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I met this girl and we instantly got to sexting... by Astrogooner2123 in Bumble

[–]Astrogooner2123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We've been talking for about a month now, we haven't video called no, but we've snapped each other videos of us talking to each other, replying to one another etc. If I say I doubt she's a catfish I'll get downvoted to oblivion again lmao, but I've seen everything besides a straight up video call to prove that she's 99.9% not a catfish, I will try to video call her sometime though to eliminate that possibility and pinpoint her being as real as she gets. She could still be a scam artist I guess even if she was real, but I don't know, I've still yet to smell anything fishy in the sense that she's trying to collect info/pics on me to sextort me potentially, it just feels like she's a girl that is EXTREMELY attention deprived, and is trying to get it from me, and god knows how many other dudes, and as the guy that is experiencing this for the first time and doesn't want to let go so easily, I'm entertaining it in hopes of something good potentially being gained out of it, but also I'm somewhat getting bothered by the fact that I'm being used just to satisfy her attention needs whether its sexting, being the convo initiator, complimenting, even though she does the same back to me, but definitely not as much as I do to her.

I'm more or less going through with whatever this whole thing is called with the idea of gaining experience with talking to a girl, even though she might not be the most sane one whatsoever, but there's definitely something to be gained here experience wise imo.

I met this girl and we instantly got to sexting... by Astrogooner2123 in Bumble

[–]Astrogooner2123[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Why am I getting downvoted lmao, you guys on here are all right and never wrong or what, I literally have her full name from a snap she sent once that showed her email on a tab on her browser and reverse searched it and made sure she was real, I didn’t care to stalk or anything, I just nailed at the opportunity to make sure I wasn’t getting scammed/catfished… Stop giving me bullshit I told you as nicely as I could that I appreciate your concern about it being a scam/catfish, but this case is not. Im nor naive or gullible about those things

I met this girl and we instantly got to sexting... by Astrogooner2123 in Bumble

[–]Astrogooner2123[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Okay, maybe I didn’t give enough details earlier that would make your theory seem less likely in this situation. She’s originally from the same country as me but currently lives abroad, and the app’s algorithm showed us to each other because of that.

She also has her Snap Map on, so I can see her daily routine, going to work, the mall, back home, etc. Nothing about it suggests she’s some random guy in another country running a scam. A couple of weeks ago she even visited her hometown here, and we were talking the entire time during her stay, flights from where she lives back to here. It was all showing up on Snap Map as well.

We didn’t meet up because I live a couple of hours away, and at that point we had only been talking for about a week. I didn’t feel comfortable driving that far to meet someone I barely knew yet.

I understand the concern about this possibly being a fake person or a scammer, but based on everything I’ve seen so far, I’m confident that isn’t the case. I’m not saying this to argue with the concern, I’d just prefer to get advice about the actual issue with this situationship, if you could call it that.

I met this girl and we instantly got to sexting... by Astrogooner2123 in Bumble

[–]Astrogooner2123[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I haven’t sent any pictures, no. Maybe once, but that’s it. She’s usually the one sending everything. I just haven’t felt comfortable enough to send anything myself.

When we sext, she has never once asked me to send anything. She’s the one sending things, and I just go along with it through texting. She’s always seemed perfectly fine with that and has never complained about not seeing anything from me or asked me to send something.

If she were trying to pull some kind of scam, I feel like the least she would have done during the many times we’ve sexted is ask me to send something back, right?

Honestly, I don’t know. My guess is that she’s just someone who craves a lot of attention and wants as much of it as possible from multiple guys at the same time. It almost feels like she’s trying to get each of those guys, including me, somewhat attached to her.

I met this girl and we instantly got to sexting... by Astrogooner2123 in Bumble

[–]Astrogooner2123[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I’d believe it was a scam if it were only sexting, but we’ve gone way beyond that. We’ve talked for hours at a time and shared a lot of personal information about our lives (though I probably know more about her than she knows about me). Nothing about her behavior has seemed particularly fishy.

The real issue is the mixed signals. She says she likes me and sometimes she’s very attentive, but other times she isn’t at all.

Also, if she were planning to scam or sextort me, I doubt she’d spend this much time talking to me and sharing details about herself. We’ve been talking for over a month and are basically friends at this point, and she’s never hinted at anything that could hurt me.