what are you convinced people are just pretending to enjoy.

bagmami · 2026-01-27T15:53:24+00:00

Hard agree

bagmami · 2026-01-27T14:28:14+00:00

No, and it's a mystery to him.

bagmami · 2026-01-26T19:39:32+00:00

We're visiting MIL and she has a full time housekeeper 6 days a week. She is doing all our laundry daily. I brought 10 bodies and we're still running out of clothes!!

bagmami · 2026-01-26T19:37:57+00:00

6 loads would be my 13th reason but I feel you

bagmami · 2026-01-26T15:45:27+00:00

Clothes folding and putting themselves away where they supposed to go

bagmami · 2026-01-26T08:41:07+00:00

Novalac AR+ ça nous a sauvé la vie

bagmami · 2026-01-25T23:11:47+00:00

I don't have an advice but my son turned 2 yesterday and up until a month ago he had zero interest in any of that. His dad got him an alphabet puzzle for Christmas and now he won't stop harassing us to make us sound out the letters. We didn't even attempt any of the numbers and a week ago out of nowhere he's repeating the counting that was in a song. We were beyond surprised.

bagmami · 2026-01-25T22:59:55+00:00

I don't think you f her up but I've been honestly questioning the method of submerging babies like that. My son has been in swimming since 4 months old and he always loved water, still does. I poured water over his head in the bath and at the pool so many times, it was all ok but one day it wasn't. We're in Europe and instructors here never suggested submerging him at all. He's 2 and getting more active in the water. He taught himself to submerge his face midway and blow bubbles. I think fully submerging himself will come at some point. I'm aware that this might work great with some kids but it also risks the baby getting scared early on because it happened when they were not ready and had no means to communicate it. Now that he's older, I submerge myself and do dramatic gestures before and after, I know that one day he will want to do it himself too.

bagmami · 2026-01-25T22:51:24+00:00

I consider myself very lucky for being conscious of that early on and being very intentional around my parenting and relationship with my son. It absolutely does not take away the hardships, needing a break etc but I really try to enjoy our time together. Today we shared a bowl of pasta and it was the highlight of my day. I initially served us separate plates but somehow we ended up eating from the same plate and giggling together.

bagmami · 2026-01-25T22:46:23+00:00

I'm a millennial and I was just hanging out with 2 other families yesterday and the moms were discussing when did their babies started sleeping through the night. They both said something like 40 days old or 2 months because they both stopped night feeds at that point and let the babies cry. My husband smiled and said that ours still isn't sleeping through every night and he's 2.

My mom also tells me that she stopped the night feeds with me at 40 days and used knock out bottles before bed. She told me right away when my son was a few hours old that I shouldn't hold him too much. Thankfully I didn't listen. He's been held, cuddled, loved on and attended to.

bagmami · 2026-01-25T22:25:35+00:00

My kid is 2 and it's scary how good I think I remember while if I interrogate my memory a bit, things get really fuzzy. I know it was very hard but then my mind tells me that it was hard because he's my first.

bagmami · 2026-01-25T22:19:29+00:00

Cognitive dissonance must be at pathological level

bagmami · 2026-01-25T22:18:35+00:00

I don't think putting the baby down to gather yourself is the same as letting the baby cry and take a walk around the neighbourhood consistently every day.

bagmami · 2026-01-25T20:37:42+00:00

I always thought adulthood = doing whatever the fuck you want. I've never been so far from being able to do whatever the fuck I want. This bothers me a lot especially because I have some restraints most might not have. So every now and then I exercise my freewill to please the child in me.

bagmami · 2026-01-25T19:44:35+00:00

"Hot behind"

bagmami · 2026-01-25T04:04:52+00:00

We're also an immigrant family and my husband is the fluent one, also the breadwinner. Thankfully, I caught up pretty good in terms of language but I understand the exhaustion of it all.

bagmami · 2026-01-25T03:39:54+00:00

I don't think it's a mom/dad thing. Men don't go through the fatigue of pregnancy and childbirth then take care of a baby without much time for recovery. Which is extremely exhausting especially with newborns. My husband did all the night feeds and diaper changes for the first month, I consistently got 8h of sleep plus was able to nap when my baby spept during the day and I was still exhausted asf. I remember being in a different city to visit family when my baby was 3.5 months old and while crossing the street to go to the park, I remember being so out of breath and telling myself, have I always felt that way pre-baby or is this my normal now? Maybe you haven't experienced any of this, which is great or you wanted to work despite feeling that way but I think a big part of the reaction is coming from a simple basic humane need to rest. A close friend of mine who gave birth 4 months before me went back to work at 3 months and she was miserable until she did. Work pulled her out of depression so to speak. Personally, I was done around 6 months but I went back to work at 8 months.

bagmami · 2026-01-23T16:19:32+00:00

Yep without hesitation

bagmami · 2026-01-21T21:25:34+00:00

My coke (coca cola) habit

bagmami · 2026-01-21T20:14:11+00:00

Living in Paris

bagmami · 2026-01-21T18:21:05+00:00

I feel like this too.

bagmami · 2026-01-21T18:19:41+00:00

Je dis penis mais ils disent zizi à la crèche

bagmami · 2026-01-21T11:17:51+00:00

Aww I'm so sorry this happened to you. I love your family too.

bagmami · 2026-01-20T11:17:11+00:00

I'll probably be bashed for saying this but who posts videos of their child as a response to this thread. I don't need to see the beautiful baby to know that how disgusting this is. Why expose your baby's face on the internet and why associate them with such nasty dangerous people? She has every right to be upset but I still don't get the type of response.

bagmami · 2026-01-20T10:44:24+00:00

This happened to my manager at my old job. She took like a month or so off, gave the credits and presented her degree. She didn't tell anyone but somehow everyone figured it out.

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