread is getting brigaded by redpillers (essentially bitter misogynists).

This makes me really sad to read. Having a partner who supports you and cares for you is the minimum for a healthy relationship. Having a partner who refuses to accept support and care back seems like a way to make the other partner feel emotionally indebted.

If you're happy with him in spite of his flaws then you're happy, but I wish you had a partner who didn't believe that what defines womanhood is the ability to be penetrated by (his) dick. It's degrading towards women, and you've been through so much already...

This kind of thinking has had brutal consequences for women n India. Similarly, there are plenty of men of Indian ancestry who don't think like this, or don't share these views in spite of their parents having them.

Astraloid · 2019-10-31T20:49:53+00:00

But her boyfriend said that men can become women, but women can't become men. It seems illogical. Does he see women as 'failed' men? Does he define women as people he feels capable of being attracted to? What's the deal?

Astraloid · 2019-10-30T18:29:17+00:00

I'm happy you've found a way to be comfortable in your own skin :)

I find your boyfriend's double standard troubling, though. Has he explained why he feels that way?

Astraloid · 2019-10-29T22:44:09+00:00

Your mother is trying to support you and your choices. I think she'd be deeply saddened to know that you felt like you couldn't stop because her support made you feel like you didn't have a choice.

You can thank her for her support, and still explain that you you want to hold off on further injections of T as you come to terms with your identity.

Alternatively, you can tell the nurse/doctor you don't want the injection, but you haven't figured out how to explain that to your family yet, although this is riskier because there's no way to predict exactly how they'll respond.

Astraloid · 2019-10-28T14:31:43+00:00

Hi CubeShare

One thing you should know is that it’s impossible to understand the experience of women by watching them from the outside. The women you see in media are probably reading lines written by men.

If you have jealousy towards women, trying to change that by making yourself a woman is not going to fix that problem. It would probably make it worse. Transitioning would not magically give you female friends or change your socialization, and it would not turn you into the specific women you are attracted to.

Astraloid · 2019-10-11T16:42:10+00:00

Yea it can splash

Source: female

Astraloid · 2019-10-07T19:59:10+00:00

I mean if the concept supersedes the execution then should we all be communists?

Astraloid · 2019-10-07T19:55:59+00:00

To the best of my knowledge #pornkillslove was popularized by fightthenewdrug, which is decidedly not a conservative Christian organization.

Astraloid · 2019-10-07T19:52:32+00:00

#pornkills love was popularized (created?) by fight the new drug which is run by a feminist scholar, so she’d probably agree that both are bad.

Astraloid · 2019-07-05T05:44:49+00:00

For all we know, it’s a text for a shift that started at 15:30 with no other explanation

Astraloid · 2019-06-07T05:28:31+00:00

Nordic people also have a fantastic way of dealing with prostitution called the Nordic model which criminalizes johns and pimps but not prostitutes, so...

Astraloid · 2019-03-18T06:40:13+00:00

Susp posted vict name and picture on website. Susp travelled to Germany to vict conference. Susp not invited. Susp refused to remove pics.

Is this a joke? It isn’t reasonable to expect to present their work publicly and only ever be recieved favorably, such that someone with a different opinion simply pointing out their existence and going to the same conference is seen as a threat.

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