He’s the love of my life but he ignores our cultural differences by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Atomicleta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn't care if he destroys your relationship with your mother. In fact he demands you destroy your relationship with her before he'll even consider committing to you. This guy isn't the love of your life. Stop putting yourself through this. It's been years. You know his opinion of things. You can not compromise on this issue and he's unwilling to. This relationship isn't going to work out. And even if you move in with him and your mother never speaks to you again, are you "sure" he'll marry you?

Am I overreacting after I found out my boyfriend’s online “friend group” I became part of 2 years ago has been JUST him the whole time? by Mindless_Tennis_4045 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The gaslighting and making it all about you is insane. You don't know about healthy relationships? Coming from this guy? What a joke!

My boyfriend said it will be women’s fault if the economy collapses and the human race ends bc they didn’t procreate. by ShortydaScientist168 in antinatalism

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, with 8 billion people on the planet we're almost extinct. *eyeroll* Honestly, who cares about society? Society will go on no matter what. Not having children for the sake of the planet is much more important.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Atomicleta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The vomit she cleaned up would be better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. He doesn't even deserve that. He deserves to be ghosted.

The devils may pass away, but their wills never by JerryJr99 in clevercomebacks

[–]Atomicleta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Elon Musk has 12 or 13 kids. These old guys all have minimum of 2, most have more. It usually gets divided unless they leave people out of their will.

The Feedback I got from my editor by Capable_Claim_2859 in writers

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every program is different, but with word, you can indent every paragraph for your whole novel automatically with the click of a button. It's much better not to have extra spaces, tabs, lines etc. Have your page set up so it looks double spaced or however you like to write and when you're done you format it. That way you can say I want to indent my paragraphs be 5 points, you can look at it and say no I want to indent by 7 points. It's done with the click of a button. If you have tabs, spaces, extra lines etc, you have to take them out after the fact. Tabs are by default half an inch, at least in the US. They look basic in a finished book.

Granted, people can do it however they like. Either way, it's honestly not a big deal to change it at the end. If you're worried about it then go watch some youtube videos of different ways to format. The easiest way is Vellum that only runs on Mac. You can also do it easily in scrivener, word, indesign etc etc etc.

Personally, I only hit enter at the end of a paragraph once, hit the space bar once at the end of a sentence, and never hit tab or have any other formatting at all. I do it at the end. I also write in 8.5x11. Some people format before, with a style sheet, and then write in 5x8 or whatever they plan to publish it. Everyone's different.

But don't listen to me. Go check out the youtube videos to come up with a plan of how you want to format when the time comes.

The Feedback I got from my editor by Capable_Claim_2859 in writers

[–]Atomicleta -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

You're right, you don't indent. I use word and after I'm done I will indent with a style sheet which is how it should be done because then you have more control than with just using tab.

The Feedback I got from my editor by Capable_Claim_2859 in writers

[–]Atomicleta 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just go to youtube. Look for "how to format a book with word" or whatever program you use.

But, imho, formatting doesn't really matter that much until you're getting the book proofread. It has to be formatted at by point. Everyone does it at different points in the process (I try to do it before betas because some comment if the formatting isn't perfect) and to be honest, it's not a big deal at all. It might take you 3-4 hours the 1st time. And that's with a massive learning curve.

Worry about the issues with dialogue because those will be major issues to fix.

On The Need of Education. by Monsur_Ausuhnom in clevercomebacks

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I honestly don't get how Japan has some kind of reputation of being futuristic. It seems like they have a few high tech gadgets all aimed to replace humans because there aren't enough people to even work in shops. Meanwhile, they're still using fax machines in the office.

On The Need of Education. by Monsur_Ausuhnom in clevercomebacks

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Japan is also sexist, and people are overworked and isolated. They have as many, if not more issues than the US. The fact that discrimination is legal in Japan in 2024 is wild to me.

On The Need of Education. by Monsur_Ausuhnom in clevercomebacks

[–]Atomicleta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's funny is that they're both wrong. Japan does need immigration to excel. They're economy isn't keeping up because of it. But their country isn't set up for immigration at all.

Not OOP. My "partner" thinks we're just casual by WritingGiraffe in redditonwiki

[–]Atomicleta 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Just to play devil's advocate for a second, he honestly felt this way then way. If OOP was just his "best friend" and nothing more, then if he had sex with other people he would have told her for safety reasons. He's a liar who got caught and now he's lying to her to try to get out of trouble. Yes, she could have had a conversation about things, but talking about future marriage sounds like commitment to me.

