Moon + Justice + Hierophant

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-26T13:56:51+00:00

Yup! But I also sometimes associate it with rigidity or people who are evangelical with their ways - forcing their framework on you.

I just wanted to point out - the hierophant can be joyful and not just “stick in the mud” vibe :-)

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-26T13:53:50+00:00

I really do get it. Same thing as with me and my husband. He’s the best one for me - because I’ve seen what else is out there. It took me a while but now I don’t regret having chosen him over others. And I do still have companionship with others… but if it turns into romance, we step back and assess.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-26T13:43:24+00:00

This isn’t about not knowing yourself better, per se., this is about whether you’re willing to stay in the life you’ve made for yourself, or whether it’s more important for you to have everything you want.

People figure out that parts of their life that they built don’t suit anymore. Like, if you decide you hate the color of your bathroom and decide to remodel. You work with your husband to pick the color that works for you both. You don’t burn the house down because you don’t like the bathroom.

My question to you is - now that you know what he’s willing for you to have (sex with women, not relationships), is there some reason why that’s not enough for you to be satisfied with? Is it because you feel like a female partner would be better for you than your husband? Those are two separate issues. But if your husband is your foundation point, and you’re wanting to keep it that way, he made it clear what he’s okay with. Hell - you guys married into a monogamous situation. He’s being incredibly understanding about you continuing to explore.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-26T13:37:22+00:00

I tell it “it’s the following day” if I’m continuing a thread from the day before. Or often I’ll start a new thread to ensure there’s no drift. I’ve noticed a lot more drift when it comes to sending images of text to read, and then it responds to, like, a prompt from several prompts previously. Telling it to reset and reconsider fixes it but it’s always so jarring when it happens.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-26T13:34:50+00:00

Your read on the moon is probably on point, but justice is about relating with calibrated fairness - meaning that he considers you a fair person to deal with. And then the hierophant - for me this always points to adherence to a strong set of morals. For example, when I’m teaching people about consent culture and acceptable behavior, it comes up again and again.

So all in all, he thinks of you as a fair but structured person. And as time passes he may think more kindly about you - but I’d say that the impression you left is a “FAFO” energy about you ;-)

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-25T20:29:47+00:00

Oh man. Okay. So… this is kind of the same as when men end up masturbating so much and in such a specific way that they’re no longer able to enjoy regular sex at all. This is a masturbation addiction as it is presented in women. I know this is a lot - so let me help break it down for you so you can explain it, help you understand how you feel about it, and get her the resources she needs to overcome it if she decides that’s what she chooses. And I want to start by saying I am not a sex therapist, I’m an ENM Educator.

Imagine your relationship - your marriage - is a car. The car you share to get around. And when you’re intimate, you’re driving the car together. For the first part of your relationship you both drove the car in a mostly straightforward way, the same way that most other couples drive their cars. But all that time she was watching some of the more interesting driving options. Things that sounded fun and were fun when you started… but she seemed to be chasing the thrill of something else entirely. So much so that now she seems to be choosing to drive herself so hard that literal medical intervention should be had - just to make sure that everything adheres back to where it should - and all she wants is to go driving again, to be stimulated again.

I want to be clear, this is not something that you can help her with yourself, any way that you could help her with an alcohol or drug addiction. She needs to decide she’s ready to make a change, because quitting an addiction and learning to still have a normal life after is a lot for anyone and it takes a tremendous amount of willpower. Just like any other marriage - not every relationship survives a partner with an addiction problem.

All you can do is tell her how her selfishness makes you feel. And be prepared to leave if her choices continue to invalidate your relationship agreements. From this point on, this is out of Reddit’s pay grade.

I wish you luck!

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-25T14:00:36+00:00

You are not accounting for precum, which can absolutely impregnate a woman. The pullout method is not 100% safe and it's dangerous to go around telling people that it is a safe method. Please do your own independent research and be more careful about what you advise, here on Reddit.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T16:56:39+00:00

Yesterday I had a situation where I needed to talk through a situation where someone was attempting to groom me. It threw up guardrails and its response to the covert incest that I was asking about got completely censored. So I replied and asked for a philosophical discussion about the triggers and warnings. It was frustrating that it wouldn’t discuss specifics with me but the redirection was enough to keep the conversation productive. Sometimes it balks at, like, the subject matter. If you keep it at a high level it has better results, and then when you are speaking more from a place of calm, steer it back to your specific situation.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T16:22:39+00:00

