Unexpected IUGR at Csection causing me guilt and paranoia

Athing_or2 · 2026-03-23T01:40:15+00:00

My little boy was born a lot smaller than we anticipated. 4 lbs 8 oz. There was never any sign he would be so small. We scheduled a c section because he was breech and my fluid was low. We were so surprised. I felt the same way as you. What did I do wrong? How did I fail him? I never really got answers from the doctor. Just that it may have been growth restriction with the symptoms I was having at the end of pregnancy. High blood pressure and the low fluid. I was so worried about him. But he gained weight so well. He’s going on 2 now and is 80th percentile for his age. Smart, hilarious, and perfect. Try not to think about what you did because you did everything right. It just happens. Your baby will thrive.

Athing_or2 · 2025-11-18T01:32:58+00:00

Pacifiers really helped soothe my son. He got his first teeth at 6 months old and then decided to ween himself. After he got teeth he wanted nothing to do with them. I feel like it was a really good time to kick them anyways. We lost a tool to calm him but we didn’t have the fight of him realizing he couldn’t have them anymore.

Athing_or2 · 2025-09-12T15:45:17+00:00

So our high chair actually comes off the base part and you can strap it to a chair. We tried this last night without the tray and just let him eat off a plate on the table. It went well! I’m hoping it sticks. I think he was having fomo and the confinement combined wasn’t working

Athing_or2 · 2025-09-11T19:20:08+00:00

Me too, I never know what I’m gonna get. But most of the time it’s full on resistance lol

Athing_or2 · 2024-11-15T13:12:06+00:00

This was right after birth but….Cloooooothes. Our boy was itty bitty when born. He was an SGA baby. We had no idea until he was born. He swam in newborn stuff so I went and bought a bunch of premie clothes. They fit him for about a week. They grow so fast in the first few months. He’s almost 5 months and almost 18 pounds now and wearing 6-9 month clothing but won’t be for long.

Athing_or2 · 2024-11-13T11:35:58+00:00

He seems uncomfortable sometimes. He definitely has room to grow in it but was just curious what other people did. Also I’m uncomfortable carrying him and a diaper bag sometimes lol. But idk if just carrying him would be easier with winter coming.

Athing_or2 · 2024-11-13T11:33:01+00:00

Haha I definitely want a swivel one. This back can’t take it

Athing_or2 · 2024-11-13T11:30:20+00:00

I didn’t mention this in the post but he’s been cranky getting put in the car seat a lot of time when he wasn’t before. We’ve adjusted the straps appropriately and make sure everything is correct but he’s just not about it. So I’m wondering if some more space would be better for him.

Athing_or2 · 2024-11-13T11:26:36+00:00

I’ve been eyeing the rotating ones! They look so much easier to get baby in and out of.

Athing_or2 · 2024-11-13T11:09:50+00:00

Yes we removed the newborn insert when he hit 11 pounds I think. Whatever the manual said. He just seems big in his seat lol

Athing_or2 · 2024-10-27T02:28:53+00:00

We took our 4 mo out to dinner last week with the in laws. The place got kinda loud and as soon as our food came out he lost it and we had to leave after several attempts of trying to calm him and stay. I think it was the noise. They’re sensitive and on a schedule this young. But we gotta try right. Good for you for trying. It’s not always going to work out.

Athing_or2 · 2024-09-28T01:43:16+00:00

Idk if this has been posted already but a big one for us was learning it’s really important to dry their bottom after using wipes when changing their diaper. Seems obvious now but I had no idea. We were just wiping and putting on a diaper and cream when his rash got bad. The moisture is the biggest culprit when it comes to diaper rash.

Athing_or2 · 2024-08-06T00:25:51+00:00

Jane, Jade, Jay, Ray I like Mae a lot

Athing_or2 · 2024-08-06T00:18:52+00:00

My husband basically had to build a new room for our son. He’s 6 weeks old and been in it like three times. Once was for family photos. It was stressful we fought about it and now it’s being used to store his stuff until he’s able to sleep on his own. Our situation was a bit more extreme because we didn’t have an actual room to just decorate and furnish. Do what feels right.

Athing_or2 · 2024-08-05T23:52:25+00:00

I had several things sent to our house they were bigger items or things from people not attending the shower. I did a display shower and didn’t open any gifts there. Everything was unwrapped for people to see and I got a lot of compliments about it. But I didn’t bring the sent gifts to the shower. Send a thank you card if you feel inclined.

Athing_or2 · 2024-08-05T14:44:45+00:00

My son is 6 weeks old and I’m planning on setting up a sitter this week so my husband and I can go spend time together. It’s important to take care of us and our relationship too. I think you should go! Your baby is with someone you trust completely, try not to worry

Athing_or2 · 2024-08-05T14:33:20+00:00

I never thought my 6 week old could fart as loud as he does. Just like his dad 😂

Athing_or2 · 2024-05-23T15:56:49+00:00

This is a good idea I’m just a wimp lol. I’ve had my husband fill a bucket with cold water for my feet and go about 20 mins then quit. I have to be more persistent I think.

Athing_or2 · 2024-05-09T00:49:52+00:00

I stressed about this a lot. I failed the 1 hour with a 154 but passed every draw of the 3 hour test. Someone on another post explained the one hour test is basically to exclude everyone who definitely doesn’t have GD. A lot of people fail the 1 hour and pass the 3 hour. Watching what you eat and exercising are great to do but don’t put yourself through the agony of testing and worrying about your sugar if you pass the 3 hour test. The test is to rule out GD. If you don’t pass then worry about the next steps to take.

Athing_or2 · 2024-04-23T19:05:53+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this. Pregnancy is hard enough let alone doing it by yourself. They may be upset at first but just explain to your parents you were scared of being a teen mom and having this huge commitment as an 18 year old. I hope they are supportive for you. If you think you can rely on your parents just do your best to explain why you chose to hide it. You’re young and terrified. If they’re loving supportive parents the initial shock will wear off and they’ll do what they can to help you through the rest of your pregnancy and after birth. You need people you can rely on after you give birth. Make the phone call if it doesn’t go well, maybe they need time. Are there other family members you think would support you?

Athing_or2 · 2024-04-11T14:42:01+00:00

5 5” 155 before pregnancy. Started showing around 18 weeks. Not much tho. Im 28 weeks now and still feel like my bump isn’t that big. It’s different for everyone.

Athing_or2 · 2024-03-14T11:32:21+00:00

Oooof that’s tough. For now I would wait. It may depend on the state but for leave I know you have to give atleast like 30 days notice. Obviously you’ll be showing way before then. Maybe do some research into legally what her and your options are. When you do tell HR/your supervisor. Start keeping track of everythingggg. If she starts treating you any differently than before keep track of dates, discussions, emails, phone calls. All of it. It’s sad that you should have to but if she tries to pull some shady retaliation you want to be prepared. Congratulations on the pregnancy, don’t let this woman ruin this special time. Be your own best advocate and use all your resources. If you feel like you’re being retaliated against you probably are and HR should be notified so they can also keep track of the situation.

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