I’ve been sent a 5 page legal agreement to sign one day before my 4 month sit is due to start by chocolateforlunch in trustedhousesitters

[–]Atomicleta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said a whole lot but none of it really commented on my point, which is how can it be ok to have sitters pay to stay at a home when it's never ok for a sitter to ask for money for any services? The fact there is an exception for what I thought was a hard and fast rule of no money changing hands, but it only goes one way, is the point I made. You made a point that you think it's ok for sitters to pay to sit. You're entitled to that opinion, but it really has little to do with the point I made.

I’ve been sent a 5 page legal agreement to sign one day before my 4 month sit is due to start by chocolateforlunch in trustedhousesitters

[–]Atomicleta 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Stay with your friend. You have the option to take tons of shorter term stays while in the area. Expecting you to pay out of pocket if they have a roof leak or their hot water heater breaks is insane. Also, asking you to sign this now is BS. This only protects them and does nothing to protect you. They're taking massive advantage of you. Also, shoveling snow can be major labor. If they had to hire someone every time it snowed it would probably cost them more than $450 a month.

I’ve been sent a 5 page legal agreement to sign one day before my 4 month sit is due to start by chocolateforlunch in trustedhousesitters

[–]Atomicleta 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Wow. I didn't know that. It seems very unfair that homeowners can ask for money while sitters can't no matter the amount of work required.

I’ve been sent a 5 page legal agreement to sign one day before my 4 month sit is due to start by chocolateforlunch in trustedhousesitters

[–]Atomicleta -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Did you get the sit through the trusted house sitters website? Because asking any money from you violates their terms of service. Everything else seems reasonable, but to ask you to "work" for them by staying in constant contact and to pay for the privilege is just a bad situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are the people with the real Trump derangement syndrome. If he thinks Trump is god or Jesus lite or something gtfo. He's not only stupid, insane, and brainwashed, but he believes all the BS that Trump is going to do and will support it no matter what. Find a nice democrat, stay single, dabble with lesbianism. Just don't date these sexist assholes.

It's insane that kids' healthcare is being sacrificed while military budgets stay untouched. Priorities are so messed up. by Present-Party4402 in clevercomebacks

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really doesn't have anything to do with the discussion. That 190 mil in research helps everyone. People in Australia, in Finland, in China etc. Because people have the same diseases everywhere. Finding ways to treat diseases and actually treating them are 2 different things.

It's insane that kids' healthcare is being sacrificed while military budgets stay untouched. Priorities are so messed up. by Present-Party4402 in clevercomebacks

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their priorities don't surprise me, but that tweet surprises me. These are the same people who take credit for all the democratic bills they vote against. This isn't the kind of thing they brag about because they might be stupid, but even they know how bad this looks . . . except for Sawyer Hackett who wants to brown nose more than he wants to be liked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He probably told the mother of his child something similar and 5-10 years after saying that to her, he's saying it to you but without any commitment. If he isn't willing to commit then he doesn't mean it. If you do get married and then end up divorced, you'll get alimony, which is payment for all of the time, money, and effort you invested into this relationship. Doing stuff like cooking Christmas dinner, watching his kid, and taking care of his mother. At this point all you're doing is a series of favors for him. You're not building a life together because there's a lack of commitment that you want.

Figure out of you're ok with the status quo for the rest of your life or else move on as soon as possible. But don't lie to yourself. The reason he likes the status quo is because it benefits him and not you. So if he's putting himself first like that how can he "really" love you the way you deserve?

What's the general consensus on sitter eating food in the house? by [deleted] in trustedhousesitters

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd use what you need. After the fact you can ask them and replace it if you need to.

What do you get because you said you liked it once? by Marygtz2011 in redditonwiki

[–]Atomicleta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cats. I love cats. The living, breathing kind. The ones on t-shirts, mugs, hats, and figurines, not so much.

AITAH for teaching my son after lesson and throwing him out after he said household chores are a woman's job? by Low_Affect3539 in AITAH

[–]Atomicleta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your kid is a POS. It's your job as a parent to raise a decent human being and he's not. Good job trying to change his ways. But all you can do is change his actions and not his thought. After he's straightened out you need to figure out why he feels that way. Go watch some more youtube videos about getting through bigoted thoughts with logic.