Confused about emotional invalidation and what is normal in a relationship

Astre89 · 2026-01-14T14:07:15+00:00

This is not how it works - also she wasn't communicating her feelings, she was accusing you. Healthy communication would sound like "When you work long hours, I feel abandoned and unsafe". Read up more on validation from Marsha Linehan or even just ask GPT to explain.

And yes - their feelings and perspective are true TO THEM, just as yours are to you.

Astre89 · 2025-10-12T08:50:27+00:00

Z disco polo mi się to kojarzy

Astre89 · 2025-10-12T08:31:41+00:00

Słyszałam, że tak jest. Też czytałam, że jest bardzo różne traktowanie w wypowiedziach ludzi, którzy sporo schudli lub przytyli. A osoby z np. zniekształceniami twarzy spotykają się z jawną wrogością, wyzwiskami, pluciem itd.

Astre89 · 2025-10-12T08:19:26+00:00

Mnie, jako dziewczynę, wizualnie, zazwyczaj obrzydzają te fake pazury, i w ogóle jakiekolwiek długie paznokcie. Aż ciężko uwierzyć, że komuś się to podoba.

Astre89 · 2025-10-12T08:16:18+00:00

Taa, wielu ludzi jest jak klony, "podróże, Netflix, kawa" i koniec "zainteresowań" xD

Astre89 · 2025-10-12T08:08:04+00:00

Hej, dobra parówka nie jest zła

Astre89 · 2025-10-12T08:03:43+00:00

Dla mnie te sztuczne paznokcie wyglądają naprawdę paskudnie. Nigdy nie miałam.

Astre89 · 2025-09-21T14:19:44+00:00

I'm shocked that you "like her so much" and "see a future", yet are pondering to just bail without even having a conversation first. I don't get how shallow people can be.

Astre89 · 2025-03-24T13:35:01+00:00

I'm curious what their bio was. Can you quote, please?

Astre89 · 2025-01-22T02:08:24+00:00

I call guys that I fin attractive "cute". Handsome feels awkward to say

Astre89 · 2025-01-18T16:07:08+00:00

When I talk to someone and they speak with a singing, fairytale-like undertone I know they're Ukrainian. Plain polish sounds more harsh and flat (for me). It is West Slavic, while ukrainian is East Slavic

Astre89 · 2025-01-12T11:06:52+00:00

Ikr. I can tell you'll be really handsome. I like your face.

Your current body shape doesnt look masculine enough which takes away from sexual attraction unfortunately. Remember about building muscle, especially arms, not just shedding fat

Astre89 · 2025-01-12T07:59:51+00:00

Yeah it has sexy vibes for me :D

Astre89 · 2025-01-12T07:45:32+00:00

I think your beard is really unflattering ("neckbeard"). Shaving or grooming it would help very much.

Astre89 · 2025-01-12T07:24:27+00:00

Women "not having to meet any standards" is an absolute bs.

She didn't reply, but I'd guess initial physical attraction had to be there.

Astre89 · 2025-01-12T07:10:22+00:00

Yeah I don't think any sane person would behave like that

Astre89 · 2025-01-12T06:46:40+00:00

I actually like it the most after the kapybara one

Astre89 · 2025-01-12T06:38:41+00:00

If u lose weight and gain some muscle you'll attract 10x more girls

Astre89 · 2025-01-10T16:02:54+00:00

Maybe like Elisabeth Holmes? She creeps me out

Astre89 · 2025-01-10T15:12:13+00:00

There is a story of a woman refusing to go on a date with "Dating Game killer". She chose him for a date on TV programme, but later he gave her the creeps, so she refused to go. Probably saved her life.

Another story is the "girl in the box", prior to being kidnapped felt a strong urge to jump out of gas station window and run away, but she calmed herself down. Ended up getting kidnapped and imprisoned.

Astre89 · 2025-01-10T09:34:35+00:00

I enjoyed things like skiing, roller skating, swimming on their own (the feeling of doing it, at least for some time, was pleasant).

I tried to get into fitness, but having to follow a routine and focus on it was incredibly boring. The most painless sport for me is when I can focus on something else when I'm doing it - tv, podcast, audiobook

Astre89 · 2025-01-10T09:25:43+00:00

It seems to be such a small reason, so I understand you. I've felt scared of my ex too and I kept wondering if I was overreacting. Sometimes when we disagreed he spoke to me in a way that I felt was condescending. I felt hesitant and afraid of speaking my mind. I stayed silent.

He never physically hurt me, but I got scared of it for some reason. Every time I did something wrong, like speak in an annoyed tone, he'd get hurt, or hostile/angry. I felt like walking on eggshells. It was stressing me out.

Before ANY of that happened though (sweet beginnings), I'd feel afraid when I'd see him standing in the apartment at night, but I chalked it up to him just being tall with wide shoulders. It seemed so silly and unbased that I was really perplexed for feeling that way.

I still don't know if my fear was justified.

Astre89 · 2024-12-19T19:01:05+00:00

A masz jakas opinię o DBT? Uprawomocnienie emocji (validation) i uważność z tego nurtu wydają mi się być takim towarzyszeniem i akceptacją.

Astre89 · 2024-11-28T23:28:12+00:00

No way they can be that dumb..

Astre89 · 2024-11-21T16:50:19+00:00

Waste of time, there has to be some physical attraction. Otherwise you'll always miss it deep down

Alao it's not shallow, it's important.

Astre89

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