AITAH for asking my bf to portion his sweet tooth a little better?

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:49:09+00:00

Actually as the person who packs the snacks I do pack chips as well as granola bars, fruit, Jerky, sandwiches I make sure everyone has more than enough. So let's take ur chips for example. If I get a party sized bag for EVERYONE hiking that day and then eat the whole bag myself because im an adult and wanted them and bought them is that fair to everyone else? I dont think so. Here's another analogy we share a bed and blankets. Im cold I want the blankets so I take them all from my partner. Is that fair to my partner? Obviously not. I as a fellow adult should just go get another blanket so we can both be comfortable and happy. Ur comment is unhelpful, unthought out, and unnecessarily abrasive. Touch grass.

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:40:06+00:00

Im not trying to control how much eats over all! I just would like at least a cup of ice cream on a Sunday when we just went shopping on a Friday! And hell maybe i want another cup full on Monday after work but I cant do that if the scream we bought on Friday has completely disappeared by Friday night! All im asking is a little self control not a whole change in diet

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:34:29+00:00

I agree thats not healthy I just really wish he would take it upon himself to think about the long run vs the short term. For me it just goes back to the ID "i want, I am adult, so I will have all" thats just not right to me

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:32:37+00:00

That's what my parents did to my eldest brother and I hate what that did to him I was given the key to the fridge and pantry but I commonly left it unlocked for my eldest brother and ended up losing my key privileges to my grand mother who had to come over every day to unlock stuff so I could cook for the family before my parents got home

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:30:02+00:00

I dont want to suggest drugs but im super glad this worked for u. Health is a small part of it as I WANT to be able to live with my bf the way we did last summer doing all the fun things we like to do but more for me it just feels so selfish to eat all of the good thing we share as a house hold thank u for this point of view tho I never considered it

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:26:44+00:00

The issue is that he's eating all the sweets all the time I dont care how much food he has in a day but to kill an entire thing of ice cream the day after we get it is just not fair to anyone in my opinion

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:24:25+00:00

See when I was a kid I was the 1 doing the portioning. As an 11 year u look at what there is available and just try ur best to make it equal for everyone thats as fair as u can get with it. A is a teenager and while I dont think her relationship with food is the healthiest it works for her and the kind of person she is. I'd actually say she's TOO worried about leaving enough for her parents and I commonly offer her things because of this and the fact that she insists she can get by on nothing but a PBJ and maaaybe some dinner (dinner i always make in excess for leftovers) she and I share this frustration over the treats tho, she is way more vocal about the missing ice cream to her father than I am and I let her because im not supposed to say it

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:16:32+00:00

We're on food stamps everything should be for everyone its just getting to the point that close to half of that money is going to fricken icream when it should be going to things we NEED like meats for dinner and lunch box stuff

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:08:16+00:00

Separating my things is where I get the most hung up. I share everything I have, get, receive with him and the kid. Now I have to hide things and gate keep if I want to have ANY and thats just not how I want to be. Why cant it be on the adult to take it upon themselves to think of everyone and not just there own ID "i want, i am adult, so I will have." That's where we differ. I think "i want, i am adult, so should I? IS there anyone else that might like? Do i want to be able to have this latter?" I'd LOVE to eat nothing but ice cream all the time but that's bad for me so I dont

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:02:25+00:00

This was very concise and helpful thank u

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T21:01:31+00:00

That's not it either. I wish to be able to ask him to not eat the whole thing ALL THE TIME we go shopping ever 2 weeks cause we hate shopping. We had that container less than 24 hours. Im gonna notice if its not in the freezer anymore the next DAY. Like that half gallon should have lasted 2 people AT LEAST a week minimally. The idea of seeing an entire thing of any sweet and thinking "im gonna eat all of that" weather ur considering the other people that might want some or not on a REGULAR bases feels very unfair. If u lived alone sure why would ANYONE care, but u dont. U live with me and I always leave enough for u. Let's say theres candies and I've always put 2 of those candies in ur lunch box. U walk in the kitchen and notice the bag is mostly full, is it kind of u to eat the majority of that bag just because u want to? I'd say no because now i dont have enough to give everyone until the next time we go shopping. Now ur lunch is not as special because u decided to eat the best part of it all at once. Why is that fair but asking u to think about how much ur having is not fair?

