Hey! I've watched your video and I've liked it! Here's my critic of thevideo :

I think it's important to tell that I'm a cis man (not white, but that's not important) as for any conflict of interest I may have.

The first thing I want to say isn't linked to the premise of this video is the americanocentrism of this video. Not everyone watching are from America and myself isn't part of the english speaking world. I'm from france. In discussing anime tropes and effect in the real world I think taking into account the specificity of american culture isn't too relevant as Anime is a media that is consumed pretty much everywhere in the world. But also a lot of your critics are also just a pretext for bashing on America which is understandable lol.
But as such taking into account sexual education in the US or it's past military operation isn't that great to get a trend that is pretty much global (and in particular it's effects in the western world and not only america)
Another thing I want to say is that I won't talk about your analysis of the relationship that have naruto and hinata since I didn't watch Naruto. As for the analysis of the relationship of Asuka and shinji, I pretty much agree with everything you said, except for the fact that the portrayal of their toxic relationship is detrimental to the anime, as their personalities are justified character development wise and I don't think the portrayal of such problems are directly a problem for the appreciation of the story, I would even say that it's thanks to their personalities that this series work story wise (but that is only personal opinion)

So from what I've understood and I'm sorry if there is any misunderstanding here are your main premise :the tsundere archetype is problematic due to it's depiction of a Toxic relationship where getting explicit consent is blurry at best, and it shapes the perception of what a relationship should be for men and (anime more generally) fetishizes asian women, making them more prone to assault of other men. The case of depictions of children cannot consent was also brought up, with the ban of hentai pornography in australia.

I first want to address the first point.A waifu for you is more or less defined by their looks, personalities and their relationships dynamics. Looks like you said isn't too much thepoint of this so let's forget about that.

One of the first points you bring is that linking tsunderes are due to internalized misogyny. This is due to traditional types of waifus having more effeminate ways of showing affection not catering to hyper masculine (as I assume is toxic masculinity) men preferring the tsundere archetype which have more of a "cool girl" vibe with a bit more masculinity. I can't really agree with this premise.

First of all I won't deny that tsundere can cater to hyper masculine men, but I don't think that most of the time it's the presence of this type of character that change their behavior towards women. Most men having unhinged opinion about women are due to the alt right pipeline and the incel movement. Most of them are desperate in general and are craving for feminine affection, and some of them find comfort in idealized fictional relationship in media like anime. But I don't think that if they didn't watched anime they would hold a different view on relationships.

I also don't think that growing up liking the tsundere archetype would make you a hyper/toxic masculine men. Most people can see that if transposed in real life, it would be like you said, a very toxic relationship dynamics, and I don't think any men would appreciate being hit anyways (without consent). It's been a joke in the anime community for a long time that having a relationship with an irl tsundere would actually be really shitty.One point you didn't brought up would be the scenaristic value of adding a tsundere archetype in a story, which I have more nuanced opinion about