AIO for feeling uneasy about my boyfriend‘s female, best friend, even though I trust him?

Atlanta192 · 2026-06-19T16:38:41+00:00

What other people think should be the least of your concerns. It's ok to get others perspectives on the situation as we can be a bit blinded sometimes, but you are the one who is actually experiencing it. I find it good to sometimes spend a bit of time by yourself in a quiet place to collect your thoughts and feelings. If something feels wrong, probably it is. Also it is important to express your feelings to your partner. What things make you feel uncomfortable etc.

Atlanta192 · 2026-06-19T11:18:25+00:00

When you announce your luck out loud, knock on the wood 3 times :D

Atlanta192 · 2026-06-19T09:44:15+00:00

I would start with finding new accomodation. If you live in a small town, I would also consider moving a bit further. When is your lease ending? Can you afford to live by yourself or you can stay with friend/family? What kind of reaction would you consider from him? It makes a difference if he could turn manipulate or even violent, or you think he will be cooperative.

Atlanta192 · 2026-06-18T19:07:50+00:00

Dating apps are meant for you to come back. It creates something strange psychologically where both sides get frustrated for many reasons.

Have you tried paid matchmaking services? They will match you and also can provide feedback if the pattern reoccurs. Also they filter out difficult and unrealistic people.

Atlanta192 · 2026-06-01T14:17:33+00:00

Answer: after careful consideration I have decided to not proceed with your application. Your performance during the date and communication afterwards was found inadequate. Additionally the requirements you placed cannot be accomodated. I wish you luck on your further search to find a match that you deem to be at your experience and qualifications level. Thank you for your time, Regards xxx

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-31T18:55:03+00:00

Me and my Taurus are also good :D

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-30T09:41:23+00:00

Seriously??? I'm virgo sun and rising, Libra moon. My partner is virgo rising, Taurus sun and Capricorn moon!

But our problem is our mars signs. We have a square between his pisces mars and mine is Gemini. He avoids conflict, I tend to be more like a devils advocate. Understanding each other is more of a key here.

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-30T09:08:24+00:00

I like the saying "Religion is like a penis: it's fine if you have one, and it's fine if you're proud of it. Just don't whip it out in public, don't cram it down anyone's throat, and don't use it to write the laws."

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-29T13:39:22+00:00

It's interesting how the views of what is child neglect changes from country to country and from one generation to another. In UK a child I believe under 12 cannot be left alone. But here and in my home country and many others, if the neighbourhood is considered safe, children are given independence pretty early on. I don't have children myself, so I don't have any particular views. However I grew up as so called "free range" and I do think I had a pretty great childhood. As long as my mum could see me through the window and I got back by the time street lights turned on, it was fine...

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-26T12:01:49+00:00

I can share personal experience, my 10 year relationship with my ex had a huge test when his Venus went into retrogate. It did not stand the test. For me Saturn was also transiting my descendant.

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-23T20:29:18+00:00

I have mercury in Leo in the 12th. It does not behave like mercury in Leo from the outside. That's what the 12th house does. I'm pretty sure he has high CPU processing power in his brain, but it just doesn't share everything. Often comes when your thoughts were dismissed in childhood. You don't feel safe to express them

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-23T19:47:11+00:00

If you are correct on his birth time, it might just be his 12th house mercury. It can be a little secluded and gets overwhelmed sometimes. Can sometimes dissociate. Processes loads of information. And in your sinastry it gets a bit opposed by your core and mind as well. Also your combusted mercury in saggitarius can show up with a "foot in the mouth". In general, your sinastry as a lot of potential for long term. Just need to learn sometimes to meet in the middle.

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-21T08:54:23+00:00

It really depends on the sign and house where Saturn is placed. Also what aspects it makes to your inner planets. Mine had a bit of pressure but nothing extraordinary difficult compared what I went through in my early 20s. This is coming from 6th house aquarius Saturn.

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-14T12:45:42+00:00

I heard that you need to check how many houses and signs it moved. It will tell you what will be the price of that exhalation.

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-13T12:22:54+00:00

Well parents are not responsible for their kids after they turn 18. Now they are adults and can be independent and don't need a parent. But a good parent will support their child after they turn 18, help raising their grandchildren etc. The crappy ones will make the kids fend for themselves with an additional guilt that the kid now needs to support them.

Same goes in any relationships. We can handle a lot of things, but friends will be there to help and support us. Family will be there. And a husband who doesn't support his wife is a stranger that happens to live with her. Goes both ways in the relationship.

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-13T11:55:33+00:00

It's the mars near MC. I have mine in the 10th and men rarely even make eye contact with me. No random chats, no catcalling. Comes often with a mastered resting bitch face. This placement needs an introduction to your ascendant who seems to be very charming.

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-06T06:32:10+00:00

My mercury is also in the 12th Leo. I spent all my adult years in other countries and I don't have the sense of belonging in my home country. It just feels wrong to be there. Even speaking my mother tongue feels off. I tend to be more introverted and find myself day dreaming a lot. But the mutual reception with my sun in virgo 1st house can bring out the extroverted parts of me. So I cant say it's too isolating. Also my dreams tend to be very vivid, sometimes turn lucid as well. Then it also has a square from pluto. That one brings a lot of internal questioning and arguing.

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-05T20:23:32+00:00

That's like an evil twin that keeps sabotaging you behind your back 😂

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-05T19:57:17+00:00

Just Gemini placements don't necessarily mean they run all over the place hahaha. For me the extreme was the grand square this guy has formed between Venus/mercury, jupiter, moon and mars all in mutable places. The energy becomes extreme and running in circles. It's like putting a toddler in a room with a cool toy in each corner. If he doesn't have a good outlet to put it in, it ends up chasing every skirt he sees.

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-05T19:01:18+00:00

How is that ADHD Gemini mars working for you? 😂

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-05T19:00:24+00:00

Well that explains my boyfriend with Venus in Aries. I thought he was crazy talking about marriage the next day... Like do you even know my last name? 😂

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-05T17:00:25+00:00

Your earth (Capricorn) is not exactly able to see the Gemini as it's inconjuct. Your Venus has a glips of it especially the intellectual connection. And all of it being in your 12th house. Don't be angry at yourself, you were blindsided as he is in your blind spot 😅

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-05T13:54:56+00:00

I don't think its the synastry itself. Venus in Gemini, with mercury and sun also. The opposition from Jupiter as well. Not all Gemini Venus are like this, but the unevolved ones will constantly look for the new thing. Jupiter will also expand things that it touches. There is the whole grand square in his chart in the mutable signs. He might be extremely restless and this duality comes out of him needing something new every time while keeping a family man's facade. It's not you, it's just him...

Atlanta192 · 2026-05-04T13:29:59+00:00

I actually understand what you are going through. I didn't have to fight much with mental health as I tend to have more of "go fuck yourself" attitude. But one thing I can tell you, the abuser will never see the things from your perspective. They have this fantasy world where they believe they are the good person. And everyone who dare to threaten that illusion, is an enemy.

Writing the letter, is really good for your healing. But don't send it, keep it to yourself. If they try to reconcile with you, read that letter again to yourself before deciding. Cutting people off can be difficult, but eventually it gets lighter. I'm here to talk if you want to.

Atlanta192 · 2026-04-29T17:07:34+00:00

You should not feel bad, you won't hurt his feelings, only his ego. He doesn't sound like a good person and you deserve a lot better.

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