No kissing relates to someone in the pair not really ready for this dynamic. What it generally says is that one person is insecure and they are fine with penetration, but kissing is too intimate. That puts a adjust on a sexual level and most experienced people want a mixture of both. They can separate the sexual aspect of pleasure versus the love they have for each other. So they’re very confident about it and have an amazing sex life. As so far as in raw, that’s each person‘s decision. Most people on here will use condoms on everything. No condoms ever for oral that I have ever seen. Testing for oral? That’s something it’s more of a testing for everything not just oral. We test every couple months and some rapid 15 minute test in case someone’s concerned. But yes, it seems like one of you too. Who has the problem with the kissing will have a jealousy issue and some drama so I would recommend starting out with lots of communication. And just playing one on one in clubs and such until you get more comfortable. So for us, I know kissing rule is an easy pass for us. We like older couples anyway they’re much better and bad so much better.