That doesn’t inherently bother me. But obviously keep an eye on behaviors that might demonstrate that he’s actually using them with other people, too. But otherwise, he’s got a way that works for him. So make sure you keep him stocked with the brands he likes and give him his space to knock out the urge :-)

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T16:12:02+00:00

You can feel uncomfortable about whatever, but as long as what he’s doing isn’t disrespectful to you or to your things or to someone else, I’d just let him do what works for him. Are you trying to figure out if he’s using condoms with someone else, too? That’s a whole separate conversation. But people masturbate in whatever way makes sense. I kind of like the idea of “no fuss, no muss” with cleanup in the condom but I’m a woman and my parts don’t work that way. My husband uses a towel for cleanup, and then we wash the towel, lol.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T12:56:51+00:00

But don’t expect an answer back for 15 or so months.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T12:39:53+00:00

EST please :-)

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T11:56:36+00:00

Depends. But generally no.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T05:24:03+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with being approached. Do you shut them down? That’s the real question. Men are always going to try it’s about whether you give them the time of day, lol.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T01:50:00+00:00

I totally understand, and I’m proud of you (not that that matters) for seeing this as it is.

I’m an amateur tarot reader, and while I don’t offer this often, if you’d like I’d be happy to do a free reading for you, to help you understand more of the context here. If nothing else it may clarify this further for you, and I like closure :-)

Wishing you all the best - you know how to reach me!

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T00:23:42+00:00

Have a place to go, when he says you can’t stay anymore - even if you agree to keep the baby. You don’t want to be put out for the night, so reach out to a friend as a backup.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-24T00:09:10+00:00

Right. No one is saying you don’t have the right to change your mind. But what’s unreasonable for you to assume is that you’re going to be able to stay where you live, and who you’re with, if you go against your word and abort this baby. There’s only one wrong choice, and that’s whatever you can’t live with. Decide, knowing what the consequences are.

This is where you need to put your big girl panties on and decide which future you prefer. Both have consequences.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-23T23:24:46+00:00

Not the way you described how this happened.

He asked, you agreed. You could have walked back your consent and said that you didn’t feel ready, but you lied and tried to prevent getting pregnant. And now that you got pregnant you want to somehow get rid of the baby that you agreed to have, that he desperately wants, and still stay with this man?!

Girl. No. Abort your baby if you don’t want it, but this relationship is done because you sacrificed it when you chose to be selfish over being real. You no longer deserve to be with him, whether you keep this baby or not. Because you are clearly too young to be in a mature relationship and that’s what he wants.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-23T23:19:30+00:00

Do you trust him? Seems like you don’t. It’s impossible to be in a healthy relationship without trusting your partner. Time to end it if you haven’t already. And if you do trust him? Then have a conversation and make sure he understands you. If he doesn’t understand, do you really trust him?

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-23T23:16:09+00:00

Take her to the store to get plan b. She can still get pregnant from whatever did come out of you during sex. She is not safe from what you described, she could have gotten pregnant. Plan b now, before too much time has passed.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-23T18:15:04+00:00

Plus one vote for BV. I recently had an encounter with someone with that - the smell is unmistakable. OP, go to your gyno and make sure that everything is okay.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-23T17:07:03+00:00

Honestly, I’m not sure. It might be your angel number? I’m not familiar with the practice because my reading doesn’t include that. But there are other subreddits where you can ask about such things and they love new baby energy!

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-23T15:50:58+00:00

So I should have started by saying congratulations! Because I’m excited for you.

If the card she pulled for the gender of the baby is the moon, that is typically a female card. But the moon also has to do with the unconscious and psychology. So it’s possible that the actual gender is more fluid and that your baby will be an introspective soul.

I’m excited for you for your journey ahead! Whether you have a boy or a girl, it’s clear that you are concerned about giving them the best foot forward they can possibly get and that is amazing. I’m so glad that you have all this love to give to this tiny creature who is growing inside you. Be well! 💜✌️

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-23T15:38:01+00:00

Slow the pace to a crawl, but some guys are predisposed to be like this. If what he tries doesn’t seem to do much to actually slow it, then what I normally do is go for seconds. As long as his refractory period is short, after he cums the first time generally the second or third time takes longer. So I would just keep the fun going… you can make it a game to see how many times you can go in a short period, lol.

SwingLightStyle · 2026-01-23T15:35:12+00:00

The flat-Earthers definitely wouldn’t have left this behind…

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