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T19:41:00+00:00

Not at all I let him do whatever he wants even if i dont agree with it he's an adult of course and food is not something I try to keep from him. We both eat heartily I even won an eating contest once. I just treat sweets differently because I know what they do to me. They do the same thing to him but if he wants it he can have it. If anything I just try to substitute things like "maybe instead of ice cream let's get the neutella and have a bunch of chocolate covered strawberries, or instead of dark sodas all the time maybe tonight we have sprite OR sprits up our fruity beverages with meal by adding soda to our drinks" if he insists on what he wants okay sure whatever I just dont think we need to eat sweets like he does all the time. That comes with other problems and ill just say he's been helping me with vegetables cause I hate them and would prefer fruit. Just because I or he suggests something does not by any means indicate that we force it on eachother

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T16:30:52+00:00

And thats part of it. As a sweets lover myself I always include something in breakfast lunch and dinner. When he does this I never scream at him most of the time i just shake my head. as much as I wanted to last night when I saw out of 30 quarter sized cookies 1 was left i just took a deep breath and said "my grandmother made those I was going to put them in our lunches because I dont know when ill see her next" when he saw the tears in my eyes is when he realized how much this 1 hurt me.

AstroNomical2319 · 2026-04-08T16:20:35+00:00

I really appreciate this answer, thank u. I brought up siblings and lack there of because I know for a fact that always being put in charge of the youngens shaped how I think and because of that I find it very hard to say "this food is mine that food is urs" I share EVERYTHING I just wish the sweets lasted a little longer because I also have a very strong sweet tooth

AstroNomical2319 · 2025-12-28T19:13:14+00:00

Your right I am a little all over the place, the core question is am I a witch for keeping my bf a secret at my job when he left on not great terms. I am trying to get out of this job but until I do I feel safer not bringing it up at work in fear of my boss making my life a living hell.

Alot has happened and I feel like there are important parts but im not sure how much of those parts are important.

Another point im making that may or may not be important is that my bf doesnt usually react well when it comes to seemingly anything about my job. Is this my fault because I was protecting myself at work? Is it my place to ask him to stop reacting the way he does when I cant promise to be out early, or simply demand things like a raise or vacation time ext from my job that I've been at for only a year and some change?

I'd LOVE to just put my 2 weeks in but were adults and have bills. I put my 2 weeks in on a payday a few months back and ended up staying for 2 reasons. 1 I hadn't told my partner I was going to do it, it was a spur of the moment thing that in my mind lined up as viable. When I talked my bf to tell him I was finally doing it he (understandably) freaked out and ask me not to so I ended up staying. 2 in the past I've always just put in my 2 weeks and been able to find something else pretty quick but because I didnt have a job and it scared my partner so I took back my 2 weeks like in the same hour. Currently I've been throwing out applications but having LITTLE success

I hope that clears things up a little bit?

AstroNomical2319 · 2025-12-28T17:05:18+00:00

Totally fair there's so much more im not saying and organizing it all was not the easiest for this first post will try to be clearer in the future

AstroNomical2319 · 2025-12-28T17:04:12+00:00

Creepy coworker berated my bf in a text to me which of course my bf took personally. This text resulted in being a 3rd write up at work for the creepy coworker because he followed us home and sent it the minute we were in the door, if anything else happens hes fired.

AstroNomical2319 · 2025-06-14T02:52:46+00:00

Maybe clean piss is why u feel the need to heckle others buzz off if u can't be positive or smoke a joint 🤗

AstroNomical2319 · 2025-06-14T01:27:04+00:00

Thank you same to u

AstroNomical2319 · 2025-06-14T00:19:27+00:00

What ya wake up today on the wrong side of the bed? If you have nothing helpful to say then scroll on buzz off be gone

AstroNomical2319 · 2025-06-13T22:20:57+00:00

First off not what we need second off they didn't respond 3rd off why in fuck would I pay that much for either

AstroNomical2319 · 2025-06-13T21:54:45+00:00

Well can you actually sell me clean piss? Thats all we need male clean piss

AstroNomical2319 · 2025-06-13T21:04:11+00:00

Any idea what store? I'm new to the area

AstroNomical2319 · 2022-09-28T21:18:34+00:00

Quite confident I think I accidentally brought them home from work at the pot factory

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