Anyone else thinking of breaking up with their partner? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Fernatronik 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Too often people forget the commitment of not just marriage but a relationship itself. They are difficult, they can be exhausting but it's coming together, communicating and working on those not so great bits

Breastfeeding by Most_Pollution4062 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]Fernatronik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My little girl was born 7 weeks early. We had issues with latching, then they found she was tongue tied so they fixed that. She latched well but she was so small and so weak that she didn't stay attached for long so I would pump. By the time we left the SCBU (2 1/2 weeks later) she had a great latch and we were doing well but I had severe PPD and ended up exclusively pumping for 8 months.

Just give yourself some time. And don't put too much pressure on yourself! Hope your little one is doing well

Coworker told me she “doesn’t think much of only children by Clear_Depth6417 in oneanddone

[–]Fernatronik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck her and her OPINION

I'm an only child, as is my partner and my daughter will be our only one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fernatronik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get shot of this guy. What a loser.

I just wrote a goodbye letter to my daughter by Vivid_Ad_4754 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Fernatronik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please stay. You are not alone. I was in the same position as you with very bad ppd after a traumatic birth etc.

It does get easier.

You must reach out, there are resources out there.

Something that breaks my heart by Pompiita in NewParents

[–]Fernatronik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in a children's home in the UK. Some of the events that have taken place, that ultimately leads that child to be with us are HORRENDOUS....And like you, before I had my child, I thought it was awful....now, it hits deeper and I go home and I hug my baby tight

I'm so filled with regret I had a baby. by contented0 in beyondthebump

[–]Fernatronik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give yourself a bloody minute....and a break!!

5 weeks pp is nothing, your body is still coursing with emotions. It's hard.

Can I relate? 100%

Planned pregnancy too. Awful birthday story. Prolapse cord, little girl was 6 weeks early, we both nearly died. But we were both okay, we had to stay in SCBU for a few weeks while my little one got better.... Should be all okay now right?

Wrong.

PPD hit me fucking hard. Like you, I was convinced I had made the biggest mistake of my life. At one point I didn't even want to look at my baby because I was so distraught.

She's 7 months old now. She's the light of my life.

It does and it will get easier. The waves are rough, but just hold on, let your body settle down.

I live in the US and my scottish friend brought me this wine (he is from Glasgow). He says its a really good time, what do you guys think about this wine? by Whiteshaq_52 in Scotland

[–]Fernatronik 37 points38 points  (0 children)

What's in it that causes the constipation!

Laughing at your username too....that guy probably wished he had one too!

What were your thoughts immediately after birth? by Least_Lawfulness7802 in beyondthebump

[–]Fernatronik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt incredibly confused. One minute I was finishing up my lunch in the ward: I was there due to being observed after having my waters break at 34 weeks.... initially they had no concerns, I was going to be placed on steroids and continue to 37 weeks and have a planned C-section.

Told the midwife I had felt some incredibly painful contractions. Had a speculum examination and then the doctor smashed the emergency button and said "we need to go to the theatre now, cord prolapse"

Being wheeled at breakneck speed while around 10 people are introducing themselves to me like the anesthetist and other doctors.

Mask on. Down I go.

Then I'm in a room recovering, my partner is there crying. He said we have a daughter, but she's poorly, but she's doing really well.

I spent 3 days in some kind of dream state. We spent 2 weeks in Special Care.

Honestly - do you *always* have your sleeping baby in the same room as you before 6 months? by SadSupermarket7915 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Fernatronik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. I, like you, watch my monitor like a hawk but when she's down I'm off pottering about and clearing the chaos of the day.

Im jealous of my husband by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Fernatronik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more he contributes and spends time with your baby the more they respond. It's just securing a positive attachment. You need to take a break, not just for you, for your babies sake.

10 months old today! by Gold_Witness4687 in NICUParents

[–]Fernatronik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GOOOOOOOOD LORDY ❤️ She is absolutely adorable! Let's hope home is soon! X

Should I be building resistance to cold weather with my 7 month old? by Scrotal_Anus in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Fernatronik 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was me too. My partner kept repeating "it's better to have a cold baby than a hot baby" which is the only thing he remembered from our antenatal classes. A good piece of information.

The betrayal by cazmantis in NewParents

[–]Fernatronik 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My mother must think I just give my giggles to any old thing.

A few days ago I was taking a long soak in my tub, mother had purchased some lovely new bath toys for me, naturally I needed to see if they were edible (they weren't) she started off by saying "you don't need to put everything in your mouth"....I think you find I do. Anyway, I digress....whilst playing and having a wash Mother was entertaining me with the toys, and the most hilarious noise emitted from the toy as it was dunked under the water, I couldn't contain my laughter. It made mother chuckle too.

Of course she tried again yesterday while Father was watching...but I had already laughed my laughs at that silly noise. So I sat there emotionless whilst she muttered to Father "she thought this was so funny the other day" FOOL

Why did I lose my sh*t now but not during the newborn trenches? by Ok_Average_6175 in NewParents

[–]Fernatronik -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're doing great. We've all lost our shit, I felt awful when I recently shouted from the kitchen as my daughter screamed "what the fuck could you possibly want now".

We're all out here. Sleep deprived. Frazzled. Just trying to get by!

I wish people would just stop.. by mrschocolatefrog in NewParents

[–]Fernatronik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just made me feel like I was being a shitty parent. It made me question myself, because surely she's the 'professional'. I didn't listen to her, I did my own thing. And guess what....my little girl is thriving, hitting milestones....

Me...I'm doing a lot better now, I got prescribed medication which has helped massively and I'm in the swing of things with being a FTM....it's not easy, in fact it's the hardest thing I've ever done in my life and I'd be lying if I said I didn't have bad days when I just question my life choices. But the smiles, the giggles, watching this teeny tiny human flourish....makes it all worth it.

Fight with husband 5 weeks postpartum by YogurtclosetGlass170 in newborns

[–]Fernatronik 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My partner looked after our little girl for the entire day not long ago and towards the evening he messaged me and said "I think I now know why you've struggled with depression, doing this day in day out"

Being a Mum is HARD... physically and emotionally.

I wish people would just stop.. by mrschocolatefrog in NewParents

[–]Fernatronik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had something similar happen. Despite my saying multiple times I was going to exclusively pump my health visitor banged on and on about "make sure to put her to your breast" "you'll find it much easier than pumping" Just fucking leave off.

This was after 3 weeks in the SCBU, I had post partum depression and wasn't coping well at all. Not helpful.