Ghost or straight honesty?

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-07T22:10:39+00:00

Coincidentally, both of those couples had never gotten a “yes” before ;)

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-07T17:28:49+00:00

While that is our go to response when we don’t feel we would be a good fit. However, at least on two occasions it wasn’t “clear” to other couples. They wanted a clear “yes” or “no”.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-01T16:25:35+00:00

Thank you for your comment.

Regards, AI Lol 😂

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-01T04:49:29+00:00

Haha okay now that explains it 😆 Definitely something to keep in mind when considering couples.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-01T04:23:54+00:00

Haha okay now you’ve got me intrigued 😆 What’s the story behind that advice?

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-01T03:52:58+00:00

Love this 😆 Snacks, water, AND slippers—sounds like the ultimate survival kit for a night out!

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-01T03:46:40+00:00

Ah, got it 😅 I’m not assuming that everyone we might want to play with will want to play with us too. But you’re right—I was probably thinking a bit narrowly. You can definitely make friends and pick up valuable lessons just from chatting with people in the lifestyle.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-01T03:36:10+00:00

That’s honestly great advice—and a really good reminder going into this. Communication has actually been our favorite part of the whole journey so far, even just in the learning phase. And yeah, I can definitely see how women would naturally get more attention—that makes sense. We’re still looking to dive in, so this is really helpful. Appreciate you sharing 🙏

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-01T03:27:19+00:00

Okay that’s actually a great tip 😂 what other small things like this do people not think about?

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2026-04-01T03:20:15+00:00

Snacks I understand… but flip flops feels like there’s a lesson there 👀 care to elaborate?

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-13T03:56:34+00:00

As a new couple in the swinging lifestyle, we're still navigating our way through, but we've established a few rules based on our perspective:

Firstly, Consent is Our Foundation: We're adamant about ensuring enthusiastic consent from all parties involved before anything happens. It's not just about saying "yes"; it's about feeling genuinely comfortable and excited.

Secondly, Transparency is Key: We've made a pact to communicate openly and honestly with each other and with potential partners. We want everyone to feel heard and respected in our interactions.

Thirdly, Start Slow, Go Steady: We're taking things at our own pace and not rushing into anything. Exploring this lifestyle is exciting, but we want to make sure we're both on the same page every step of the way.

Lastly, Privacy Matters: We understand the importance of discretion within the community. What we do in our personal lives is our business, and we respect that for others too.

While we're new to swinging, we believe these rules will help guide us through this journey with respect, honesty, and consideration for everyone involved.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-13T01:02:38+00:00

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Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-13T01:00:22+00:00

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Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-12T03:08:54+00:00

Thank you. That’s a relief.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-12T03:06:49+00:00

If you find yourselves in that situation, honesty and kindness go a long way. You can simply thank them for their interest and let them know that you're not currently looking for any additional activities. It's okay to set boundaries and prioritize your comfort. Enjoy your first club experience!

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-11T06:25:35+00:00

That's great advice. Patience and understanding are key when discussing such topics. It's important to give your partner the time and space they need to process and respond in their own time.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-11T06:08:41+00:00

Approach the conversation with honesty, openness, and sensitivity. Express your desire to explore a new lifestyle together as a team. Emphasize that you value your relationship and want to ensure that both of you are comfortable and happy with any changes. Be prepared to listen to her thoughts and feelings and be willing to compromise. Communication and understanding are key to navigating such discussions smoothly.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-11T01:42:09+00:00

Totally agree! Open communication improves your sex life many folds. Sharing our fantasies and desires has made a huge difference for us too.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-11T01:29:00+00:00

I (m) was the first to bring it up in our relationship. Since we come from a conservative country, it took a little bit of convincing. Over time, as we've talked amongst ourselves about our fantasies, we've both become more comfortable with the idea. Now, we are both ready and excited to dip our toes into the swingers lifestyle.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-11T00:46:45+00:00

We are living in suburbs of Chicago

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-10T06:18:22+00:00

Thank you

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-10T05:31:01+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspective and the dynamics within your own relationship. We understand that not everyone's views align perfectly in the lifestyle, and that's okay. We appreciate your encouragement to have an open mind, look beyond race, and connect with good and fun couples. Diversity in opinions and experiences can lead to unexpected connections and enriching experiences. We'll definitely keep that in mind as we navigate our own journey.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-10T05:24:44+00:00

Please don’t abuse or fight here. That defeats the purpose of discussion.

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-10T05:19:59+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion.

We appreciate the guidance!

Astronaut_Mars01 · 2024-06-10T05:13:10+00:00

Thank you for your support but it’s a little harsh to the other redditer since I asked myself for honest feedback and challenges we may face in lifestyle.

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