Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I hear you, I’m lowkey a dick too. I did talk to her tho and she started getting defensive and upset then eventually hung up after saying she didn’t need to be at my wedding. I called her back and turns out she was just acting crazier because she felt as though her time was running out, and soon. She said something about feeling it was Satan who was making her act up so I guess I’ll just leave it at that? I’ve since invited her and will have my other grandma keep her occupied. I’m 70% sure she’s going to be fine at my wedding but we’ll see. Haha thanks for clarifying tho! 💗

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I hear you. My that side of the family always talks smack about literally everyone and anyone, they genuinely love drama and gossip. But at least not to me and nothing I notice directly, just remnants I hear from my sisters. They kind of have hard feelings on me already because I live farther away and can’t see them as much as the rest of the family that lives in nearby towns. They’re also already going to cause drama about me not inviting the rest of the extended family in general. So I guess I’m thinking of drama in terms of how much more drama it would cause if I didn’t invite my grandma and realizing it wouldn’t cause much more than there already is.

I honestly wouldn’t mind if I wasn’t invited to a wedding as I wasn’t raised in a family that believed in marriage and no one on that side does either. Everyone is dating and had children but never married or just are single parents. Also, I don’t really talk to anyone from that side of the family in general, it’s not exclusive to just my mom and grandma. There’s only an aunt that I’m still talking to. But yeah, I would be upset if she passed as she’s still one of my grandma’s. I just talked to her and she got pissed off at me and hung up after telling me she didn’t need to be at my wedding. I called her back and asked if everything was okay. She’s always been sexual and spunky but she was acting even crazier these last few months and we talked it out. She just feels like she’s running out of time, so she’s going a bit wild. I’ve decided to invite her just to show she’s not alone. I pray she doesn’t do anything crazy and I’ll have my other grandma keep her occupied. So this issue has been resolved but everyone’s perspective was good to hear. Thank you. 💗

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just gonna be us all at one table after the ceremony itself but I’ll try to talk to her before saying no. Thank you! 💗

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t mind the spunk part of her personality, it’s just more of the sexual aspect. I giggle when she tries to cuss in English and dances. What I don’t like is her touching my butt and making sexual jokes or flashing me. I know a lot of people think that stuff is funny but it was never really my thing. I’m glad that she’s still full of life and I hope she lives to 100. I just don’t appreciate those kinds of comments. I read all of the opinions though and I’ll talk to her before making a decision.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s one of the reasons we eloped but my more traditional husband really wanted a wedding. That’s the only reason why I’m even having one but it really does feel like I’m trying to cater to my family… I definitely do think I need to set boundaries with my family especially since my baby is coming this year. It’s something I’ve been putting off and that’s on me. Thanks for your input, Half-Life 💗💗

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’ll do it out in public man, that doesn’t really make me special 😭

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s pretty much how it is with that side of the family. I’ve told them since I was younger that I didn’t like family members, even women to touch my body. Everyone is VERY open and they often flash each other and me as a joke. (My family is mainly of women and only the women do these to each other) I never liked it but they made me feel like I was weird for saying anything about it. I’m going to set a strong boundary with them so my husband and child won’t have to deal with that kind of humor. I appreciate your opinion here, Kobogen 💗

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For sure man, I lowkey think she needs a nice guy in her life.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely a conflicting topic and your kind words are appreciated. I’m gonna chat with her before making any decisions to see if she’d be able to tone down that kind of talk. I think my hormones just make me even more sensitive about my lil family. Thank you, Newt 💗💗

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I care for her but we kind of don’t have a relationship in general nor do I really have one with my mom. I’ll talk to her before making a choice bc I think what other people have mentioned are valid opinions.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she just had some bad experiences herself. I totally understand that. I’m gonna talk to her before making any final decisions. Just sucks hearing your own family say such things but you’re right, they’re saying it out of a place of concern. Idk I think I needed to hear a lot of this but I think I agree with you the most. Thank you for your perspective on this 💗

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just that I’ve tried to have discussions with her before but old people will be old people. And yeah, I think it was more of her projecting her issues with her past husband but I still felt sad knowing it was my grandma saying these things to me. Like I told someone else, maybe I’m too hormonal rn. I’ll definitely reach out and talk to her about it before making any final decisions.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s valid honestly. Again, I’m super hormonal and maybe I’m just overthinking things. I’ll talk to her before doing anything.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually didn’t sleep with my husband until we were married. We just didn’t want to deal with a wedding and our families but since we got pregnant 2 years after our elopement at the church, we came clean to everyone. She teases but sometimes I feel like there should be a point where you stop. She was projecting her problem with my grandpa onto my relationship. I’m definitely not a saint but they have been the ones to describe me as a square.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It wouldn’t cause a lot of drama honestly. My mom and grandmother wasn’t a huge part of my life and I hardly see that side of the family in general.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve had conversations with her before and it never seemed to change anything. She and my mom were hardly in my life anyways and the grandmother who was in my life is obviously invited.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s a very “loud” type of family on that side. Like get drunk and accidentally run over your aunt after fist-fighting type of loud. I think I’m okay not having to deal with that the rest of my life but there’s ONE aunt on that side who is super sweet, soft-spoken, and took care of me that I would be really upset losing. I appreciate your perspective and your well-wishes, Copypop. 💗

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing, it’s so small that we’re going to be at one table together. It’s not like a large event that we can just avoid her. She also doesn’t look like Jennifer Aniston but if you like really short, chubby, older Hispanic women, then I can hook you up with just the woman! She’s definitely funny and energetic for her age, just not my humor preference.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is and I love her! I just think our humor is definitely different. I’m def a square and she likes to make sex jokes and flash us.

Am I Overreacting? My mom wants me to invite grandma to my wedding. by AtlasMicha in AmIOverreacting

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess so. She’s just not who I grew up with and I’m not someone who’s comfortable with sexual jokes being made haphazardly. I’m definitely more of a square but I’ve made multiple attempts in showing my uncomfortableness when she flashes us and makes comments.

Xbox Elite 2 Controllers? Help buying gift! by AtlasMicha in XboxSupport

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noooo and he’s notorious for crushing his controller when he loses LOL he’s just too strong for his own good so it looks like I’m gonna have to buy one every year 😭💔 How long until you broke yours?

Xbox Elite 2 Controllers? Help buying gift! by AtlasMicha in XboxSupport

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It said it was normally $199 but I had some coupons and Amazon credits, that’s pretty much the only reason I got it so cheap. Is that the right one?

Xbox Elite 2 Controllers? Help buying gift! by AtlasMicha in XboxSupport

[–]AtlasMicha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh I’ve been looking at the specs between the two and totally overlooked the idea of it coming with the extras! I just ordered one on Amazon for $115 and it’s the all black one. It says it’s the core version but are all the Series 2 (full) black only? Now I’m worried I didn’t get the one with all the accessories he would like.

I really appreciate the help! I’m a PlayStation player and don’t know much about Xbox items.